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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24-45
  • Located anywhere
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My details

Last online
Today – 8:29am
Heteroflexible, Sapiosexual
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Average build
Other and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat), Greek (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I am something of a dreamer, a bit quixotic, and I imagine you are too, since you are trying your luck on this site.

A few words about me... ’I contain multitudes’: I can be relaxed and soft-spoken yet also vivacious and silly; I try to respect people even when they vex me; I am contemplative and kinetic by turns; I can quote Sophocles one moment and tickle you with a joke in the next one.

I enjoy practical jokes, listening to stories, telling stories, dancing, hiking, camping, taking my dear dog to the park, walking under the moon, literature, philosophy, theology, writing, psychoanalysis, thinking, feeling, a willingness to evolve and grow, authenticity, certain Shakespeare characters, the way my dog hugs me.

I take listening seriously...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Singing songs with the owls and walking with the moon.

Writing creatively. Thinking creatively.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm not invisible. And that I have a kind-spirit (or so they tell me).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Godspeed You Black Emperor. Zoe Keating. Explosions in the Sky. Sigur Ros. Neo-minimalist composers such as Reich, Nyman, Max Richter.

TV: I don't watch much television, but I'm a sucker for the Sopranos, the Wire and Downtown Abbey.

Books: I'm a bibliophile and read all the time. Dostoyevsky. Chekhov. Shakespeare. Camus. Kafka. Willa Cather. Beckett. Faulkner. Morrison. Coetzee. Lots of other Nobel Literature winners. Rilke. Flannery O'Connor. Dickinson. I have a weakness for 19th century Russian writers. I also like tackling "big" books, books that require a whole new mindset in order to make sense of them: e.g. Joyce's Ulysses or Heidegger's Being and Time -- the books that change your life.

Movies: Most recently Rosetta (Belgian), A Separation (Iranian), Margaret (American), 4 Months, 3 Weeks, 2 Days (Romanian), etc.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Green & growing things
Love in all its multifarious manifestations
Uhm... Dr. Pepper.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately I've had my brows furrowed over the problem of self-deception -- what motivates it, why it's so tempting, as well as how the world would look and feel if it weren't so rampant. It's an epidemic that doesn't get a lot of press and yet it infects almost everything...

I write creatively, so I am often thinking about language and dramatic effect and so forth. Finding the right word -- like slipping your foot into a well-worn sandal...

Also, I am currently in the midst of an analysis, so I spend a lot of time pondering my foibles and quirks, thinking more deeply about the dynamics that make me *me*, trying to catch sight of and explore my deepest desires and deepest griefs -- the essential ones, the ones buried deep down out of sight -- "where the wild things are."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
As I mentioned before, singing songs with the owls and walking with the moon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't have a cell phone, for quality of life reasons.

I am probably anachronistic, born in the wrong era...
You should message me if
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I am looking for genuine connection and real presence. Someone wise and kind-hearted, creative and vivifying. Someone blooming even if bruised by life...