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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–41
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jan 5
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
A little extra
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Rather not say
Seeing Someone
Has a kid, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Catalan (Okay), French (Okay), Italian (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Here goes....I am Sephardic by blood, but have no true affiliations, and was raised Unitarian until I was kicked out of Unitarian Sunday School for asking too many tough questions (I think we had a fundamentalist rogue agent in the Sunday School as my teacher). I do not have an ethnic or religious identity to wrap myself in, and, let's be frank, it is creepy and weird in our society to cleave to mere whiteness. I am a mutt. But I have always craved the sense of kinship that others seem to be happy observing on the basis of essentially irrelevant historical matters (see Kurt Vonnegut and Daffodil 278 - HUGE points if you know what I am talking about). I think humans are essentially tribal, though, and I yearn for my tribe. And we exist, my nameless and casino free tribe. We know each other almost instantly, and take great solace in encountering any member sprinkled through the diaspora of our border-free homeland. Smart, funny, playful, irreverent, good, fair, painfully aware of not being like the other mouth breathers (and I do NOT mean that in a conceited or arrogant way - them knuckle scrapers appear happy, for the most part, and I am more than a little jealous). In fact, we love cultures, including our own, but always stand a little outside of them – and so spend time traveling and living abroad because it is so much easier to explain the subtle difference to others (with whom we easily integrate and who embrace us) by simply being able to state, “I am foreign.” And they can let it go with “Que esperabas…ese chico es mas Yanqui que el Tio Sam mismo! Jah jah jah!” Finding another member of the Tribe almost always feels like, "Oh, thank GOD! Another member of the tribe. I was about to scream..." So...I am always looking for members of my tribe, and anyone I will love truly, madly, deeply will already know in her bones....The Way of My People.

The game is always afoot with me. It is ALL play - or can be! I am looking for someone who gets it...with a nod or a silent look. We are connected, and share an understanding lost on others. A nation of two. I am looking for someone I can admire, whose admiration, in turn, would mean a lot to me. Despite cherishing silent connections, I value words and ideas, especially as wielded by an intelligent, informed companion. I speak several languages and am fascinated by how they are all connected. And you can only learn a language, or model a mate's mind if you listen. Blather about what fascinates you, and I will hang on every word - but poorly informed loud mouths are like nails on a chalkboard to me (and you).

I am a secret science nerd...OK, maybe the secret is not as well kept as I would prefer to believe! My friends almost all say I am one of the funniest people they have ever humor runs dark and fearless, ironic and absurd, but true to the point of pain sometimes. And I love nothing more than unleashing torrents of unexpected and uncontrolled laughter into a shared pool of helpless giggles. I love humanity, but am a misanthrope too. A gregarious loner. As I say, I am looking for members of my tribe. If that makes any sense, we are off to a great start!

I am looking for a true partner. By that I mean a true two way street. If I love you (and that's what I am looking to do), I will always be seeking to improve your life experience. I will want you to WANT to do the same for me. I will never demand it. But I have hopefully learned that it is fair for me to expect mutuality. And I savor physical intimacy of most types and intensity...if you wouldn't eventually...shortly come to that position and stay there, we probably are not a true match.

I am a different breed of cat. A manly man, and a dude, in every sense (except sports spectation - why? I don't know the players, they are not from the towns they represent...lost on me), but DIFFERENT. I am a former professional artist, and have an understanding of beauty that is more permissive than Vogue Magazine for sure, but self-respect should glow from you. In addition to the tribal attributes, you should have a healthy appetite for what we have been given on this amazing and exceptional planet for a short time.

So there is the full can of my canned but at least considered profile! Your turn, which you may skip if you like!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to honor having been granted with it...and making sure others can have one, and that it be unfettered by unnecessary misery and privation.

That's sounds pretty damned holier than thou. Yeah. And righteousness is the first retreat of the weak minded and flaccid of spirit. But I mean it. I cannot be religious because on some level, I am too hard core about living what I say I believe. I can't believe anyone or anything gives a toot about what I eat on Tuesdays, or how I wear my hair...and I am not at all convinced anything is paying any attention at all to our individual actions. But there is a mission before us...plain as the nose on my face when I go cross-eyed (I don't see it otherwise - without a mirror!), and I am going to do my part, even though in my mid-40s, I am pretty near certain I will not see the harvest of our collective labors. Doesn't matter. It is such an exciting challenge! OK....I am bloviating like a mad man. ENOUGH.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening and putting all the pieces together. I love the puzzles of existence and people. I am a super geek underneath the veil of mere nerd.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
This is kind of odd, but people often comment on how safe they feel around me.

Fascinating, Captain.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Jesus! Haven't I said enough already? Let's leave SOMETHING for when we meet!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My senses. (Does that blow five, right there? Six if you count sixth sense? I expect that is the secret to this question, if there is one.)
My mind.
The minds of interesting AND HUMOROUS others.
I don't know. This now sounds trite, like the rest of my answers. I am really not trying to be clever or anything...while I have gadgets and so forth, things just....aren't my thing. Especially since I lost damned near everything in Hurricane Irene awhile ago, and have had to do without things I thought I couldn't do without.
I must name at least one thingy toothbrush and a good pair of useful (not expensive fashion) jeans, and, in honor of Douglass Adams, a towel.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where did all this STUFF come from? How did we get here? Why are we here? How can we save humanity and keep the world livable for our kids??? What's for dinner?

...and jokes to make you laugh based on things we've shared that you thought I forgot.

...and touching you and kissing again once we have crossed that bridge to a deeper intimacy. What a relief from quotidian worry and existential malaise all of the touching is - or can be.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dreaming of all I will accomplish and experience on the weekend, and preparing for the reality of Sunday night. Helplessly locked in a struggle to figure out solutions to the issues that face humanity...and figuring out some damned good answers...sometimes. And they accumulate.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Wet wipes: after raising my son...I regard living without them as primitive.

I guess you should know that my weakness as a superhero is I answer questions I am asked truthfully.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
YOU AREN'T AFRAID OF BEING ALIVE (OR DYING - but may not want to be there when it happens!)
You'd like to own a big, friendly, sweet, funny, bear-like man with a touch of weltschmerz seeking his other.