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GrafK

58 M Chico, CA

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Gemini
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, German (Fluently), French (Okay), Italian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Professor, writer, translator. Playful conversationalist, life of the party.

"Not only witty in himself but the cause of wit in others."

Love games (chess, bridge, board and card games of all kinds, bar games too), puzzles and acrostics. Love to learn languages but perhaps I will just work to improve the ones I already know. I read a lot of course. Hate getting ready to travel but love it when I actually arrive. The destination is almost always Europe for reasons of research and of play. I'm an incorrigible Eurocentric Europhile. But I do love coming back home too.

I should probably travel somewhere else in the world. But what about the coffee?

Living and working currently in beautiful Chico, California, the "Paris of Butte County," but would relocate and commute for the right relationship. Many of my colleagues do this, from Sacramento, Davis, and SF.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
On yearlong sabbatical trying to work on another book, this one for Yale. But life keeps insisting that I do other things, such as buy a house.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Procrastinating.
Flirting on email and in person.
And those are just the things I am actually good at. In my mind, I am superb in a whole array of disciplines from surfing to brain surgery.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
"He's the kind of guy who really turns me on."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ah yes, the eternal questions.
Favorite single, "deep" book = Virginia Woolf's To The Lighthouse. And I say that not to pander to beautiful female English major/feminists. No really, I don't. Such pandering is anathema to me. I deplore it.

Favorite movie: Probably "The Third Man." Orson Welles on the Ferris wheel. "Italy under the Borgias had thirty years of murder, war . . ." Just the opening zither music sets my heart aflutter.

Music? Well I like all kinds naturally. What answer would you expect? We are so promiscuous in our musical tastes these days. I lie awake nights worrying about this.

Food? Omnivore who eats anything with relish. Anything. My parents guerrilla trained me to do this.

Perhaps fermented shark fin would be a bridge too far.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Just one thing really:
1) "The light and sound of love and friendship" (I think that comes from a Cheever story)

I used to think I couldn't live without my orange Swedish army bicycle (circa 1940--see pictures) but now I am gingerly toying with the idea of selling it. But it couldn't be to anyone here. If I saw them pedaling past the Naked Lounge I fear I would run out and knock them off. In a friendly "I love this bike so much" sort of way.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to crush my enemies and take their land.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
"At Duffy's, the local boho bar, listening to the relentless Irish music and marveling at the extraordinary physiognomies you find there. Heads like something out of Easter Island. Great, big, colossal things."

That's what I wrote in an earlier version of this great opus. These days I can be found striding along the bluffs, hurling imprecations at the sky. Or reading the letters of Nietzsche. When I really rather would be with you. Practicing our Greco-Roman wrestling (no holds below the waist!) on the sofa.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Ok, you want to know this? Lean in close. Closer. Yet closer.

(complicated and vaguely unsettling wordless pantomime follows)

Keep it a secret, ok?
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–58
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you like the cut of my jib. Oh, and you must have pictures. I know, I know, I don't photograph well myself (fortunately my only flaw). But nevertheless a couple of recent photographs. I mean . . . it's a dating service.