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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 9:55am
6' 0" (1.83m)
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English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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1. Equipped with all the standard human emotions.
2. A work in progress, growing and exploring.
3. Ridiculous at times. Looking for someone who can roll with that.
4. Laugh at myself, a lot. Hoping that you find me as amusing.
5. Capable of enormous amounts of passion, loyalty and affection.
6. Interested in life and other people, experiences are important, not things.
7. Kindness is important to me. Really.
What I’m doing with my life
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Thinking hard about how to make my life more service-oriented.

I am always doing something creative, even if it's on the side. My work is creative, but I have a rock solid, stable personality. It is possible to be a dreamer and to take care of business.

I've lived most of my adult life in SF, Manhattan, LA, France and now, Oakland.

Two personal side projects: a film for an amazing Brazilian NGO in the Amazon to help promote their new ecotourism/sustainable development project and an iOS app that's unintentionally popular in the Philippines.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
1. Cooking.
2. Eating.
3. Conversation.
4. Solving problems and getting out of tricky situations (I have an inner MacGyver, which can be surprisingly useful in intimate situations).
5. Laughing.
6. Free association.
7. Being present, right here, right now.
8. Anything on two wheels.
9. Swimming.
10. Trying to understand other people.
11. The passion thing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Normally my smile, or if I'm lost in my head, how intense I can look when I'm thinking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My taste in movies tends towards foreign, small budget films (I watch a lot of American movies, too). Recently, it's tended towards small European or Asian productions, or films from lesser known markets, like Algeria or Turkey. I am also always up for watching a movie made in Iran. Then, there's the stand-bys like Korea, Japan (Studio Ghibli), Hong Kong, Belgium (I love the Dardenne brothers)....In docs, I tend to prefer innovative storytelling techniques....Bus 174, Stevie. I'm still on a quest for someone who really loves Ozu.

I guess my taste goes towards either small, human movies or overblown ridiculous comedies. Warning: I do go to talking animal animation movies.

Musically, I'm an omnivore. Obscure African cassettes (traditional, pop and hip hop), devotional music of all types, bop, classical (especially piano and minimalism), early punk, southern soul, funk, cajun, old honky tonk, metal, pop, folk music from everywhere, Hawaiian music of all eras.....believe me the list goes on forever. I finally got rid of my cassettes this year, now I only have 78's, 45's, LP's, CD's and MP3's. But when I pull out that perfect 45 and put it on the hi-fi.....magic.

If you love African hip hop, check this out:

I love dance performance of all sorts.

Books: I plead omnivore again. Pretty much anything except romance novels or really self-important books. Reading is so important to me. I still find time to read fiction or poetry. If you inspire me, I may even whisper Ronsard in your ear in the original Middle French.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Imagination
2. A bicycle
3. loving and being loved
4. water and more water
5. friends
6. Clean sheets
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Hmmm, usually what I'll eat next. My next project. How am I doing as a human being. How to see beauty in impermanence and imperfection.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No typical Friday nights here.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was the subject, real name included, of a 95% true article by The Onion.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You possess the ability to be unabashedly goofy.

If you can tell the difference between humbleness and weakness.

You gave your correct age on your profile. Yes, I understand you look younger than your age, but still....don't we all think that?

You are actually interested in meeting in person. You want to get off of this site! Sitting in front of a computer chatting isn't reality. Life offline is much more interesting to me.

You are emotionally stable. What you have matters little to me, it's how you wear your life.