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38 Madison, WI Man, Cis Man, Gender Nonconforming

Man, Cis Man, Gender Nonconforming

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 6:19pm
Queer, Straight
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 8″ (1.72m)
Body type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Art / Music / Writing
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Other (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Debauchery. Wit. Charm. Coffee.
If these words interest you, read on...

I dropped out young, and then dropped back in and ended up in a PhD program. Academia had me in its grip, but after a few years it became clear to me that happiness lay elsewhere. I travel often, to places both exotic and mundane.

Right now, I'm immersed in a life of quiet, happy debauchery. I laugh at people who think "queer" is an insult... I am probably too in love with ellipses. I've long since stopped writing poetry, but even though my pen has been replaced by the sterile keyboard, I still feel like a poet in my heart...

Be bold and write me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Through talent, a lot of hard work, (privilege,) and some lucky breaks, I am making a life out of my joys instead of grinding it out at a shitty day job. I get to have fun with some wonderful friends between trying to hit my deadlines for editing and writing geeky articles, getting game publishers to give me the information I need, and getting the details down in all manner of promotion and consulting. Also, there is booze and other sinning...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Ideas; real conversation about nearly anything; grappling with and crafting theory; connecting with people; putting words together nice; and speaking of nice: nice shoes...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Milan Kundera
Margaret Atwood
Andrew Vachss
Orson Scott Card
Carol Queen

Good lord. Why not just ask me about which organs are my favorites? (Though, to be fair, Shortbus manages to embody parts of my version of utopia...)

Music: tells me that my most listened to music of this year is, in order:
PJ Harvey
The Cure
Bishop Allen
Liz Phair
Nine Inch Nails
Tom Waits
Screamin' Cyn Cyn and the Pons
Faith No More
(... probably subject to change frequently)

See movies, above.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Those I love, a wonderful home, my wits, the tools of my trade, challenges, and passion and intimacy...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Privilege. Neo-liberalism. Queer theory. Post-positivism. Situated Knowledge. Intersectionality. Rhetoric. Sexuality. Narrowcasting.

Other random thoughts:

I travel a lot. Sometimes when I'm traveling I find myself wondering what the hell I'd do if a zombie apocalypse broke out at that very moment. I think if it happened when I was home I might survive that first wave, but out in the unknown, could I make it without really knowing the lay of the land?

Which states are a part of 'the Midwest'?

What does "Short-term dating" mean to people?

What is the nature of demi-fame?

Why isn't there enough time for everything I wish I could do?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On the road in some random city... Lazing in bed with good food and a movie... At a show letting the music hit me...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
- People keep telling me I'd make a great Companion (a la Inara); I take that as an incredible compliment.

- I met my dear friend wildenights on OkC, so I have high expectations of just how good a connection is possible here.

- I use the profile name 'HedonistPoet' on things like FL and AIM (yes, AIM).

[Pro tip: This section of your profile is giving you an opportunity to let us know who you are. It is not asking what your most private thing is, but, rather the most private thing you are "willing to admit". If that is simply that you love spaghetti, so be it (but I bet you can go deeper than that).]
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
An incomplete checklist for the organized types - not all need apply...

* You view yourself as a stand-out
* You are queer-identified (or understand what that framing means)
* You have an excellent grasp of social rules so that when you break them, it is with a purpose
* You are smart and can be challenging without being obstinate
* You like to reward yourself with little treats
* You know that something fun and casual can also be rich and deep
* You rock

Or, in other words:
*** strong guts, warm heart, bright eyes, sharp mind, hot breath... hopefully, all in the same package, though others may apply...