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45 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 38–52
  • Located anywhere
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:26pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
To describe one's self in a couple of paragraphs in a cyber space dimension, hmmmmm. Okay, it is a start and I will play.

I live my days mostly through a spirit of gratitude, curiosity and wonder. Words to describe me: vibrant, warm, playful, intuitive, generous, compassionate, disarming (in a good way), inquisitive, passionate, smart and sexy - so I have been told!

I am originally from the East Coast and still feel those roots running through me as evidenced by my direct sensibilities and a constant craving for New York style pizza. However, the Bay Area is my home and you will also find me hugging trees, soaking in hot springs and hiking as much as possible. Perhaps I have an east coast heart and a west coast soul.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Doing my part to make this world just a little bit more loving, sane and beautiful is important to me. For play I enjoy "serious" laughter with good friends or actually a stranger in the grocery store will do as well. Opportunities to find the humor and encourage myself and others to laugh, are often at the forefront. Words that resonate: cooperation, collaboration, inclusivity, kindness, compassion, creativity, social and economic equality and last but not least, love.

Listening to and discovering new music delights me. Music is a potent medicine. I enjoy learning and discovery and tend to be a seeker of knowledge, wisdom and beauty. Going for a long beautiful hike among redwood trees and ecstatic dance fills me just right. The natural world is my temple and I try to immerse myself as often as possible. And the daily spirit of gratitude has been serving me very well.

So there you have it, my words, revealing and limiting. It all ultimately lies in that mysterious thing called chemistry.

May we all get what we want and need.

I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Using my intuition, finding the beauty and humor, making you smile, helping others feel at ease, being resourceful and creative. And apparently, according to my recent Thanksgiving guests, I make a mean apple pie.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, who really knows! Some feedback I have received: A warm smile, presence and that I look younger than my actual years.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The books I am currently reading relate to human potential (as of late neuroscience), spiritual/psychological wisdom, poetry and social change. I need to get some good fiction, suggestions?

My musical tastes are quite varied: classic rock n roll, funk, bluegrass, folk, world music, ambient, alternative country, global fusion, etc. Some of my favorite musical artists include (in no particular order): Mark Kozelek, Red House Painters, Emmy Lou Harris, Jeff Buckley, Big Star, Michael Franti, Neko Case, Richard Buckner, John Fahey, Nick Drake, Van Morrison, Ray LaMontagne, Joni Mitchell, Patty Griffin, Greg Brown, Beatles, John Lennon, Ryan Adams, Nusrat Ali Khan, Neil Young, Ricki Lee Jones, Gillian Welch, Prince, Sly and The Family Stone, Led Zeppelin, Prema Deval, Daniel Lanois, R. Carlos Nakai, Beck, etc., etc.

And, food, I love food. For sure, one of this life's greatest pleasures. Some of my favorite cuisines are Italian, Mediterranean/Greek and Indian.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Not quite things:


Ok, that makes 7!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The arrival of my beloved man, relationships, climate change, how to eradicate greed and fear, human potential and transformation, music and how to maximize my daily joy. And why are some of these questions on this site regarding matching percentages so silly and irrelevant?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no typical Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Last week while alone in my kitchen cooking dinner, I broke out into a serious moment of Led Zeppelin air guitar. These are blissful occurrences that I like to repeat.
You should message me if
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You feel resonance.....

P.S. I cannot see those who "like" me, so if you are interested in connecting, messages are better :)