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28 Auckland, New Zealand Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 19-40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 16
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Average build
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Indonesian (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I have grown believing that it is better to console than to be consoled, to understand than to be understood, to love than to be loved. Because it is in giving that I received and in pardoning that I am pardoned.
But lately, I have doubts on those beliefs.
Hence, with these doubt, I guess I am officially entering the phase of searching and looking for The Answer, that is, if it really exists.

No, I am not cynical nor pessimistic. I am an optimist who struggle in the ocean of doubts.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I learn everyday and on every occasion. I live to satisfy this insatiable hunger for knowledge.
Curiosity has been a disease of mine since I cannot even remember. This craving to understand what is happening and why it happens and how it happens haunts me, and yet it also drives me alive.

I want it when I die, on my tombstone carved:
"HARYADY, the eternal learner."
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Architecture and Arts
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Gibran's The Prophet, Laozi's Dao De Jing, Louis Kahn: Essential Texts, Tanizaki's In Praise of Shadows, Kakuzo's The Book of Tea, Tagore's Gitanjali, Zumthor's Thinking Architecture and Atmospheres, Zhuangzi, The Meditation of Marcus Aurelius, Austen's Pride and Prejudice, Follet's Pillars of The Earth, Barker's Abarat series, Rowling's Harry Potter series, Steinbeck's Of Mice and Men

Movies: All movies by Peter Jackson and Tim Burton, and some by Christopher Nolan

Shows: 30 Rock, Game of Thrones, True Blood, and Mad Men

Music: Tchaikovsky, Beethoven, Bach, Chopin, Lady Gaga, Madonna, The Cranberries, Amy Winehouse, Duffy, Frank Sinatra, Jo Stafford, Billie Holiday, Nina Simone, Al Green, Ray Charles, The Nashville Teens, The Beatles, The Hollies, Cyndi Lauper, Aretha Franklin, Julie London, Elvis Presley, The Bee Gees, Rosemarry Clooney, Roy Orbison, Diana Ross, Simon and Garfunkel, Bobby Vinton, Ella Fitzgerald, Perry Como, Roy Orbison, and the list goes on...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
and a glass of Bourbon
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Anything and sometimes it could be quite random. For instance, this morning when I'm driving to the office, I thought of how mysterious it is the phenomenon of rain. Forget about the sciences that we've been taught, the idea of water falling from the sky is absolutely magical! And the phenomenon itself, darkness and clouds covering the sky, it was otherworldly to think of such occurance happening in the morning.

The next moment my thought switched to John Lennon, the radio was not even playing any of his song.

I know it is such an anticlimax, but I just cannot help to control how the flow of thought on my mind behaves.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either hanging out with friends, reading books at home (currently Michel Foucault's Madness and Civilization), or writing nothing in particular.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am a secret Machiavellian.
You should message me if
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There lies a free seat beside me on a field green and golden under an apple tree. Beyond the four rivers, the birds sing, there I will be reading while enjoying my cup of tea:

'Twas brillig, and the slithy toves
Did gyre and gimble in the wabe;
All mimsy were the borogoves,
And the mome raths outgrabe.

Should this interest you, perhaps you might want to stop for awhile, and say 'Hi' to me.