Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm funny and I'm intelligent. I tend not to take things seriously
that others seem to think are important. On the other hand, I am
pretty disturbed by phenomena that others perceive as normal. Some
people find me to be too intense. Or maybe just too earnest. I love
my life and am generally happy, but I can be brooding and somewhat
self-absorbed at times. I love people and am fascinated by the fact
that people even exist in the universe, but can also get fairly
introverted and sometimes misanthropic. I have a small circle of
close friends, most of whom unfortunately no longer live in
Lincoln. I'd move to Portland, OR if it weren't for my sons living
here. I won't consider moving away until they're grown. I believe
in treating all people with humor, kindness, and respect, but I'm
always forgetting what I believe in, so I'm a dick sometimes. Then
I chastise myself and get all earnest about correcting my
dickishness. Then forget again and so forth. I don't like petty or
denigrating talk, but I still engage in it sometimes.
My kids come first in my life, and I will remove anything in my
life that gets between me and my sons. They are aged 6 and 11. My
favorite qualities in people are humor, a big heart, and
intelligence, in that order. I am very unhappy with overtly selfish
or materialistic people, but I guess that goes without saying. I do
not care about having a lot of money or accumulating stuff.
I am a secular humanist in despair over the state of the world. As
I said, I really do love life and so I bemoan the accelerating loss
of it. Humankind is on an unfortunate trajectory. I'm interested in
meeting liberal minded free-thinkers who feel the same way.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work with abused people. I mostly love my job and feel that I'm
good at it. People who are suffering can teach you something and
shouldn't be avoided. I am physically active and pretty fit. I like
to run and especially love biking and all things bike-related. I've
been trying to practice Buddhism, but I put "atheism" for my
religious beliefs because I'm neither disciplined not devoted
enough to be a real Buddhist. Oh, and I don't believe in god. I
used to say I did, and that god is that which is greater than the
sum of the whole. I stopped saying that when I realized it doesn't
I'm very handy and I like to build and fix things. I usually have a
project, but sometimes they're mundane. I'm trying to be a good
father to my kids and spend a lot of time at that.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at cutting through bullshit and making people laugh. I
mediate conflicts well. I can fix what has been broken. I like to
speak in front of groups of people (generally about my job). I'm
good at remaining calm when others are not. I can be a spaz though
when it's called for. I can hula-hoop pretty well, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know. I have a hard time understanding what others think of
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: White Noise, Blindness, The Magus, Crime and Punishment, The
Fermata, One Hundred Years of Solititude, Grapes of Wrath, The Way
of All Flesh, Jonathan Livingston Seagull, Ubik, A People's History
of the United States
Movies: Dr. Strangelove, The Graduate, Adaptation, Fido, Gummo, Man
on a Wire, Vernon, Florida, Rushmore
Music: Air, Devo, The Pixies, traditional bluegrass, some older
metal, Judy Collins, Beck, Spratley Japs, Aphrodite's Child, Lou
Food: Hot and spicy and light. I especially like Thai and Indian
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My sense of humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How it is that I came to exist.
What the meaning of all this is.
How I've screwed things up and how I continue to do so.
How I should concentrate on my breathing instead of thinking all
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing something with my kids because that the schedule my ex would
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