It's sort of like a bizarre Cyber Sadie Hawkins dance with the horn dog guys lined up on one wall, trying their best to convince the ladies they are the 'successful and stable guy' they have been searching for their entire lives...and on the other wall the ladies trying their best to sort thru the voluminous bulls**t spewed by the guys trying to say what the ladies in waiting want to hear. I can totally sympathize with what you ladies go through on a site like this. I am on here to find one special lady and to get off this site hopefully never to return!
What I am after...a lady who is my best friend who I also happen to have great physical chemistry with. That's it. Not interested in FWB, booty calls, etc. I'd rather just keep myself busy until I find that special someone whose mind body and spirit I adore. A lukewarm connection is *definitely not* what I am after. I'll just put what I agree with out there, and if it resonates I'd love to hear from you.
Education: A degreed intellect is a great accomplishment, but there is a balance of book knowledge and street smarts that seems to be best suited in practical application in day to day life. Being smart is awesome. Having a beautiful spirit is the only thing that tops that in my book.
Politics: Since both political parties have sold us down the river, I don't favor one criminal element over another. That said, an extremist in either direction wouldn't be my choice to hang out with, particularly a Neocon right wing type (shudder)
God/Religion: I strongly believe in God/a higher power. It really is what is in your heart that counts at the end of the day. I believe life is a spiritual battle, and without God in your life you're going to lose.
Personality: When someone is rude to the waiter and talks smack about everyone they've ever been in a relationship with, that says more about them...and it iddn't good. I own the choices I have made in life and my part in them, even the ones that didn't end so well. I have seen honor in what most consider low places in life and vice versa. Respect for others is important.
Physicality/Type: Everyone has a type they generally prefer, and for me that gravitates toward slender, petite girlie girl type not over 5-7 tall...generally speaking. If she has some tomboy in her, that is cool too, though I do adore a lady with pretty hands and feet (just can't help it) She's not a goody two shoes and not a lush, not a total Hippie and not a total Yuppie. Balanced.
Sexuality: I have a nice pleasing and sensual sense of touch, and I want the same in my partner. Call me crazy, but I'm not into biting, scratching, whips and chains, etc. Not Metro at all. Not in a rush to get to the main event, I like to adore a woman's body, caress her and make her feel papmered and relaxed with no cares in the world in those sweet moments, as I would hope she would want me to feel.
Music: All over the map. Play what you like and I'll probably like it too.
Social life: Having one is Good! Being with friends and meeting new people is stimulating on many levels and I love watching my partner's spontaneity in the way she handles life's impromptu moments. I BBQ like a pro, have pit master experience and love to cook and have guests over or visit friends a few times a month.
My basic philosophy of life: There are 2 kinds of people, those that take the wrongs done to them and accept them as part of what forged them into the active productive person they are, and those that take those wrongs and perpetrate them on others in myriad passive/aggressive ways. Everyone has been wronged...but not all are victims.
Now, I know this is L.A. and all, so I need to specify that I do go fishing once in a while. I don't hunt with guns or club baby seals, but yes, I go on ocean boats and come back with fresh fish, and I enjoy it. Some women equate that with barbarism. Grrr. I'm such an animal.
I write music https://soundcloud.com/carls-tunes/julia