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25 M Centreville, VA

My Details

Last Online
Feb 19
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
It's really hard to write about yourself and not seem totally, irredeemably insufferable. But I'll try. Let's see how it goes.

I'm a writer. I'm never sure whether to identify as a feminist or male ally; I am definitely all for it, but I worry about being a cishet white dude stepping in and take space away from women, especially in something that very much should be theirs. Patriarchy, though, like capitalism, affects everyone in awful negative ways. Radical leftism is rad as hell.

I like learning stuff because learning is neat, but it's also a privilege in certain ways. I struggle to pay my bills and use the extra time I gain from this to work on writing and reading stuff because that fulfills me more than having enough money to buy a bunch of stuff. I grew up in the upper middle class and really have no great desire to work as hard as my parents did to have the kinds of things they did since it never really mattered to me as much as friends or good art.

Despite all that, I like dancing and going to bars and dressing nice. I have a homebody streak of enjoying quiet nights with hot tea and a book and Spotify or my guitar, but I also like driving aimlessly, breaking into parks late at night to wander around in empty fields, sitting on hills. There's an inner goth in me crying (...crying...) to get out and listen to The Cure and Joy Division and The Horrors and Black Marble and The Damned all day long, but I also listen to a ton of hip-hop, a ton of extreme metal, a ton of jazz, a ton of country folk, a ton of prog. Music taste doesn't have to be broad to be good, mine just happens to be broad.

I deal with depression, but I'm medicated and see a therapist. At this point in my life, I've learned that I can't really date or hang around people who don't understand that kind of stuff or aren't willing to. There's no obligation to; we all have a right to be psychologically safe and happy, and if someone with depression would compromise that for you, I'm not going to hold any ill-will towards you.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm working on getting more stories published and writing my third novel. (I shelved the first two after much deliberation, though I may rewrite the second.) I also recently returned to school to finish my degree, which is almost complete. Sometimes I write an record folk or shoegaze songs and upload them here:
I’m really good at
I'm good at guitars. Also jokes. I am trying very hard right now not to make any jokes. I will probably edit this to just fill it with weird jokes so be prepared for that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a strange sense of humor. I probably watched too much Ren and Stimpy as a kid and too much Aqua Teen as a college student. I also am pretty much always in a black band t-shirt and jeans if I can help it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Last FM profile:

Ever since I've gotten Spotify, my music experience has exploded. I fucking love it.

Music: Beatles, Beach Boys, Depeche Mode, King Crimson, Yeasayer, Dan Deacon, Genesis, Bon Iver, Kanye West, Mastodon, Paul Simon, Opeth, Porcupine Tree, Miles Davis, Slayer, Animal Collective, Squarepusher, the Dear Hunter, Madonna. Plenty of stuff. I've been getting into alt country and Bruce Springsteen in a big way. Maudlin songs with acoustic guitars and pianos and mumbling. Haha. Music is one of my big passions! If you recommend me something, I WILL give it a shot.

Movies: 2001, Enter the Void, Heathers, Parents, The Shining, A Clockwork Orange, WALL-E, There Will Be Blood, The Fountain, Tree of Life (kind of film school-ish, but I enjoyed it). I also love campy sci-fi and horror movies. I'm a B movie fan.

Books: Foundation trilogy, comics/graphic novels, literary criticism (I'm a bit of a lit nerd), Neil Gaiman, Thomas Pynchon, Philip K. Dick, Warren Ellis, Grant Morrison, Italo Calvino, Umberto Eco. Plenty more. I love books! Part of being a writer is reading a LOT.

Shows: Mad Men! Battlestar Galactica, Breaking Bad, Arrested Development, The Wire, The Sopranos, Carnivale

Food: I LOVE sushi, enchiladas, a good sandwich, pho and granola. I'd like to be vegetarian but I haven't quite summoned up the will yet. Someday, though!
The six things I could never do without
- My books
- My music collection
- Something to write with/on
- My dog
- Stories
- Free associating meaningless poetry on the spot
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Stories. That's pretty much all of what I think about. Everything's a story: Politics, history, books, music, even our own memories are in a very real way narratives we let slip under our skin and change us. And I find this fascinating.
On a typical Friday night I am
Trying to see a show or catch a movie. I always write and read. And, of course, looking to go to a bar for a few beers.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once flexed my muscles so hard I turned into a perfect glistening circle. I hovered mid-air in this spherical form for several minutes before relaxing back into my normal body. A True Orb Occurrence.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–28
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You think throwing on really loud music and have a solo dance party at midnight while completely sober is not only acceptable but the only way to live.

You want to drink beer in some deserted bar telling half-truths and making up stories until its way later than either of us intended.

You like freewheeling conversations.

You think petting puppies is probably the coolest fucking thing in the world.


Love is not magic. Love is not chemistry. Love is sacrifice. Love is work. Love is perseverance. Love is choosing the uphill climb. Love is battle. Love is hard. Love rewards what has been invested and punishes that which was not. Love demands. Love strives beyond its ability and love fails. Love is power and love is simple and love is complex. Love sings and love screams. Love is beauty and love is pain, and it would be neither if not both. I am not looking for chemistry. I am not looking for magic. I am looking for someone who sees something in me, someone I see something in, who is willing to put in the work to make something worthwhile occur. Love and magic are too complex, too simple to work any other way.