I am a south side Chicagoan and grew up on my own, much older brothers, in some pretty tough areas. We and I moved around a lot. My parents divorced when I was really young. This has made me pretty self sufficient and independent. So, I expect you to be independent too. I am not a big texter or talk on phone for hours guy. Few guys are, right?
My challenging childhood has also made me a liberal because my family and those around us, good people, often needed help to get by in life. So, if you think there are makers and takers and agree with Fox News, we are probably not a match.
I did spend a lot of time in Catholic school and was an altar boy. I can't say that I am very religious though. I believe in a higher power, but do not agree with the intolerance and judging of the "religious". So, if you are a Christian and believe the Bible is the literal word of God and He micromanages our lives, then we are probably not a good match. If you are a raving Atheist that will mock me for what I do believe, that won't work either. Some of the smartest, nicest, and best people that I know are Atheists.
I really enjoyed going to a very tough academic college in Chicago. I have varying interests in philosophy, science, English, history, politics, art, etc. The joys of a liberal arts education. I enjoy discussing ideas and current topics. I hope that you do too.
I have a demanding job in technology that keeps me busy and engaged. I would likely mostly have time on the weekends to go out and will like to schedule time. I expect you to be employed and busy too, that just makes things easier for us both.
I am divorced over a year now. I try to spend as much time as my teenage daughters allow with them. It is tough. I wish the divorce was amicable, but few are really. I have an acceptable amount of baggage. We are adults, you probably have some too and are not perfect.
I am a middle aged, bald, divorced guy, so I am at my personal best. Ha. I love Louis C.K. and I think that it is because I kind of relate to him.
I do not believe in soul mates. I think Hollywood and romance novels have stuffed crazy, unrealistic, and idealized images into our head. Reality is richer and more complex. I believe that there are multiple people out there in the world that we can become close to and love and that are worth loving. I believe that all relationships require work, forgiveness, and caring even with a soul mate.
Online dating is quite interesting. It is the electronic version of animal mating rituals with many guys preening, posing, and pursuing a potential mate. The female having a pick of quite a few men, rejecting many solicitations. Then some sort of magic has to happen where the female feels like the guy is good looking enough and the guy feels like the female is good looking enough to meet and not crazy. It is some weird calculation we do in our head to see if the potential partner is a genetic improvement, your type based on some childhood memories, or offers security. Yes, girls look at the pictures and no matter how cool the guy's profile is, if he is ugly, that first contact is not happening. Unless you are Donald Trump, then there are other attributes involved.
I am a paladin (Galahad type) at heart, but wearied by the injustice in the world and the realities of life. It is hard to be idealistic into your 40's. I would like to go out on dates. I would love friends first. I would open doors for you and pay attention to you when with you. I am not looking to marry again any time soon. It seems like we identify successful relationships just by how they end up, marriage. That is silly.
I was going to make this profile self-summary smaller this time. On well. Fail.