I am hardworking, politically active and left wing, culturally well
informed, well traveled, athletic, humorous and extremely curious
about the world, human history and human society. I consider my
life to be a process of learning that will continue as long as I
live. Most recently I have learned to hula hoop and ride a unicyle,
proof of my earnest sobriety. I have worked in several professions
and have lived and traveled around the world. These experiences, as
well as my education and my fatherhood of a lovely daughter are
what have formed me. Although my work plants me solidly in the
middle of "the system" or "the establishment" or whatever you
choose to call the world of government and law, I believe that in
many ways I have the soul of an artist. I am a writer who has been
published in prestigious journals, a DJ and an amateur musicologist
of some depth. I am also very experienced working with my hands and
can fix machines and build structures from wood. I have even had
significant success growing organic vegetables. It can probably be
said that my conventional side is mirrored by my unconventional
side. Love me or not, I am not a forgettable character
"This time tomorrow, where will we be,
On a spaceship somewhere sailing across an empty sea.
This time tomorrow, What will we know?
Will we still be here watching an in-flight movie show?
I'll leave the sun behind me,
And I'll watch the clouds as they sadly pass me by.
Seven miles below me,
I can see the world and it ain't so big at all."
What I’m doing with my life
Raising my daughter and saving the world.
I’m really good at
I get a lot of credit for my skills as a writer. Other than that,
all I will say is that I do a lot of things whether I am good at
them or not.
The first things people usually notice about me
Gregarious, humorous, bold, confident, curious. I never intend to
be a bull in a china shop, but I suspect that my presence in a room
does not need to be announced. I would hope that if my daughter is
present, people would quickly pick up on my devotion to her.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am what would broadly be described as an intellectual or a
culteratus. So it follows that I like the same books and movies
that most smart, educated people like. I suppose I could say that
my cinematic interest tends toward "drama" and most of what I read
is contemporary fiction, preferably English because I appreciate
their stewardship and finesse of my native tongue. The only
television I watch is Portlandia and the adult serials like The
Sopranos or The Wire. I also watch Downton Abbey because my angel
of a daughter loves it.
Music? I have about 5000 vinyl record albums, overwhelmingly
American music from the 1920's through the 1970's including blues,
jazz, psychedelic rock, soul, funk and disco. As for contemporary
stuff, I am kind of illiterate but I do love to attend Pickathon as
much for the family vibe as for the tunes.
Food? Mediterranean generally speaking. I eat fresh greens with
every meal. I am not as young as I used to be and things like
careful diet and yoga go a long way to maintaining the female
interest in seeing me without my clothes on. Bit blunt on that
point, I realize, but honestly, who really cares about an aging guy
who is letting himself go to hell?
The six things I could never do without
1. My daughter.
2. Love, including erotic love.
3. Great friends.
4. Great conversation.
6. "The Great Outdoors."
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Not screwing up my daughter's life. That is a lot more fun than it
sounds because it motivates me to be supportive and adventurous
On a typical Friday night I am
Every other Friday I have my daughter and often we join other
families for dinners after which the kids and adults can spend time
with their peers. The Fridays on which I don't have her come at the
end of my week with her and I am often pretty tired. I watch a lot
of movies on Friday night and then try to get enough sleep so I can
feel great at Saturday morning yoga.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ironic question because to answer it is to invade one's own
I suppose that it would be "private" to reveal that I take sex
pretty seriously. Obviously it is hard to quarrel with a
spontaneous drunken romp here and again, but over the decades I
have discovered that sex executed with real intentionality,
intimacy and intensity is more or less the ne plus ultra of the
adult mortal experience. I remember being clued for the first time
when I was about 21 and telling all my friends, "I think I finally
realize why sex is such a big deal." It really is. Such a brilliant
evolutionary gift. Well worth exploring it for what it can be.
You should message me if
As far as a match is concerned, I am looking for a woman with an
open mind and interests as broad as my own. If she has traveled and
lived around the world, so much the better. Intellectual curiosity,
a wicked sense of humor, strong social conscience and interest in
outdoor sports would also be very attractive qualities. Regardless
of how she spends her time, I think it would be best if she had the
"soul of an artist" as well. And I suppose it wouldn't hurt if she
shared some qualities with my ex-wife because, for what it is
worth, she is one of my best friends.
Ultimately I find it hard to describe a potential match in great
detail because my mind is very open on that subject and I think
that I will know her when I see her. Or receive from her an