What I’m doing with my life
I'm often either working or engaged in the search for more work. I
did tax returns this year during tax season. Then I rewarded myself
in May by taking a trip out West. It does me a lot of good to
experience the change in scenery, change in the people I'm spending
time with, and the change in perspective, all of which I get from
I sometimes try to make up for an erratic youth by catching up on
books and subjects I should have gotten through when I was young,
but didn't. It's not the ideal of course to do things decades late,
but I trust that late is better than never. I've dreamt of doing
some writing for a long time, but I am much better at the
daydreaming and planning parts than actually grinding out sustained
intelligible discourse. I garden, but just enough to prevent Total
Weed Takeover and Catastrophic Lawn Wipe-out, and to add nice
plants to the yard like seedum or hyacinths, but I have not found
much time to plant anything edible and harvest it.
The pattern is that I'm coping in life, treading water, but my life
is not yet as exciting or fun as I'd like it to be. Having someone
in my life I look forward to seeing, to talking to, and to
experience interesting things with, would make a big difference.
I’m really good at
Eating pizza and chatting with the wait staff and bartenders at the
restaurant, discussing books and magazine articles I've read,
listening to friends' and clients' troubles and offering what
useful advice I can, continuing to wear clothes that are now too
big on me or perhaps even (how awful!) out of style, going for long
walks outside or around the track at the gym, being informative
about matters I studied and still remember well, avoiding saying or
writing anything extremely seriously misleading, maintaining
legitimate confidences, remembering my nephews' and niece's
birthdays with a card and perhaps a small gift, continuing to
generally grow up a little bit at a time, without rushing it of
course, spending too much time watching sporting events on TV (I
hope to cut down on this in the near future), coming up with an
occasional funny remark, witticism, or play on words, attending
free concerts I find out about, heating up, serving, and eating
frozen cheese blintzes with sour cream, trying to save the lawn
with heroic acts of watering and weeding, and sometimes going on
longer on a certain subject or point than I may actually have to.
The first things people usually notice about me
Whether I've shaved recently or not.
My blue eyes.
Whether I'm blocking their car and need me to move mine.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'll start with books I've read recently first: Pericles of Athens
and the Birth of Athenian Democracy, Passages (by Gail Sheehy),
Lovesong to the Plains (a historical work by Mari Sandoz), The
Lovely Bones, Breadwinners, and Plato and a Platypus Walk into a
Bar; examples of some great books I read further back in time are
Michener's The Source, Dostoevski's Crime and Punishment, and Leon
I like jazz and blues music a great deal, and attend afford
classical music concerts around town that I find out about fairly
One movie I have seen fairly recently was an excellent movie
telling the story of Temple Grandin, who grew up with a serious
autism problem but learned how to function in the mainstream and
even pioneered some more humane techniques of raising and handling
cattle (she is good at empathizing what things are like from their
perspective). The movie starred Claire Dane.
In general, I watched too much TV and too many movies when I was
young, so I feel kind of "blah" about those mediums at this point
in my life. Maybe at some point some enthusiasm about the best
examples of those things may return someday, however.
The six things I could never do without
Pizza, wine, my cell phone, my computer equipment, my membership at
Prairie Life, and my glasses.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How frustrated I get sometimes living in Omaha without a kind,
intelligent girlfriend to talk to about life and the good and bad
things it brings us, to go out with to concerts and other cultural
events, to travel with to fun and interesting places, and to
generally spice things up! And, consequently, about where I'd like
to move if my situation in Omaha does not improve significantly in
that area of my social life within two or three years or so.
On a typical Friday night I am
Attending a Narcotics Anonymous meeting (I don't use drugs anymore,
but it lowers my stress and boosts my spirits to share the tale of
the effort involved in abstaining with those with similar
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I knowingly, premeditatedly, and outrageously plagiarized my older
sister's old high school Emerson-and-Thoreau paper and turned it in
as my own work. I've of course deservedly hated myself for it ever
You should message me if
you can communicate in English and/or basic Spanish. I prefer good
spellers but will bend in cases where the writer is in a big hurry.