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H_JamesBenjamin

39 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
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Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Dislikes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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What I’m doing with my life
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Music. Music. Music. (And a little food.)
Currently getting a commercial music business off the ground.
In the non-profit arts world, I direct and play in my ensemble that composes and performs live scores for strange dance and theatre productions. Aaand I play in a country/rock/folk band for fun (and apparently licensing), and I'm trying to start a sort of Nick Cave-y/Leonard Cohen-esque band with some other guys. I also keep a foot in the bar/restaurant industry—my second love—cuz if you're in you get free drinks and oysters, and the chefs send you out cool stuff (last time it was a corn dog with housemade chicken sausage served with jalapeno mayo).
I’m really good at
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Knowing things*. Meeting deadlines. Calming down angry drunks. Cheering up sad girls. Writing tunes. Proofreading (did not make a real effort to be consistent on this profile). Saying yes to new things (animals I've never eaten, board game nights, sky diving maybe). Reading lots. Listening OR prattling on non-stop, as appropriate. Keeping my apartment just north of "guy clean" (as my friend Andrea puts it). Not sure if I've earned full "girl clean" though.

*just to clarify: I like being wrong and learning new things—I'm not a know-it-all that has to be right; I just know stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have every possible natural hair color.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books of the last four months (including comics, plays, and poetry) - Anathem by Neal Stephenson, Eye of The Needle by Ken Follett, America's Unwritten Constitution by Akhil Reed Amar, This Is How You Lose Her and Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz, Habibi by Craig Thompson, Neonomicon by Alan Moore, Telegraph Avenue and Yiddish Policeman's Union by Michael Chabon, Sweet Tooth by Ian McEwan, Sweet Tooth vols. 1-5 by Jeff Lemire, Grand & Arsenal by Kerri Webster, The Glass Menagerie by Tennessee Williams, A Universe from Nothing by Lawrence Krauss, God Is Not Great and Mortality by Christopher Hitchens, A Dance To The Music Of Time Books 1 & 2 by Anthony Powell, A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens,The Twelve by Justin Cronin, The Birthday Party by Harold Pinter, Aunt Dan and Lemon by Wallace Shawn, Free For All: Joe Papp... by Kenneth Turan, Brief and Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz, From Abbey Road to Ziggy Stardust by Ken Scott, The Power Broker by Robert Caro, Saga vols. 1 & 2 by Brian K. Vaughan, The World Until Yesterday by Jared Diamond

Movies -
In the theatre, the last few I've seen: World's End and The Grand Master at the Nitehawk. Gravity. And as of this Friday, 12/20, I will have seen Inside Llewyn Davis.
(Update: too busy. Didn't happen.)
At home: just saw Roadhouse and American Gigolo, each for the first time. Over Thanksgiving, at my folks, I watched the shockingly identical movies, White House Down and Olympus Has Fallen.
All times: obvious ones (Coppola, Tarantino, Miyazaki, Pixar, Batmans, Leone, Argento, etc.) others (I love Beer Fest and Hostel). I hate Terms of Endearment, but it consistently makes me tear up. So does Up! but that's a good movie.

Shows -
Current: Treme (does anyone else think it might be better than the Wire?), Archer, Bob's Burgers, Nathan For You (funniest thing I've seen in a long time)
Forever: Roseanne, The Mighty Boosh, Mr. Show, Moonlighting, all Whedon

Music -
Recently in the phone: Your Funeral My Trial and Let Love In by Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds, You Don't Mess Around With Jim by Jim Croce, Vintage Violence and Fear by John Cale, Wings of Joy by Cranes, To Bring You My Love by PJ Harvey, Les Miserables Original London Cast Recording (the one I grew up with), Can I Have My Money Back by Gerry Rafferty, and Lola versus Powerman and the Moneygoround by The Kinks.

Food -
Three best in my neighborhood: Allswell, Lighthouse, Miller's Tavern
Always go to Walter Foods.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Music stuff. At least an acoustic guitar or piano.
2. Some decent wine with dinner.
3. Something to read.
4. Cool dudes and ladies to hang out with.
5. My new nephew. (Well, my family in general.)
6. Someone with a smart phone around so no one ever has to have a stupid bar argument again, ever.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Tunes.

Also, can I plan the bike ride to Montauk with a few friends this summer where when we get there there are already a few other friends waiting in a beach house with the grills grilling and the coolers cooling?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I like to work weekend evenings in this city (also NYEs when I can help it). I have no patience for the amateurs. But I guess if I wasn't working I would stay in, do the dinner/couch/movie thing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I used to wear a beret.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
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