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44 Portland, OR Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 23
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Has a kid
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
For goodness' sakes, please read the profile and question answers. They're there for a reason.
I'll put this all at the top, then. I'm Zaftig, Rubenesque, Fat, Curvy, or whatever. I'm a beautiful woman who's happy.
I don't beleive that either homosexuality or contraception are sinful.
Now that that's out of the way...

Hello, and thanks for stopping by. My responses to some of these silly questions are sometimes long because I can't answer what's asked with the (even sillier!) preprogrammed answers. But if you're not too concerned about eye-strain, I'd appreciate you taking the time to read me.
I'm a single mom with a10 year old high-functioning autistic son. He will be a part of my life, for the remainder of mine.

Fair warning- if we hang out sometime, my friends span the gamut from rednecks to gay activists, burlesque performers and business owners, brewers to drag queens. You'll need to be okay with that.
*special note- I really do mean that some of my friends, GOOD friends, span the LGBTQ rainbow. If you think homosexuality is an offense to God, or that sexual orientation defines a human being, kindly pass me by. This is not a subject I can "agree to disagree" on. Thank you, and now back to your regularly scheduled profile.

I enjoy making people happy - often it's so simple to make someone's day better.
I deeply miss being a partner, lover and friend. I can't help but notice that when there's someone you care about to share your joys with, the joy is so much greater.

To be clear, I'm not looking to get married. I'm not against it, exactly, but it's not what I want for the foreseeable future. My life is pretty full and complete, but I want more than a fuck buddy to share it with. And I'd prefer to share it with someone who's part nerd, rather than someone who's partnered.

The best things I've found about being in your 40's- you know your own mind, strengths, faults and desires. No games, no guessing.
As the saying goes, old enough to know better, young enough not to care.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being a present, engaged parent is my priority in life. I've changed my entire life to accomplish this. I cook with skill and passion; I also do home care for seniors with disabilities, some restaurant consulting and pull odd jobs for an ethnic-specialty catering group. I play with my son and am grateful for everyday I can. I'm here because friends and lovers don't usually just fall into your lap, and I've met some interesting people. And I'm just not a quitter. Hope springs eternal!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Loving, creative solutions and singing in the car. Doing the voices in bedtime stories. Saying "please" and "thank you".
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a big, tall woman. Hard to miss!
Ive been told I have a pretty mouth. Without a banjo chorus.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read. A lot. Actual books. I have a well-used library card. Lots of fiction of various types, some history, an occasional biography, and cookbooks. Movies- too many to list. TV show- I haven't had TV or watched current programming since 2010. So if I hear about a series I might like, I'll check it out from the library so I can watch the whole thing without commercials or waiting in between to see what happens next. Music - I don't like everything, but a lot. I change stations a lot. l confess a weakness for 80's hair metal (Dee Snyders syndicated HOH show on Sunday mornings is always fun). Enjoy opera and classical, especially live. But you'll usually find me doing housecleaning karaoke to 80's & 90's stuff :) Blues, EDM, older jazz, older country, 70's Brit punk, Latin, reggae and current "alternative" are all styles I like. As far as food - there's not much that I can't make. I have favorite places for dim sum and pho. I enjoy trying new places as much as trying new recipes and new ingredients. If I didn't have a budget you might find me buying out the cheese shop in Whole Foods or the fish market at Uwajimayas. Crave my mom's gnocchi in the dead of winter... could eat oysters and dry-aged ribeyes and ripe berries and summer sweet peaches forever.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Obviously, you can exist with only food, water, shelter. These are things I would not want to LIVE without. My son. A sense of purpose. My senses - taste, touch, smell, sound, sight. Intimacy. Books. Music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why people think autism is catching.
When's the next den meeting?
How did we manage to reelect a governing body with an 11% approval rating?
The difficulties of my schedule as it relates to meeting someone to share my life and my love with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In a relatively new turn, I now get to spend my Friday nights and most weekends with my son. I spent much of his early childhood working ridiculous corporate chef hours, so this really great. Movies, board games and quality family time. We go on scout trips, we go to OMSI, to parks, rivers, the beach...Might be boring to some, but it's pretty wonderful to me :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I really miss being the little spoon.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're not in a tearing hurry to meet up and jump into bed.
You can be serious, but don't take yourself too seriously. I love to laugh, and I laugh a lot!
If you enjoy being cared for but don't NEED to be.
I'm nowhere near dark chocolate, but am not vanilla, either. If you understand that statement, and are of a similar mind.
*Note that I am not a paying profiler on OKC, and as such, cannot just look you up if you've "liked" me. Just say "Hi". I won't bite. Much.