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41 Toronto, Ontario, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:38am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My day job is graphic design/publishing and I love it. You might have seen something I've designed. Or maybe not. I have no idea what you look at.

I tend to have a pretty busy schedule, with work, friends, and that new movie that I absolutely have to see, but there's always room to expand my social circle and plenty of cafés about.

My user name is from a song by The Jesus and Mary Chain. I was listening to it when you get to the name choosing bit at sign up.

I also write brief messages, mostly. Blame text messaging.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've been reading John Hughes screenplays and finding other people's keys.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm pretty decent at keeping calm under pressure (even at gunpoint), typing with a cat on my wrists, and I make a mean cocktails.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It's probably that I talk to people who have yet to have their morning coffee and I refuse to learn that this is a bad idea. If I sleep in, I probably haven't shaved.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I've taken an axe to this section. It was far too long.

Books: I read about 50 books a year, and one will be whatever book wins the Edgar Allen Poe award.

Movies: I've seen Some Kind of Wonderful, The Princess Bride, MK&AO's It Takes Two, and Citizen Kane at least 5 times each. I like seeing movies with explosions in the theatre rather than at home. All the John Hughes films.

TV: Bron|Broen, The Bridge, The Killing, Parenthood, The Good Wife, and those cable shows no one can shut up about.

Music: I realized recently that, while I used to be quite up on music, I am no longer. Any recommendations? Recently exploring Hospitality and Wye Oak's newest.

Artists/Designers: Peter Saville, Margaret Killgallen (I have a tattoo of one of her drawings), Chris Ware, Vaughn Oliver, Robert Mcginnis, and Rodrigo Corral.

Food: Have you ever been to Foodswings in NYC? Pretty much the entire menu there.

Comedians: Tig Notaro, Mike Birbiglia, Maria Bamford, Eugene Mirman, Jen Kirkman, Amy Schumer, John Mulaney, and Mitch Hedberg.

Podcasts: James Bonding, Savage Love, Judge John Hodgman.

Fonts: Electra, Fairfield and Metro (W.A. Driggins); Gill Kayo; Bureau Grotesque; and the non-digitized Tempo Light and Sill TV Square Gothic.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I like to put quite silly things in this section, but I'll attempt to be more serious:
• silly things
• people (and cats) to love and be loved by
• good books
• music to dance to
• and New York City
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Typography, Photoshop and composition, and why my desk is a perpetual mess.

I also spend a fair bit of time figuring out ways to repair the plot holes of existing movies and novels. In my head, I have three novels, two coffee table books, an historical non-fiction profile of a lost NYC landmark, and a YA non-fiction book about animals. Very little of this has made it to the page.

Also, snicker doodle French toast. I think about that a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Fridays tend to be a quiet night in with Netflix and a cocktail. I've been working all week, so a relaxing evening in is perfect. However, I can be coaxed out to Big Sound or Electro-Swing when they're on.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm actually 6' tall, I think, but I'd rather round down than maintain perfect posture. I don't care how tall or short you are.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you can suggest an amazing book;
you know some kick-ass running music;
you nerd out about something;
you know who Dan Savage is (or better still, Sex Nerd Sandra); or
you're the darling of the discotheque crowd.

But let's just do tea (or coffee) first.

For the record, I am in an open relationship with a really wonderful partner (whose profile I can direct you to). I really the social aspect of dating and I enjoy meeting/dating new people. I'm looking for someone who wants to catch a movie, take a dances class, or just grab a cup of tea and complain about their day and, if there's chemistry, see where it goes.