I'm a polyamorous person into gardening, permaculture, ethnobotany, online elitist story-centred roleplaying (jointhesaga.com), and futzing around outside in various ways. I notice there is no drop-down menu option for 'in a causal relationship' (edit: that was supposed to be 'in a casual relationship' but it turned out far cooler than my intentions allowed for, so I'm leavin it in) and weep metaphorically. I'm impulsive, analytical, I think conversation is a valid activity, and I enjoy good food. I appreciate low-drama situations. I'm a storyteller, that is, when I am speaking with you I'll throw in lots of ancedotes and such. It's how I view the world; through the veil of many perspectives.

Further update: I'm pretty kinky, think multiple 18-guage play piercings and paddling and caning, and I won't seriously date someone who isn't mildly competent and willing to use a cane on my rear end-- or alternatively allow me to beat them up. I'm pretty happy with my relationship setup right now, so we'll call my dance card full. I'd love to meet more people who could do kinky shit without penetrative sex, or possibly girls who are interested in group stuff with me and a boy.

I guess I'm sometimes pretentious too

I'm making it go. Or, at least it goes without me, but I'm trying to do some steering. I want it to be peaceful, productive, and fulfilling, all by my own definitions of the words.

And, you know what? It seems to be getting easier. The more experiences I have under my belt, the more I find I can trust my instincts, I can trust my decisions, and therefore the world is not a confusing jumble but instead an ordered series of choices.

Plants and roleplaying. The rest, the more I do it the more I realise I need lots of practice.

Wait, no. I want more practice at everything. Everything except watching Hollywood romance or comedy movies, that is. Ugh.

Breasts. I'm as much of a nudist as I can get away with. Also metallic facepaint and combat boots on days when I'm not working, pruner holster on days when I am.

If you're in my house, I'm a nudist. I realise belatedly that some people notice that pretty quick.

;)

(a) Steinbeck's The Grapes of Wrath, um... plus everything else, from Robert Aspirin's Myth series and the Belgariad through Anne Rice and Dan Savage to Rosemary Sutcliffe and TS Eliot and Douglas Adams, and all those nifty nonfiction books by people like Wade Davis and John R Horner and that historian who wrote that book about the Irish whose name starts with C. I have a terrible reading habit when there are books around. Lately I'm churning through Steven Erikson's Books of the Fallen, rereading Neil Stephenson (er, is he the guy that did Snow Crash and Zodiac? I get him mixed up with people) and looking for a copy of Good Omens in between National Geographics and Pacific Yachtings. Addition: I read so quickly that this list keeps becoming defunct.

(b) I like good movies or actiony movies, so, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind or The Last Unicorn and Tombraider/James bond. I liked Supersize Me, I can get too much of Moore, Alien vs Predator was fun, Fight Club was neat... I don't remember movies I've watched, often. Kung Fu Hustle is my single favourite movie ever excepting Korean movies like Save The Green Planet, Attack The Gas Station, Duellist, and Sympathy for Mr Vengeance.

(c) Somewhat eclectic, not conventional rap please. I'm most into classical, 'folk/world' as in stuff from the Mission Folk Music Festival, and classic rock. My three favourite songs are Louis Armstrong's 'What a Wonderful World', Canon in D written by Pachelbel, and something halfway between REM's 'Automatic for the People' and Pearl Jam's 'Light Years'.

(d) I'm an adventurous eater. D'you know how many times I've been in a restaurant and the waitress says: you know that has tripe in it? If someone makes it for me, I'll love it even more, whatever it is.

As soon as I think I can't do without a thing, I lose it. I thought this about long-term relationships, about people in my life, about cuddling, about friends... eh. Learning experiences.

So, I'll put my rats, which is a changing list since the little critters have short lifespans, my Hitachi magic wand, a community to live in, conversation, sunlight, and some kind of a garden.

Everything. :/ The word 'over-analytical' is frequently used on me. Also asked: why can't we shut up and have our date already?

Often my own and others' motivations are in there, I like to know why I've done/feel as I do.

I'm actually learning to mellow of late, because I find the more time I spend doing a thing rather than thinking abou tit, the more I enjoy it and the more I get done. I'm also rediscovering the art of conversation, which had been buried for awhile as I backed out of the over-analytical place.

There are no typical Friday nights.

This makes me cry:

The Quiet World by Jeffrey McDaniel

in an effort to get people to look into each other's eyes more, the government has decided to allot each person exactly one hundred and sixty-seven words, per day.

when the phone rings, i put it to my ear without saying hello. in the restaurant, i point at chicken noodle soup. i am adjusting well to the new way.

late at night, i call my long- distance lover and proudly say: "i only used fifty-nine today. i saved the rest for you."

when she doesn't respond, i know she's used up all her words, so i slowly whisper i love you, thirty-two and a third times. after that, we just sit on the line and listen to each other breathe.

You think (follow closely) that something I think is interesting, is interesting, and want to talk about it.

Actually, if you generally just want to talk, that's good too.

I've stopped saying I'll answer all messages, because I won't. I do eventually answer anything I find interesting, but straight requests for sex, requests for BDSM play that come across as boorish or unsafe, and requests for naked pics are right out. I'm also not looking for any heavy emotional involvements right now, though exceptions may be made for gardeners or hot econ students willing to send me shower-pictures (what can I say, it's a thing)

I admit to kind of liking the IM, because there's more space to 'feel someone out.' Or maybe it's just that messages are shorter, so there's less chance for people to make an ass of themselves? I think it might be the same thing in the end, IM lets you cue off the other person where a long, rambling message isn't responding to those subtle yes or no signals present in realtime comunication.