I am an adventurous, intellectual hedonist who is looking to expand his circle of close relationships and social friends.

I am looking for meaningful relationships. The exact flavor of those is open to negotiation. I am a clear communicator who is able to explore complex emotions honestly.

I have a pile of education and experience in spirituality. If you're looking to expand your horizons or resolve deep conflicts, I'm happy to participate.

I am a royal nerd. By that I mean if there is any topic you dork out to, we probably share it.

I'm active and enjoy running, tennis and general exploring. I ride sport motorcycles and mountain bikes. I actively participate in organized sports.

I'm the sort of person who understands other people and why they feel the way they do, even when I strongly disagree. This was an essential skill growing up in West Michigan as a budding liberal.

I am a sex-positive feminist/profeminist. Bonus points if you can elucidate the difference between feminist and profeminist and make an argument for either. I am a LGBTQ ally.

I'm married to Hansel_gr. I'm open to romance in a poly setting. I partner rarely and deeply. I excel at satisfying those I'm with.

If I message you, it is not a secret attempt to lure you into a threesome. Good group sex takes a lot of effort and dishonesty pretty much ruins sex. I will inform you of my intentions when I message; be it lover, friend or foe.

I enjoy helping people. I mentor younger professionals. I've moved from years of employment in the non-profit field into for-profit technology work as an IT consultant.

-pondering any question.
-helping people feel safe, cared for and passionate.
-getting into mischief.
-trying new things.
-solving problems.

I'm tall.

I recently read:

Leviathan Wakes, by James Corey. Thank you again, Hugo.

50 Shades of Grey, by E L James. I've been practicing soft kink like this for years. There was a joke in my reading group that I should sue for stolen phrases. If this book blew your mind, let me know. Alas, I am not shockingly wealthy like Sir Christian.

I have seen a great number of movies and I struggle picking my favorites. I've seen Shawshank Redemption and Army of Darkness many times, which bridge my tastes well. I cried during Up.

I listen to a lot of pop music. This is a result of my last job, where our clients listened to it almost exclusively. I really prefer break up songs by female artists. Everyone in my life thinks this is weird, seeing as how few break ups I've actually had. I like intense feelings.

I'll eat anything multiple times. I'm weak for tomato-based foods and things cooked or bought for me. I enjoy cooking for company and throwing dinner parties.

1.) Love.
2.) Thought.
3.) People.
4.) The Internet or at least some pre-tech book version.
5.) Sexual Energy.
6.) Experiences.

How to survive varied apocalypses--I have survived a zombie outbreak reenactment and I didn't trip anyone to do it, although two of my bodyguards died in spectacular fashions.
Loves held and loves lost.
Human sexuality.
How people and systems interact with each other.

Snuggling with someone.

I won the naked mile in college and years later saw myself on America's Most Extreme Videos, while I was in the same room as my parents, who are not at all liberal.

-You are a kind person, who seeks kind people.
-You have passion and commitment as skill sets.
-You have the will to do silly things like fly to Paris to repaint a terrible picture.
-You can express a reasonable conceptualization of “open-minded” in words or art.