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34 M Gainesville, FL

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Last Online
Today – 6:10am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
Fun stuff in a moment, but first, my new request:

Be bold. I won't be the first to contact you. Historically, I've found that things tend to go much better in my dating life when the woman expresses interest first, online or otherwise. Not sure why that is, but I've decided to play to my strength. Besides, if a woman has the confidence to make her interest known first, it's usually a huge turn-on. The sexiest woman I ever dated asked me for *my* phone number, and I nearly drooled on myself. So if you're interested, shoot me an e-mail.

FUN STUFF! When we sit side by side you'll have to be on my right because my left ear doesn't work (never has). As I grow comfortable around you my stories will get longer and I'll quote movies too much. I'm insightful, ask intelligent questions and will make you feel as interesting as you are.

Hopefully you'll think I'm interesting too.

I'm ambitious. I value criticism but I'm a glutton for positive feedback, because affecting somebody with my words, written or spoken, is the most exhilarating feeling I know. I'm happier when the sun's out longer, love great movies, and taking jokes with friends as far as they can go, often killing them in the process... the jokes, not my friends.

I'm very confident, yet not remotely arrogant. I assert myself when I think I'm right, but will admit when I'm wrong. I'm spontaneous, intelligent, creative, sarcastic and gregarious. I'm also *consistently* generous and kind. I don't have a mean streak, and I'm not "just a little bit of an asshole." If any of this sounds boring or unsexy -- like I'm too predictable, or not a challenge or not a fix-it project -- then I'm not for you (nor do I get you, or the many girls like you).

Who I'm looking for: You're not just bright, but clever. You often challenge the way I think, and you make me laugh. You're not afraid to be the first or the only one laughing (a pretty laugh is also good). You love to learn, and you hope that never changes. You're grounded, and practical (more than me, even), but have a creative side. You keep busy, need lots of personal time and are not afraid to tell me so, and when. You're willing to drag me out occasionally because you know I'll be fun once I get there --- I'll do the same for you. You're confident enough to acknowledge your weaknesses and own your mistakes. You don't need to be rich to be happy, and would sooner spend money on a plane ticket than on a car. You're ambitious and strive to be of service to others in some way.
What I’m doing with my life
Presently I'm pursuing my MFA degree at UF in fiction writing and working on my second novel; I'm also a graduate writing instructor, and I love to teach. Besides school I exercise, work part-time doing psych research, volunteer at the humane society, and raise funds annually to send eleven boys in Tanzania to private school, a project inspired by the summer I spent volunteering there in 2010.

I've also discovered a new recreational passion for theater, acted recently in an Arthur Miller play at the Gainesville Community Playhouse, and will definitely be auditioning for more.

Before coming to UF I organized webinars on innovation for government professionals at the Harvard Kennedy School.

I enjoy acting, wood-whittling, karaoke(!), dancing, board games, movies, plays, museums, and good company under any circumstances. Past activities include boxing lessons, guitar, prison tutor, ultimate frisbee, softball, adult kickball, and road races.
I’m really good at
Writing (I hope), remembering and reciting long clips of dialogue from movies, giving specific compliments, buying gifts (the one you didn't know you wanted or needed... or else you would have bought it yourself, right?), simultaneously walking and solving iPhone sudoku puzzles without bumping into people or parking meters, catching things that fall off tables, injuring myself.
The first things people usually notice about me
People tell me it's my smile, but more likely it's the dynamite strapped to my chest.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books: Straight Man (Russo), Fight Club (Palahniuk), Great Gatsby (Fitzgerald), First Light (Baxter). Lolita (Nabokov).

Recent books: Lots of Shakespeare. Stories by Amy Hempel, William Trevor, and Julia Slavin. Last King of Scotland, Disgraced, Heart of Darkness, The Big Sleep, Legacy of Ashes (about the CIA), The Looming Tower (about al-Qaida), What Was Asked Of Us (about the Iraq War), Play It As It Lays (Didion), Dracula, Anna Karenina, The Bush Tragedy, The Coldest Winter Ever (Souljah)... that's enough. Also lots and lots of books I never finish.

News: Slate and Time. And my new brain crush Rachel Maddow.

TV: The Wire, West Wing, Sports Night, Sopranos (my home town!), Six Feet Under, Scrubs, Dexter, The Office, Seinfeld, American Idol tryouts, Jersey Shore (!) and my latest love, Breaking Bad -- the Season 2 finale made me cry (but cry in a totally manly way).

Movies: Fight Club, Pulp Fiction, Heat, Nolan's Batman trilogy, LA Confidential, 40 Year Old Virgin, Terminator (numero uno).

Food: english muffins with PB&J, Indian lunch buffet, Peshawari naan, Clif Bars, cereal, most shrimp dishes. Dunno. Kinda eat everything.

Music: Whatever is fun to sing along with, so pretty mainstream.
The six things I could never do without
1. DVD player
2. a good therapist
3. e-mail
4. a creative outlet
5. inspiration
6. unattended dogs tethered to parking meters (awaiting my lavish affection)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why you're 11% my enemy, and whether that means I have to kill you.
On a typical Friday night I am
Either vegging in front of the TV to recover from a long week, or the occasional house party hosted by an English grad student, or dancing at Palomino. OR, if given the choice, making stimulating conversation with you over dinner, and then making you naked.

I used to drink alcohol, no longer do, and I certainly don't mind if you do. Rest assured the lack of alcohol does not impede my social life. I go dancing, I sing karaoke, I go to parties and enjoy meeting new people (granted, in greater moderation now vs. when I was 25).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm frequently told (not that I ever ask) that I am well-endowed. So, there's one less thing I need to worry about.

Also? I'm kind of a biter.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
- You've read this far.

- You can handle my request (see above).

- You're not feeling insecure about being on a dating website. Does that sound harsh? Think of it this way: If you're doubting whether or not you belong here, how can you help but make judgments about *me* being here? I'm here for the same reasons you are, none which involves an inability to meet and date people "offline" (which I also still do). I refuse to wait on Fate, plus the English department at UF is a pretty small pond.