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HandsReversed7

25 Victoria, British Columbia, CA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 1:27pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
University
Job
Student
Income
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Greetings! Alright so I tend to ramble with directions as vague as a basic self summary, but here goes.

I am an emotional and thoughtful person. I love introspection and am a relatively typical introvert. I'm empathetic, genuine, and creative. I have a playful spirit, but tend to reserve it for closer relationships. I get overwhelmed in crowds and vastly prefer individual contact or small groups to parties or gatherings. I tend to get overwhelmed by the constant onslaught of sensory information we all get bombarded with regularly.

I believe that no person is ever done improving themselves and that attitude bothers me. The moment we stop trying to know and become our true selves is the moment we may as well stop living. I also call people out on their shit. If you use a lot of ego defences or hide behind passive aggression, I will tell you I don't like while it happens. I'm very blunt and also won't indulge mind games. I get compared to men frequently in terms of my attitude towards relationships of all sorts because I don't handle the discrepancy between actions and words well.

I am a feminist. I get so tired of the misconceptions over feminism being man hating. Those "feminists" are misusing a word that means equality. My belief is that stereotypical gender norms are just as damaging for men as they are for women. I'm not the type to flip out if you open a door for me. That's just considerate.

I have ongoing mental health issues that anyone who gets to know me should be aware of. I'm very open about it, but please don't ask me about it if you can't handle the response. It's not a pleasant tale. I have generalized anxiety and PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) from long-term emotional abuse. This is largely why I tolerate absolutely no bullshit in any areas of my life. I don't like aggression, but will have undying respect for you if you know the difference between that and assertion. I'm also in the process of relearning normal social boundaries that most of us learn during childhood. I get it wrong a lot but at least I'm trying. Patience is appreciated. I'm very good a respecting individual boundaries too.

In terms of what I'm looking for, I am mainly just wanting to meet and connect with some new people. I like beginning any new relationship as friendship and seeing how that goes. I am non-monogamous and that is non-negotiable. I am in the process of exploring polyamory, but am still figuring out what works for me. Polyamory seems like a very individualized process so far. It's always different. I am also bisexual. I tend to have an easier time meeting and connecting with men, but would love to challenge my hesitance over trusting women. I likely have something amazing to discover in terms of how I can relate to other women, both emotionally and sexually. I would love to meet some ladies who are open to exploring, but it really doesn't need to be sexual.

I don't handle jealousy well because it is entirely unnecessary to me. Jealousy seems to be a frequent off-shoot of poor communication and insecurities. I firmly believe in accepting what each person can give. I have many emotional needs and I need many forms of contact to feel balanced and content. I have no interest in shaming or being shamed for not meeting a need I am not able to give naturally. I'm still very receptive to criticism and change (especially in a relationship dynamic), but it has to be constructive.

Other more general and less intense interests include writing short stories and bad poetry on my blog. I enjoy any literary achievement that plays on the discomfort of situations. I'm big on playing on the things human nature tends to avoid. If you are interested, ask me :) I love lots of different forms of art and expression. I love music and am definitely a hipster where music is concerned. I love mushroom foraging and baths enough to mention them too xP
What I’m doing with my life
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I recently have begun a new academic chapter in my life. I am in my first year of an undergraduate psychology degree. My plan at this point is to get my bachelor of arts in psychology and then work as a counsellor to fund the rest of my academic pursuits and you know, to survive the massive heap of debt from student loans I will have under my belt by the time I'm finished.

My main goals are currently to become a psychologist with a probably focus in sex therapy but I'm keeping my options open. I love the idea of transcending societal barriers of intolerance to all issues relating to gender and sexual identity, but also have to be a tad realistic with where we are as a society. I want to finish my English degree and pursue creative writing. I want to be a published author eventually. I realized very late that picking one career would never work for me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping people open up and relax about their sexuality. This may seem like a weird thing to mention, but I am one of the least judgemental people you'll meet and find desire fascinating. I have been told I give great advice. Also, reading out loud and singing. I am a great listener and love in depth conversation so please feel free to be as delightfully weird and thoughtful as possible xD
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height is the first thing noticed as women don't tend to be 6'3 xP I look like a hipster (fine and am about some stuff) so people give me shit a lot, but that's okay. I would probably give me shit too. I tend to be very outspoken and have a natural volume when I'm discussing anything I'm passionate about. I also have better than average eye contact, but many people seem to feel unnerved by it. I'm perceptive and I think it can be overwhelming.

My eyes are also a rather deep shade of green.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books:
Literature is likely my greatest passion. I'll try to keep it brief. I love modern drama, science fiction (especially Soviet sci-fi such as "We" or "Heart of a Dog"), fiction in all forms, some fantasy... Most inspiring and admired authors would include Virginia Woolf, Margaret Atwood, Alice Sebold, George Orwell, Sylvia Plath, Oscar Wilde, A.M. Homes, T.S. Eliot.... This list really is endless.

Movies:
I am open to most genres but have a unique appreciation for the slightly odd or extremely psychological... I love Fight Club, The Hours, Never Let Me Go, The Greatest, A Dangerous Method, Moonrise Kingdom, Away We Go, Rabbit Hole, The Help, Garden State, Constantine, Troy, 50/50, The Pianist, A Beautiful Mind, Enemy at the Gates, Benny & Joon, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Reader, The Shawshank Redemption, The Art of Getting By, Proof, American Beauty, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty... Again this list is endless. I also love all zombie films and ACTUAL vampire movies. I also tend to enjoy most action and war films...

Shows:
Doctor Who, Sherlock, Stargate, Fringe, The Big Bang Theory, South Park, Game of Thrones, Adventure Time!, Happy Endings, Bored to Death, The Walking Dead, Band of Brothers, The Pacific, The Oblongs, Clone High, Invader Zim, Star Trek, Spartacus... I've likely forgotten some.

Music:
Another extremely long list... As for genre, I like electronica, indie/alternative, folk, rock... Pretty much anything that moves me to feel something beyond myself. Here are just a few... Metric, Death Cab For Cutie, The Boxer Rebellion, The Zolas, Arkells, VitaminsForYou, Said The Whale, The Beatles, Jethro Tull, The Temper Trap, Local Natives, The Naked and Famous, Walk Off the Earth, Library Voices, Rah Rah, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Jonsi, Mum, The Middle East, The Album Leaf, She Wants Revenge, Tokyo Police Club, Arcade Fire, Assemblage 23, Beck, BSS, B.R.M.C, DeVotchKa, Humans, Holy Fuck, Humans...

I stand by my statement about this just being a few...

Food:
Anything Italian, sushi, Thai food, fresh bread, avocados, COFFEE... I think it would be more accurate to just said I love food xP
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Trees (and nature more generally)
Art (in all its forms)
Friends
Love
My limbs
Freedom
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
It would be simpler to ask what I don't think about but here goes... I think about the nature of people, whatever book(s) I'm currently reading, the effect the past has on the present, how to better myself as a person, the death of creativity, the patterns of behaviour, those I love, what "progress" means to others, what my contribution will be, the way some people can truly change you, how I would survive the zombie apocalypse, peace vs. chaos...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably relaxing at home reading or watching a movie. Maybe chilling with a few close friends, drinking, going to a show or pub if my wallet allows for it...

I tend to be a recluse by nature, but I hate it when things become "typical".
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When I read this like 50 things came to mind...

I have a very difficult time trusting other women to the point where I'm awkward. I would like to change that...
You should message me if
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You enjoy in depth conversation and cuddles.

You wish to bond over shared fandom of pretty much anything! (Doctor Who and Game of Thrones are safe bets)

You got this far and are more intrigued then off put by the intense degree of detail I feel required to express at any given moment of any day xP

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