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GrafK

57 M Chico, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 16
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Gemini
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, German (Fluently), French (Okay), Italian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Professor, writer, translator, teacher and administrator (alas). Playful conversationalist, life of the party.

"Not only witty in himself but the cause of wit in others"-
Well, frequently.
Sometimes.
Once.
OK, it's an aspiration.

Love games (chess, bridge, board and card games of all kinds, bar games too), puzzles and acrostics. Love to learn languages but perhaps I will just work to improve the ones I already know. I read a lot of course. Hate getting ready to travel but love it when I actually arrive. Favorite destination: Europe. My profession requires going there often. Play tennis (temporarily sidelined with minor shoulder injury). Once and future sailor.

Living and working currently in beautiful Chico, California, the "Paris of Butte County," but would relocate for the right relationship. I need only be on campus for as little as two days in the week so could commute from as far away as San Francisco, and certainly from Sacramento or Davis. Many of my colleagues do this.
What I’m doing with my life
Great review of my book in The New Yorker last spring! This makes up for a few things. I shore this fragment against my ruin.

Now it's dawning on me that it's unlikely this will ever happen again. Is my life over?
I’m really good at
Procrastinating. World class.
Word games of all kinds (see above).
Flirting on email and in person.
And those are just the things I am actually good at. In my mind, I am superb in a whole array of disciplines from surfing to karate.
The first things people usually notice about me
"He's the kind of guy who really turns me on."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Ah yes, the eternal questions.
Favorite single, "deep" book = Virginia Woolf's To The Lighthouse. And I say that not to pander to beautiful female English major/feminists. No really, I don't. Such pandering is anathema to me. I deplore it. DEPLORE it. The book still moves me though.
Favorite movie: Probably "The Third Man." Orson Welles on the Ferris wheel. "Italy under the Borgias had thirty years of murder, war . . ." Just the opening zither music sets my heart aflutter.
Although I recently suffered an extraordinary affliction which consisted of watching "The Bourne Identity" 18 times. Just the first one--the other two are crap. I am in a 12 step rehab program now and think that I may never have to watch it again.

Music? Well I like all kinds naturally. What answer would you expect? We are so promiscuous in our musical tastes these days. If I were really cool, I would only like Beethoven's late quartets. But no, I like it all.

Food? I was guerrilla trained as a lad to eat everything. I mean up to and including chocolate covered ants, bees, and bugs. So, let's have at it!
The six things I could never do without
I am currently divesting myself of all my attachments to material goods. "C'est admirable!" you say? Oui! C'est ad-mir-ab-le!
All except my bright orange Swedish army bicycle (1940s model). Which--tragically--is the coolest thing I've ever owned. I'd like to take you out for a ride on the handlebars one day. People will run out of their houses to greet us. Could be a bit dangerous as I don't know if I could actually see with you in front of me. And a bit uncomfortable for you seeing as the handlebar has a bell. But these are the kinds of sacrifices I expect from a girlfriend.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to crush my enemies and take their land.
On a typical Friday night I am
At Duffy's, the local boho bar, to listen to the relentless Irish music and to marvel at the extraordinary physiognomies you find there. Heads like something out of Easter Island. Great, big, colossal things.
Only you can save me from this fate!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Nothing that a kir royale and your fluttering eyelashes could not extract from me, I wager.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends
You should message me if
If you are a hundred and one pounds of fun. Oh, and you must have pictures. I know, I know, I don't photograph well myself. But nevertheless a couple of recent photographs. I mean . . . it's a dating service.