Let's get it out of the way and admit it right away. I'm an eyes man. I believe that the eyes are the doorway to the soul (I know, I know - it's such a cliche to say that but it's true - at least for me). If I can't see a person's depth, spirit and heart reflected in their eyes, I find it hard to make a connection.
I not only eat quiche - I make it, too. I cry at movies - and even the occasional TV show or commercial. I was Alan Alda before Alan Alda was Alan Alda. I'm Lloyd Dobler without the boom box. I'm three parts Leonard, one part Raj, a smidgen of Sheldon and, apart from being Jewish, no parts Howard (if you get the reference, so much the better). I love animals (especially cats). I volunteer in my community, serve on charitable boards, and unabashedly love my kids. I have my own tux. If you're seeking the company of a real he-man, I'm afraid it's not me. If you're looking for someone who will care for you and take care of you, well then that's more like it.
I like reading, writing, music, singing, karaoke, walking, cooking, wine, port, vodka martinis & greyhounds, Gosling's Gold Seal Bermudan Black Rum (esp. in a Dark 'n Stormy®), coffee in any form (latte, cappuccino, mocha, espresso, Turkish, mud, iced, Thai iced, New York regular, New York light, chocolate covered espresso beans, ice blended, ice cream, mochi, etc.), dark chocolate, tea, egg creams, soup, Rotary, charity, volunteering, theatre (drama, comedy, musical, opera), farmers markets, dining out, sushi, Mongolian BBQ, dim sum, proper NY hot dogs (kosher beef with deli mustard and sauerkraut), sushi, sashimi, bagels (ideally with lox or whitefish salad and onions), hummus, falafel, dim sum, eggplant, steak, pot roast, Legos® (aw, c'mon, I am a dad!), games (backgammon, Stratego®, Mille Borne®, Risk®, spades, hearts, Rummikub®), Monty Python, Star Trek, Doctor Who, travel, kayaking, the environment, clean air, volunteering, free speech, politics, freedom, liberty, civil rights, democracy, insurrection... oh, and coffee!
Now then, if you haven't stopped reading yet, permit me to introduce myself...
I have three children. The eldest lives with me full time, and his siblings come to us on weekends. They are the most important people in my life (did that stop you reading?) except for that one special person I'm still searching for. I like to think that I'm a fairly nice guy, and most of my friends seem to agree. For some silly reason, I choose to believe that chivalry isn't dead, and that it's still permissible and appropriate to hold open a door, offer your arm, or pull out & push in a chair for a lady. I live and breathe music, art, books, the cinema and theater. And yes, I have even been known on occasion to attend the opera, sometimes in the company of my middle son who, like me, is a theater and music addict. Fair warning is given that I am known to quote movies and song lyrics at the drop of a hat and even to break out in song spontaneously.
I love to cook (no, not just quiche). Blame it on my upbringing. I was the youngest in the family, including my cousins, and essentially grew up in the kitchen with my mother, my aunt and my grandmother. Every holiday was a cacophony of sights, sounds and smells. As a result, I learned to cook, and to love it. For me, there's nothing better to do at the end of a long, tiring day than to come home and take out all your frustrations on some poor unsuspecting piece of chicken or an eggplant that never did anybody any harm... In the kitchen I am free to experiment, to try new things, and to revel in the thrill when a new dish comes out right. I love to cook for family, for friends, for that special someone... Why dine alone? Good food, good wine, good conversation and good company - these are the things that can make an evening complete. Especially the right company.
Books are my friends, and they can take me on adventures I've never had the chance to experience myself, and open my eyes to new ideas, new thoughts and new discoveries. And I love to share these discoveries; again, good conversation and good company can make the experience complete. But then, that is true of so much in life, isn't it? I am also known to collect and read cookbooks just for the fun of reading them. I find it oddly comforting...
According to the Myers-Briggs Personality Test, I am an INFJ (on the cusp of INFP). If you are familiar with the Myers-Briggs, then you should have a fair insight to what I'm like. I can be something of an acquired taste for some people.
I do not drink very often. It's mostly out of health-consciousness, and not due to any societal or moral judgments. That having been said, I love wine. With a passion. I like the social aspect of it (I do not care to drink alone) and I love the complexity, depth and story of a good glass of wine. So I do love to enjoy a spectacular red or a fine glass of port with a friend or loved one, often at my favorite wine bar here in the Valley, or accompanying a nice meal. It's one of my few vices. And what what a wonderful vice it is!
As to the matter of politics, since it seems that so many out there seem determined to declare their own particular bent and use it as a relationship filter, here's my response: I suppose I could best be described as moderately liberal, independent and open-minded -- centrist on some issues, progressive on others. I am smart enough to realize that politics is the art of compromise and that much of what actually gets accomplished happens in the center. Someone much wiser than I (Otto von Bismarck, to be precise) once explained that "Laws are like sausages; it is better not to see them being made." I believe that much of the stalemate in both Washington and Sacramento comes from the automatic gain-saying and refusal to compromise. Today's politicians are more focused on the next elections than they are on the needs of the People and the future. While I am not sure if perhaps I am more of a centrist than a liberal, I suppose I would be choose to be considered to be a "moderate liberal" or, more accurately, "progressive." Mostly, I'm proud to be a "G.D.I." -- a goddamned independent -- which is how I self-identify. That having all been said, I will emphatically state that I do not filter out the potential for a relationship with anyone other than the most close-minded of individuals based solely on their politics. Mary Matalin and James Carville proved that relationships and marriages can succeed without regard to politics. So did my cousin and her husband (she, an ardent liberal, and he, a dyed-in-the-wool conservative Republican judge). N'est-ce pas?
Lastly, I should admit that my veins flow freely with that marvelous brown liquid, coffee. Life without good coffee is somehow just a little less satisfying.
There's so much more I guess I could tell, but I suspect I've already overstayed my welcome. If you'd like to continue a dialogue, please by all means let me know!
"And life is for the alive, my dear. So let's keep living it!" - Stephen Sondheim, Sweeney Todd