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36 • Playa del Rey, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 29–42
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 7:28pm
- Straight, Sapiosexual
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from masters program
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently)
Since it seems to be a deal breaker for some let me be up front. Yes I am married - I am a polyamorous man married to a polyamorous woman (Muridae). My wife and I are each open to multiple partners. We date separately for the most part- we are not unicorn hunters or trying to set up some casual threesome.
I am on OKC looking for real relationships with other non-monogamous people and activity partners, not flings.
(the name, The Bursar, comes from long time fandom of Terry Pratchett and used it online with friends taking other Unseen University faculty names)
I can be a bit shy but only somewhat introverted. Once I get to
know someone it can be hard to get me to shut up :).
I am an internet and information junky - always browsing for news, current events, and sales/travel deals. I probably either know or am playing the latest computer games. I also love to watch movies and make frequent use of our home theater.
When not absorbed by a screen I love to discuss philosophy, finance, politics, religion, and current events - almost anything where a viewpoint can be teased out and dissected. I love to strike up a conversation on nearly anything with multifaceted viewpoints. I am a very direct / too-honest-for-own-good type person.
I'd like to think that I am playful, inquisitive, and open.
Stuff For Fun
Hanging out with a small, close circle of friends. I like
hosting small group gatherings of friends to play board and card
games or watching something from our movie collection and making
meals for the group.
I am not really a bar or club person, but do enjoy a social drink out with friends on some occasions.
I try to not let work keep me from doing anything fun so try to
keep my eye open for opportunities to go to a concert, convention,
or just walk my neighborhood looking for what is new. I've visited
a few countries and while on a lull at the moment have tried to
plan a trip at least a couple times a year, even if it is just
Vegas. My retirement plan is to see the world a few times
Not done recently but also fun (in no partiuclar order): camping, canoeing, bowling, aikido (need to find a dojo near here though), and beach fun . I try to stay at least somewhat physically active though might not be hitting the condo gym as often as I should. I am willing to try most anything that won't get me killed or imprisoned at least once.
I like getting out and about but prefer to do so with friends, otherwise I'll be at home reading on my kindle, using my home theater, or putzing around on the computer. I like to cook and am ok at it, above single guy ramen special at least. I am equally happy to go out to eat and an evening on the town though. I really like trying new places
Otherwise wandering through it looking for ideas. Pondering vacations. Filling out this profile with an overabundance of detail. Hoping some more new friends and partners will come my way. Having fun. Trying new stuff. Obsessing over latest computer game. Occasional trip to the local watering hole.
Also maybe the beard. That is my wife's fault but I have to admit it looks pretty good on me and I have become fond of it. I try to keep it tamed and well kept.
(b) Movies: Way way too many so here is a a smattering: the
Chris Nolan Batman trilogy, Serenity, The Rock, Equilibruim,
Spaceballs, Princess Bride, Lord of the Rings, RED. Many many more
- comedy, drama, action, anime, whatever. I seem to like the Marvel
comic movies. I try to get to the movie heater once a month and
always adding to blu-ray collection. Wish there were more cerebral
but not overly art-house films out - movies that can really
surprise me like The Usual Suspects are pretty rare.
(c) Music: Basically everything except rap, country, and death metal (although, like in all things, there are exceptions even here). I have a bit of everything, from Enya to Rob Zombie.
(d) Food: Italian, chinese/japanese/thai (asian in general), indian, sushi, American. I especially love anything involving some kind of noodle, rice, meat or fish, and spice. For some strange reason I really like soups too. Not above just grilling a steak and making green bean casserole though. I used to try to cook at least one new dish a week. Unfortunately I cannot see myself doing the vegetarian thing, although I love Indian and some Ethiopian vegetarian dishes. My wife is picky about food and our tastes don't fully overlap so I would love to find a 'food buddy' who would like exploring new restaurants and dining options with me
I am not really a club or bar person but the occasional trip to Yard House or other nearby watering hole is nice. I prefer to go out to a movie or restaurant and then come home, maybe have a drink, and hang out talking or playing a game (cards, boardgame, newest co-op computer game, whatever) or spend time cuddling with a partner.
My wife and I also like to have people over to watch movies and TV or play computer games together.
While my wife and I date people individually we would not be against seeing someone together if they ended up being attracted to both of us.
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