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Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
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Has kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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I am a work in progress. I am not complete; I am working towards completion. When I stop learning, throw dirt on me -- I'm dead. ©

Let's get it out of the way and admit it right away. I'm an eyes man. I believe that the eyes are the doorway to the soul (I know, I know - it's such a cliche to say that but it's true - at least for me). If I can't see a person's depth, spirit and heart reflected in their eyes, I find it hard to make a connection.

I not only eat quiche - I make it, too. I cry at movies - and even the occasional TV show or commercial. I was Alan Alda before Alan Alda was Alan Alda. I'm Lloyd Dobler without the boom box. I'm three parts Leonard, one part Raj, a smidgen of Sheldon and, apart from being Jewish, no parts Howard (if you get the reference, so much the better). I love animals (especially cats). I volunteer in my community, serve on charitable boards, and unabashedly love my kids. I have my own tux. If you're seeking the company of a real he-man, I'm afraid it's not me. If you're looking for someone who will care for you and take care of you, well then that's more like it.

I like reading, writing, music, singing, karaoke, walking, cooking, wine, port, vodka martinis & greyhounds, Gosling's Gold Seal Bermudan Black Rum (esp. in a Dark 'n Stormy®), coffee in any form (latte, cappuccino, mocha, espresso, Turkish, mud, iced, Thai iced, New York regular, New York light, chocolate covered espresso beans, ice blended, ice cream, mochi, etc.), dark chocolate, tea, egg creams, cheesecake, soup, Rotary, charity, volunteering, theatre (drama, comedy, musical, opera), farmers markets, dining out, sushi, Mongolian BBQ, dim sum, proper NY hot dogs (kosher beef with deli mustard and sauerkraut), sushi, sashimi, bagels (ideally with lox or whitefish salad and onions), hummus, falafel, dim sum, eggplant, steak, pot roast, Legos® (aw, c'mon, I am a dad!), games (backgammon, Stratego®, Mille Borne®, Risk®, spades, hearts, Rummikub®), Monty Python, Star Trek, Doctor Who, travel, kayaking, the environment, clean air, volunteering, free speech, politics, freedom, liberty, civil rights, democracy, insurrection... oh, and coffee!

Now then, if you haven't stopped reading yet, permit me to introduce myself...

I have three children. The eldest, who is now in college, lives with me full time and his siblings come to us on weekends. They are the most important people in my life (did that stop you reading?) except for that one special person I'm still searching for. I like to think that I'm a fairly nice guy, and most of my friends seem to agree. For some silly reason, I choose to believe that chivalry isn't dead, and that it's still permissible and appropriate to hold open a door, offer your arm, or pull out & push in a chair for a lady. I live and breathe music, art, books, the cinema and theater. And yes, I have even been known on occasion to attend the opera, sometimes in the company of my middle son who, like me, is a theater and music addict. Fair warning is given that I am known to quote movies and song lyrics at the drop of a hat and even to break out in song spontaneously.

I love to cook (no, not just quiche). Blame it on my upbringing. I was the youngest in the family, including my cousins, and essentially grew up in the kitchen with my mother, my aunt and my grandmother. Every holiday was a cacophony of sights, sounds and smells. As a result, I learned to cook, and to love it. For me, there's nothing better to do at the end of a long, tiring day than to come home and take out all your frustrations on some poor unsuspecting piece of chicken or an eggplant that never did anybody any harm... In the kitchen I am free to experiment, to try new things, and to revel in the thrill when a new dish comes out right. I love to cook for family, for friends, for that special someone... Why dine alone? Good food, good wine, good conversation and good company - these are the things that can make an evening complete. Especially the right company.

Books are my friends, and they can take me on adventures I've never had the chance to experience myself, and open my eyes to new ideas, new thoughts and new discoveries. And I love to share these discoveries; again, good conversation and good company can make the experience complete. But then, that is true of so much in life, isn't it? I am also known to collect and read cookbooks just for the fun of reading them. I find it oddly comforting...

According to the Myers-Briggs Personality Test, I am an INFJ (on the cusp of INFP). If you are familiar with the Myers-Briggs, then you should have a fair insight to what I'm like. I can be something of an acquired taste for some people.

I do not drink very often. It's mostly out of health-consciousness, and not due to any societal or moral judgments. That having been said, I love wine. With a passion. I like the social aspect of it (I do not care to drink alone) and I love the complexity, depth and story of a good glass of wine. So I do love to enjoy a spectacular red or a fine glass of port with a friend or loved one, often at my favorite wine bar here in the Valley, or accompanying a nice meal. It's one of my few vices. And what what a wonderful vice it is!

As to the matter of politics, since it seems that so many out there seem determined to declare their own particular bent and use it as a relationship filter, here's my response: I suppose I could best be described as moderately liberal, independent and open-minded -- centrist on some issues, progressive on others. I am smart enough to realize that politics is the art of compromise and that much of what actually gets accomplished happens in the center. Someone much wiser than I (Otto von Bismarck, to be precise) once explained that "Laws are like sausages; it is better not to see them being made." I believe that much of the stalemate in both Washington and Sacramento comes from the automatic gain-saying and refusal to compromise. Today's politicians are more focused on the next elections than they are on the needs of the People and the future. While I am not sure if perhaps I am more of a centrist than a liberal, I suppose I would be choose to be considered to be a "moderate liberal" or, more accurately, "progressive." Mostly, I'm proud to be a "G.D.I." -- a goddamned independent -- which is how I self-identify. That having all been said, I will emphatically state that I do not filter out the potential for a relationship with anyone other than the most close-minded of individuals based solely on their politics. Mary Matalin and James Carville proved that relationships and marriages can succeed without regard to politics. So did my cousin and her husband (she, an ardent liberal, and he, a dyed-in-the-wool conservative Republican judge). N'est-ce pas?

Lastly, I should admit that my veins flow freely with that marvelous brown liquid, coffee. Life without good coffee is somehow just a little less satisfying.

There's so much more I guess I could tell, but I suspect I've already overstayed my welcome. If you'd like to continue a dialogue, please by all means let me know!

"And life is for the alive, my dear. So let's keep living it!" - Stephen Sondheim, Sweeney Todd
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm New York born and bred, and I was brought up to believe that doing well and doing good are not separate ideas but in fact inseparable. This belief has always guided my professional and personal actions, and it drives my strong dedication to community, charity and family. It seems I took Horace Greeley's advice to heart, because I kept moving west until I hit water. [In the interest of full disclosure, I should mention that a rather extended sojourn in Chicago mid-trek left me a somewhat intriguing blend of New Yorker and Chicagoan. And in spite of over two decades in California, I find that I maintain strong ties to both cities and think of both as hometowns.]

For nearly twenty years, I have worked as an investment advisor, financial planner and philanthropic consultant. Before that, I spent over fifteen years in non-profit management, events planning and fundraising (prior to making the transition to financial services in 1995). I've remained an active volunteer and consultant in the nonprofit world ever since, and I presently serve on the boards of both community and national nonprofit agencies - because heaven knows I haven't got enough to do already!

"A life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives." - Jackie Robinson
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
confounding and confusing myself. Helping others. Making egg creams. Giving foot rubs. Putting things off until later and hoping I'll get around to finishi---
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The depth hiding behind my eyes (and the rings under them), my integrity, my concern, and my inherent shyness around new people. Well, that and the glasses.

On here, there's also the occasional question or comment about that User ID. Yes, there's a story behind it - although perhaps not as entertaining as one might hope. And, of course, there is the positively exhausting length of my profile....
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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"You use a glass mirror to see your face; you use works of art to see your soul." - George Bernard Shaw

Authors, Essayists, Playwrights & Poets:
Jennifer Felicia Abadi, Richard Adams, Douglas Addams, Saul Alinsky, Woody Allen, Isaac Asimov, Jane Austen, James Beard, Samuel Beckett, Pierre Berton, James Blish, Ray Bradbury, Art Buchwald, Andrew Chaikin, Arthur C. Clarke, Philip K. Dick, Emily Dickinson, E. L. Doctorow, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, Gerald Durrell, William Faulkner, Alan Dean Foster, Robert Frost, Neil Gaiman, David Gerrold, Malcolm Gladwell, Al Gore, Langford Hughes, Thomas Keneally, Denis Leary, Gregory Maguire, David Mamet, David McCullough, James Michener, A. A. Milne, Christopher Moore, George Orwell, Walter J. Ong, Edgar Allen Poe, Chaim Potok, Phillip Pullman, Gordon Ramsay, J. K. Rowling, William Safire, Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Lawrence Sanders, David Sedaris, Dr. Seuss, William Shakespeare, Shel Silverstein, Neil Simon, Neil deGrasse Tyson, J. R. R. Tolkien, Mark Twain, Kurt Vonnegut, H. G. Wells, T. H. White, Walt Whitman, Elie Wiesel, William Carlos Williams, Thomas Wolfe.

1776; 2001: A Space Odyssey; A Clockwork Orange; A Few Good Men; A Fish Called Wanda; A Night at the Opera; All That Jazz; All the President's Men; Allegro Non Troppo; Amadeus; Amelie; Back to the Future; Being John Malkovich; Beyond the Sea; Big Night; Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure; Blade Runner; Blazing Saddles; Blood Simple; Bottle Shock; Bourne Identity; The Breakfast Club; Cabaret; The Candidate; Chocolat; Citizen Kane; The Commitments; Cool Hand Luke; Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon; Dr. Strangelove or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb; Duck Soup; Empire of the Sun; The Empire Strikes Back; The Expendables; Failsafe; Fargo; Fiddler on the Roof; Godspell; Harold and Maude; Harry and Tonto; Hook; The Hot Rock; It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World; Jaws; Lawrence of Arabia; Like Water for Chocolate; Little Miss Sunshine; The Lord of the Rings (all 3 movies); Moonrise Kingdom; Monty Python & The Holy Grail; My Family & Other Animals (2005); Nebraska; North By Northwest; O Brother, Where Art Thou?; Ocean's Eleven (2001); Penn & Teller Get Killed; Planes, Trains and Automobiles; Planet of the Apes (the original); Play It Again, Sam; The Point; The Princess Bride; Pride & Prejudice; The Producers (1968); Psycho (the original); Raiders of the Lost Ark; Rear Window; Say Anything; Schindler's List; Shakespeare in Love; Shaun of the Dead; The Shawshank Redemption; Sideways; Singin' in the Rain; Small Time Crooks; Some Kind of Wonderful; Spirited Away; Star Trek (2009); Star Trek: The Wrath of Khan; Star Wars; Stripes; The Candidate; The Thomas Crown Affair (original & remake); Time Bandits; Tommy; Tommy Boy; Trading Places; The Way, Way Back; When Harry Met Sally; The Wizard of Oz; Unforgiven; The Usual Suspects; Yellow Submarine; Young Frankenstein; Yours, Mine & Ours

Almost Human, American Pickers, As Time Goes By, Battlestar Galactica, The Big Bang Theory, Blackadder, Boston Legal, The Colbert Report, The Daily Show, Dirty Jobs, Doctor Who, The Electric Company, Family Guy, Fawlty Towers, Freaks and Geeks, Glee, Hell's Kitchen, House, Kitchen Nightmares, Monty Python's Flying Circus, The Muppet Show, Nashville, NCIS, NCIS: Los Angeles, Perception (my new guilty pleasure), Psych, Quantum Leap, Real Time with Bill Maher, Royal Pains, Scrubs, Sports Night, Star Trek (all series), Torchwood, Warehouse 13, West Wing

ACME Vocals, America, The Arrogants, Aztec Two-Step, Joan Baez, The Band, Barenaked Ladies, John Barrowman, The Beatles, Ludwig van Beethoven (composer), Tony Bennett (a personal hero of mine), Bering Strait, Leonard Bernstein, Blind Boys of Alabama, James Blunt, Bon Iver, David Bowie, Michael Bublé, Solomon Burke, Cab Calloway, Harry Chapin, Ray Charles, Frédéric Chopin (composer), Bruce Cockburn, Phil Collins, Joe Cocker, Harry Connick Jr., Sheryl Crow, CSNY, Bobby Darin, Dave's True Story, Def Leppard, John Denver, Neil Diamond, Dixie Chicks, The Doors, Bob Dylan, Jakob Dylan, England Dan & John Ford Coley, Michael Feinstein, Ella Fitzgerald, Bela Fleck, Ben Folds, The Four Seasons, Michael Franks, Dean Friedman, Debbie Friedman, Kinky Friedman, Art Garfunkel, Genesis, George Gershwin (composer), John Gorka, Gotye, Grateful Dead, Green Day, Arlo Guthrie, Woody Guthrie, Ben Harper, Billie Holliday, Indigo Girls, Etta James, Jethro Tull, Billy Joel, Dr. John, Elton John, Jack Johnson, Norah Jones, Israel "Iz" Kamakawiwoʻole, Carole King, Kol B'Seder, Diana Krall, John Legend, The Little Willies, Lyle Lovett, The Lumineers, Lynyrd Skynyrd, Danny Masseng, Matisyahu, John Mayer, Bobby McFerrin, Joni Mitchell, Van Morrison, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart (composer), Jason Mraz, Willie Nelson, the Neville Brothers, Nilsson, Dillon O'Brian, Phil Ochs, Orleans, Gilbert O'Sullivan, Itzhak Perlman, Buster Poindexter (David Johansen), Preservation Hall Jazz Band, Louis Prima, Queen, Rick Recht, The Roches, The Rolling Stones, Safam, Diane Schurr, Gil Scott-Heron, Seals & Croft, Pete Seeger, Paul Simon, Frank Sinatra, Keely Smith, Stephen Sondheim, Bruce Springsteen, Squeeze, Steely Dan, Cat Stevens/Yusuf Islam, Sting, Strain Busy Sky, Ben Taylor, James Taylor, Livingston Taylor, Georg Philipp Telemann (composer), Mel Torme, The Traveling Wilburys, McCoy Tyner, Sarah Vaughan, Billy Vera, Brandon Walker, The Weavers, Kurt Weill (composer), Allison Weiss, Carol Welsman, Robbie Williams, Bill Withers, jazz, folk, blues, rock, alternative, pop, ska, reggae, big band, swing, country, bluegrass, classical, opera, new age, gospel, Jewish, torch songs & ballads, a capella, world, Broadway musicals.

I should probably mention that I am a bit of an NPR addict. I love The World; A Prairie Home Companion; Wait, Wait! Don't Tell Me; Right, Left and Center; Morning Edition; All Things Considered; Weekend Edition; Car Talk; This American Life; The Story; Film Week; and Whad'Ya Know? When my radio's not tuned to NPR (KPCC or KCRW), it's tuned to a jazz, classical or classic rock station, depending on my mood.

Apart from haggis or gagh, almost anything, quite frankly.... American, Barbecue, Cajun/Southern, California-Fusion, Cuban, Chinese/Dim Sum, Continental, Deli, Eastern European, Fast Food/Pizza, French, German, Greek, Indian, Italian, Jamaican, Japanese/Sushi, Jewish/Kosher, Korean, Mediterranean, Mexican, Middle Eastern, Seafood, Soul Food, Southwestern, Spanish, Thai, Vegetarian/Organic, Vietnamese... and proper New York hot dogs (with spicy deli mustard and hot sauerkraut), pizza, cheesecake, bagels, kettle chips.... and of course coffee!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens, brown paper packages tied up with strings -- no, wait. that's Maria's list. Here's mine: A well-stocked kitchen, good wine, coffee or tea, my children, books, dark chocolate, theatre, music, good magazines & newspapers, NPR, showers, fresh water, avocados, my iPad, a good foot massage and, perhaps most importantly, my dedication to תקון עולם and my sense of noblesse oblige. Alright, that's a lot more than six, but why should I limit myself? Life is too short to deny yourself the things you need.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Does anybody really know what time it is?
Why would someone vacuum up a cat?
What happens if you get scared half to death twice?
What if the Hokey Pokey really IS what it's all about?
Mobius strips and M. C. Escher.
Where can I get a really good bagel in L.A.?
What am I doing on an online dating service?
Why did OKC feel they needed to delete the user journals?
25 or 6 to 4?
Who is Keyser Söze?
What if someone challenged the Wicked Witch of the West to do the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge?
What would I say if I was caught by Wonder Woman's Golden Lasso?
Where can I get a really great cuppa joe?
Why DID the chicken cross the road?
Why am I awake at this godawful hour?
Where did I put the keys to my TARDIS?
The Word.
Where did I leave my [fill in the blank]?
What is the ultimate Scrabble® word?
"Evian" spelled backwards is "naive."
Where is my fairy tale ending?
The world around us.
And coffee.

Confuscius said, "Among truly educated persons there is no discrimination."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
contemplating the meaning of the word "typical"
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm Batman.

C'mon, did you honestly think I'd actually admit anything truly private to total strangers on an online system? (Although it _would_ explain the tux.)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You have a song in your heart and need someone to sing in harmony with. You get too hungry for dinner at eight. You like the theater but never come late. You never bother with people you hate. You won't dish the dirt with the rest of the girls. You know your friendly neighborhood homonyms & when and where to use them. You have the proper respect for apostrophes and the poor, lamented, unappreciated semicolon. If, like me, you are a sapiosexual. You'd accompany me to my favorite local saloon for a live blues jam (I won't make you get up to sing or play.... unless you want to). You'll willingly (and gladly) spend time with me at old used book stores or hang with friends at the coffee shop. You enjoy wine-tasting. You'll cook with me. You share my love of coffee and chocolate. You found Waldo. More than once. You found all the "Easter Eggs" in my profile (or think you did). You want to explore your inner geek. You grok me. You're my באַשערט -- or at least you think that you might be.* And most especially if you have the ability to do this: [Click here to listen]

I'm the one with the guitar.... (This one will only make sense in a proper browser. So.... Hint! This is one of them thar "Easter Egg" thangs.)

"Men have forgotten this truth," said the fox. "But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed." - Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Le Petit Prince

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." - Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

"I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close." - Pablo Neruda

"He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you." - Bob Marley

"Take away love, and our earth is a tomb." - Robert Browning

"To love is not to look at one another: it is to look, together, in the same direction."- Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Terre des Hommes

"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." - Sam Keen

"You need me like the wind needs the trees to blow in. Like the moon needs poetry, you need me." - The Magnetic Fields, Come Back From San Francisco

"'Just living is not enough' said the butterfly, 'one must have sunshine, freedom and a little flower.'" - Hans Christian Andersen

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own." - Robert Heinlein

"It's easy to fall in love. The hard part is finding someone to catch you." - Bertrand Russell

"The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return." - eden ahbez, Nature Boy

"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller

“To stop the flow of music would be like the stopping of time itself, incredible and inconceivable.” - Aaron Copland.

"Without music, life would be a mistake." - Friedrich Nietzsche

"If I cannot fly, let me sing." - Stephen Sondheim

“Music is love in search of a word.” - Sidonie Gabrielle

"We sing because we can't speak anymore." - Kristen Chenoweth

"Some people wanna fill the world with silly love songs. And what's wrong with that? I'd like to know 'cause here I go again." - Paul McCartney

"I think creativity can solve anything. Anything. ANYTHING." - George Lois, Art & Copy

"You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you." - Coach John Wooden

"The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being." - Tom Robbins

"The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: Decide what you want." - Ben Stein

"Harmony is pure love, for love is a concerto." - Lope de Vega

"Here is my secret. It is very simple: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." - Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Le Petit Prince

“There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why. I dream of things that never were, and ask why not?”
- Robert F. Kennedy

"Curiosity, especially intellectual inquisitiveness, is what separates the truly alive from those who are merely going through the motions." - Tom Robbins

"There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy." - William Shakespeare

"Let me tell you, at the risk of seeming ridiculous, that the true revolutionary is guided by great feelings of love. It is impossible to think of a genuine revolutionary lacking this quality." - Che Guevara

"Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." - Howard Thurman

"What if you can't be bothered by such arcana and all you want is a regular coffee? Be forewarned. The mere mention of the word 'regular' has been known to throw baristas into fits of frustrated rage, because 'regular' means 'black' in Chicago, 'with milk' in Boston, 'with milk and sugar' in Rhode Island and just about anything in New York." - Jim Frederick, "Java Jive" in The New York Times, 31 July 1994

"Pick up the Sunday News, I need my funny papers. Little Orphan Annie and me have a rendezvous at 3:00 with Mary Worth and Dick Tracy. And my idea of time well spent is to stay in bed with you 'til the rent is due." - Dean Friedman, Funny Papers

"I looked along the San Juan Islands and the coast of California, but I couldn't find the palette of green, granite, and dark blue that you can only find in Maine." - Parker Stevenson

"You know you are in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. Seuss

"True terror is to wake up one morning and discover that your high school class is running the country." - Kurt Vonnegut

"I do not recall a Jewish home without a book on the table."
- Elie Wiesel

“We change, whether we like it or not.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

"When others demand that we become the people they want us to be, they force us to destroy the person we really are. It's a subtle kind of murder. The most loving parents and relatives commit this murder with smiles on their faces." - Jim Morrison

"I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." - Elie Wiesel

"I listen to my words but they fall far below. I let my music take me where my heart wants to go... " - Cat Stevens

"You can dance, go and carry on 'til the night is gone and it's time to go. If he asks if you're all alone, can he walk you home? You must tell him no. 'Cause don't forget who's taking you home and in whose arms you're gonna be. Save the last dance for me." - Doc Pomus and Mort Shuman

"I prefer neurotic people. I like to hear rumblings beneath the surface." - Stephen Sondheim

"I wear black on the outside 'cause black is how I feel on the inside. And if I seem a little strange, well that's because I am."
- The Smiths, Unloveable


I didn't think I'd need to say it, but the last year or so has pounded it into me that, sadly, I do: I am not looking for someone to help me raise my children. They already have a mother, and we're working together to co-parent our children. I am seeking that special person with whom I can share my life. And if I make some new friends along the way, so much the better!

* It has recently come to my attention that on certain smartphones (such as Androids), באַשערט appears backwards (i.e., left to right instead of right to left). Trust me -- if you look at it online, it is actually correct on my profile. And for those of you on a smartphone, if it seems unrecognizable, try reading the letters backwards. It's not me; it's the Android OS. It even does it to the word on Wikipedia. Also, if you're on a smartphone, you probably won't ever find those "Easter Eggs." Try looking at my profile from a computer....

OKC often says I'm online when I'm not, so please don't be upset with me if I don't respond immediately. I might not really be there.

If you've made it all the way through to here, I'm truly impressed. After all, I've tossed just about everything in there -- including the kitchen sink. Truly, I did. Go look for it....

Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects: you DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. The same applies to the contents of any of my essays apart from the quotations at the end. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. I recommend that other members post a similar notice.