43 Salem, MA
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My self-summary
Okay. Well. The site works. I'm currently seeing someone I met (i.e., shamelessly threw myself at) here on OKC. It's lovely. He's awesome. I'm not looking for anything but friendship from the rest of the OKC populace.

I am a movie lover, podcast addict (film, humor, Radiolab),
copywriter, grammar geek, and a mother. I got divorced within the past year so I am doing the half-time single-mom thing.

What I am looking for: new friends, trivia buddies, fellow movie
lovers. Let's have some fun and lively and involving conversations.

Bonus points for you if your profile photo does NOT look like someone just told you you're being evicted, and/or you are NOT wearing an expression that says, "Your hide would make a fine poncho!" (Double bonus points if you caught that last reference.)

I am, at heart, an optimist about the world. I believe that if we
each try to make life a little more positive, and treat each other
with basic decency and civility, humankind will be okay. There is a
sad dash of realism -- I know that there are many parts of the
world in which life is awful for some people, but I am
hopeful that as time goes by humanity as a whole will grow

I deeply appreciate beauty in unexpected forms and places, revel in
witty banter, and think that people who rely on spell check are
just asking for treble (see?). Fleeting moments are treasures
to me: a wild bird landing on my fingertips to eat from my hand;
sunbeams lancing down between giant stones into a warm grotto; the first bite of a handmade sea-salt caramel; seeing my child doing something generous and loving.

I want to drink deeply from life, and get to the end of it with as
few regrets as possible over things I didn't do.
What I’m doing with my life
I am growing and learning all the time. I am working on a contract basis and looking for the holy grail of FT perm with health insurance. I would love to travel more often and recently obtained a new passport to facilitate that.

What I'd like to be doing with my life:
While I'm not as fit as I'd like to be (is there any exercise that's fun? That I can do in my house?) I've earned two black belts in my lifetime, and once threw a guy who was 6'8" (203cm). I'd like to get back into fighting condition at some point.
I’m really good at
Spotting spelling errors. Appreciating the interplay of light, color, and cloud formations in a spectacular sunset. Movie trivia (particularly identifying "that guy," as in, "Who's that guy who was in that movie about that thing with the stuff?" "Oh, that's Stephen Tobolowsky.") Making jokes about five seconds after someone with killer timing would. Cleaning, when I clean, which is with not-unreasonable frequency. Procrastinating.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height, my eyes, my sense of humor, and possibly the odd dichotomy of being meticulous in some areas and rather disorganized in others.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I read "Big L" Literature and pop fiction and nonfiction. I tend to go on long kicks in which I read one author, subject, or genre - I've read all of the Southern Vampire novels that are available in paperback. I read a lot of graphic novels. I will not turn up my nose at Stephen King and think he's a damned good writer -- when his editor keeps him in check. I love everything Lois McMaster Bujold has had published. My favorite novel I've ever read is Watership Down; I first read it when I was 8, and have reread it many times since. I get something new out of it every time. I once described it as "'The Odyssey' with bunnies" but I don't think that's quite right. It does have that epic journey element to it, though.

TV shows: Love my Hulu Plus and Netflix Streaming. Firefly, Mythbusters, Rome, BSG, Archer, Spaced; anime includes Bleach, Samurai Champloo, and the delightfully pervy Ouran High School Host Club. Downton Abbey and Game of Thrones seem like two sides of a coin to me, both of which I love.

Food: Bacon, French toast, home fries, chocolate-chip and French toast bagels, General Gau/Tso/Tsao chicken, chicken tikka masala, naan, steak, garlic mashed potatoes, sweet-potato fries, steamed broccoli, carrots sauteed in olive oil, tiny roasted potatoes, cheesecake, chocolate-chip cookies, ice cream, and more. I was spoiled by a good cook in the last few years and have come to appreciate careful and artistic food preparation.

Music: I just watched Soderbergh's "Solaris" for the second time and fell in love with the soundtrack all over again. I'm a fan of electric-guitar blues, soul, funk, classical, opera, and goofy indie bands like Barenaked Ladies, Cake, and They Might Be Giants. I'm partial to anyone with rust in his/her voice (e.g., Macy Gray), or with powerhouse pipes (Adele). I think Prince is a musical genius. A bit of a fruit loop, but a genius fruit loop. I love Bob Dylan as a songwriter, hate him as a performer. I realize I have just blasphemed, musically speaking. C'est la vie.

Podcasts: F This Movie, Film Sack, Hollywood Babble-On, The Morning Stream, 99% Invisible, Radiolab, Savage Love, Skeptoid, The Nerdist, This Week with Larry Miller, We Hate Movies, Yeah It's That Bad, and 2 Homos.

Movies: I saved this for last, as movies are a Big Thing for me. The list is in no particular order.
The Blues Brothers, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Pride and Prejudice (the Olivier-Garson version), Angel Heart, A Room with a View, 300, The Prestige, Shall We Dance? (Japanese version), Howl's Moving Castle, My Neighbor Totoro, Casino Royale (2006), Triangle, Thirst, Jacob's Ladder, Dogma, Highlander, The Fountain, X-Men First Class, The Matrix, Serenity, Dark City, Inception, District 9, The Fall, Out of Sight, Yojimbo, and new addition The Cabin in the Woods.
The six things I could never do without
Hugs from my kids, my iPod, my smartphone (with which I have a love-hate relationship), laughter, hot showers, and I'd have a really hard time giving up kissing. That would suck.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whatever I've been reading most recently. What I'd like to do with my life. How I could get outside my own head more often. How I could be a better mom and how to develop the self-discipline to actually do those things.
On a typical Friday night I am
It depends on whether it's my custody week or not. When I have my kids with me, we often go out to eat, maybe do some household shopping, maybe watch a movie together at home. When I'm on my own I sometimes do the previous things by myself, sometimes spend quality time with this handsome fellow I know.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I got STD tested in December 2011. Like 55-70% of U.S. adults (depending on whose statistics you trust more), I carry HSV-1, the virus that causes cold sores. What that means for me is that when I get a tingle near my lip, I take antivirals for a day, and then the tingle goes away, and that's it. What that means for you is up to you. I am negative for everything else. Just thought I'd get that out of the way. Why have that awkward conversation later when I can tell you right now?

I can swim, but I cannot dive. Never got the trick of it.
You should message me if
You don't mind that while I am up for activities in the outdoors (hiking, sailing, underwater basket weaving), I don't want to sleep in it. You're willing to write a message that's more than one sentence long. You know what the Oxford comma is, or are at the very least willing to look it up. You have at least one photo in which you are smiling, even if ruefully. You think that getting STI tested before getting into bed with someone is a smart, reasonable thing to do, and is worth both the effort and the wait.