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44 F Toronto, Ontario, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:23pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I'm sensitive and expressive. I like to break into spontaneous dance in the kitchen. I'm working on my twerking (silly twerking I do with my kids, not sexy). I try to avoid getting run over in the mornings as I often have head phones on as I walk to work. I'm a boss to quite a few people but it's a comfortable role, not the default me (I think... ). I won't throw you under the bus. I'll throw myself under the bus. I'm frightened by the power my mobile devices have over me and my children. I really don't love cooking but I love to eat. I prefer to imagine, think, and talk. I'm annoyed by someone too fascinated (or comforted) by order, routine, familiarity, or extreme cleanliness. To me joy, creativity, and exhuberance should come first. If we make a mess, that's ok. I'm a sucker for a man who writes well. I'll need to be physically attracted to him for anything to happen. I'm completely committed to my children and my career. But I want a boyfriend. Many people have told me that I'm kind, warm, empathetic, and wacky. Some people understand this to mean that I'm also a marshmallow-pushover. I'm not one. I don't want you to be surprised.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently inventing myself. Every day. I don't like yoga. I do this thing that involves poses, strength, and hot air but it's got nothing to do with yoga. Which makes me different than all the other women on here. Right??

Umm. Mostly (and almost effortlessly) plunging forward. Finding minutes to myself. Trying to shut my mind up. Diving head first into what I can.
I’m really good at
Strengthening in a hot room with others
Making people feel good
Being creative intellectually
Evil laughing
Being captivated by art and history
mirroring my son's pixie smile back at him
Acting foolish with my daughter
The first things people usually notice about me
Reddish hair
Jaunty walk?
Hip dresser
Gentle demeanour
A deceptive look of innocence
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This is where things get obscure and downright nerdy:

All the Kurt Wallander books by Henning Mankell (why did he have to basically kill Kurt off? Mistake, in my opinion)
Wallander TV series
All English Detective/Mysteries. Pretty much. Sucker for those...
Just read all the Hunger Games books. Devoured all the Harry Potters too. I started reading these books with my kids. They give up and Im hooked.
Research in Higher Education
Have you fallen asleep yet?
The six things I could never do without
Family in Alberta
Strong coffee, almost like sludge
A special purpose
A toasted Montreal bagel with butter, marmalade, and cheese for breakfast
Working with smart, inquisitive people
Bustin' a move
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Staying still and collected in the midst of constant, varied change.

How to get joy

How to keep my job

Thrill, elation, recklessness--all possible now
On a typical Friday night I am
Sharing a pint with Librarians or other co-workers (Librarians know how to party. Really.)

Hanging out in the 'hood with divorced neighbours

Reading in bed
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Fuck Cancer--it's touched me too many times already.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 39–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You have a picture.
You should be 35 or over. Please... You're killing me here