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32 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 32-49
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 21
Straight, Heteroflexible
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
evolutionary. dance-artist. transformation instigator. light-being trying to make sense of this human form.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Reinventing it. Aligning to my calling, listening for the resonance.

I moved to the bay 2.5 years ago, and its been the most fascinating ride of my life - watching old habits and parts of self fall away, witnessing pieces emerge that had been waiting ever so patiently to be expressed and invited out. Looking with wonder at this shiny new evolving self and loving every molecule.

I spend my days building my business (massage therapy, theta healing and energy work, and aromatherapy), dancing for a collaboratively-run dance company, going to contact improv jams and ecstatic dance (it's my Sunday morning church), collaborating on dance film projects, and devoting my life to inquiry that involves the meshing of creativity and transformation.

I make a point to get out of town (often into nature) once a month. Self care is a priority; as is living a high-quality life now.

I'm ready for partnership, and super specific about what I want. I'm happy to wait for the right match and explore as a means to find it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
inciting exciting shit.

laughing. all the time.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
people tell me that I'm embodied. I'm still not totally sure what that means or what that looks like
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
authors instead of books: Rumi, Junot Diaz, Tom Robbins, Starhawk

super interested in the work of energy healers: Barbara Brennan, Louise Hay, Vianna Stibal, and dance makers: Anna Halprin, Liz Lerman, just to skim the surface.

movies: anything that questions/explores consciousness and reality and challenges the way we normally conceptualize these things: inception, eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, matrix, waking life, happenstance, etc. Also really dig fantasy, especially as it applies to contemporary socio-political commentary (ala Hunger Games). I used to be a community organizer for many years, which continues to shape my outlook.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
dance and contact improv
my toolbox of handy-dandy healer/transformation tools
collaborating with amazing people to create wondrous things
my body (she's my smartest working part)
my amazing, brilliant, spread-all-over-the-globe (soul) family.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
This present moment. finding happiness now. and now again.

How I can align with my highest vibrations as frequently as possible.

The power of our thoughts, and the power we all possess within us to manifest our hearts' desires.

What makes for good partnership, and how much the blueprint I received from my parents relationship plays a role in my own relationship construction.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
it varies. a lot. I rarely drink anymore, and I like conscious community and embodied people. So it might be an ecstatic dance, or a party at a friend's (where most of us forget about the alcohol and dance and roll around together). I also LOVE just taking a break from it all with a quiet evening. Self care is awesome.
You should message me if
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You are looking for partnership and are interested and ready to build something solid. I'm available for casual dates to get to know you and see if it's a good fit, but I'm not available for casual sex, so let's not waste our time if that's what you're looking for. While I can be very assertive and up front, I have been enjoying awaiting the invitation, so I most likely won't message you first, and will be more impressed and more likely to be interested if you make the first move.