I'm funny and I'm intelligent. I tend not to take things seriously
that others seem to think are important. On the other hand, I am
pretty disturbed by phenomena that others perceive as normal. Some
people find me to be too intense. Or maybe just too earnest. I love
my life and am generally happy, but I can be brooding and somewhat
self-absorbed at times. I love people and am fascinated by the fact
that people even exist in the universe, but can also get fairly
introverted and sometimes misanthropic. I have a small circle of
close friends, most of whom unfortunately no longer live in
Lincoln. I'd move to Portland, OR if it weren't for my sons living
here. I won't consider moving away until they're grown. I believe
in treating all people with humor, kindness, and respect, but I'm
always forgetting what I believe in, so I'm a dick sometimes. Then
I chastise myself and get all earnest about correcting my
dickishness. Then forget again and so forth. I don't like petty or
denigrating talk, but I still engage in it sometimes.
My kids come first in my life, and I will remove anything in my
life that gets between me and my sons. They are aged 6 and 11. My
favorite qualities in people are humor, a big heart, and
intelligence, in that order. I am very unhappy with overtly selfish
or materialistic people, but I guess that goes without saying. I do
not care about having a lot of money or accumulating stuff.
I am a secular humanist in despair over the state of the world. As
I said, I really do love life and so I bemoan the accelerating loss
of it. Humankind is on an unfortunate trajectory. I'm interested in
meeting liberal minded free-thinkers who feel the same way.
What I’m doing with my life
I work with abused people. I mostly love my job and feel that I'm
good at it. People who are suffering can teach you something and
shouldn't be avoided. I am physically active and pretty fit. I like
to run and especially love biking and all things bike-related. I've
been trying to practice Buddhism, but I put "atheism" for my
religious beliefs because I'm neither disciplined not devoted
enough to be a real Buddhist. Oh, and I don't believe in god. I
used to say I did, and that god is that which is greater than the
sum of the whole. I stopped saying that when I realized it doesn't
I'm very handy and I like to build and fix things. I usually have a
project, but sometimes they're mundane. I'm trying to be a good
father to my kids and spend a lot of time at that.
I’m really good at
I'm good at cutting through bullshit and making people laugh. I
mediate conflicts well. I can fix what has been broken. I like to
speak in front of groups of people (generally about my job). I'm
good at remaining calm when others are not. I can be a spaz though
when it's called for. I can hula-hoop pretty well, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know. I have a hard time understanding what others think of
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: White Noise, Blindness, The Magus, Crime and Punishment, The
Fermata, One Hundred Years of Solititude, Grapes of Wrath, The Way
of All Flesh, Jonathan Livingston Seagull, Ubik, A People's History
of the United States
Movies: Dr. Strangelove, The Graduate, Adaptation, Fido, Gummo, Man
on a Wire, Vernon, Florida, Rushmore
Music: Air, Devo, The Pixies, traditional bluegrass, some older
metal, Judy Collins, Beck, Spratley Japs, Aphrodite's Child, Lou
Food: Hot and spicy and light. I especially like Thai and Indian
The six things I could never do without
My sense of humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How it is that I came to exist.
What the meaning of all this is.
How I've screwed things up and how I continue to do so.
How I should concentrate on my breathing instead of thinking all
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing something with my kids because that the schedule my ex would
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm full of shit.
You should message me if
You feel like it.