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30 Ottawa, Ontario, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–100
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My details

Last online
Feb 12
Asian, Pacific Islander, Other
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body type
Full figured
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Other, and very serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Latin (Poorly), Tagalog (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hexpiritus is a settler on a portion of Turtle Island, a.k.a. Canada, who immigrated with their blood relatives from a lovely archipelago colonized in the name of King Philip II, a.k.a. the Philippines. They is privileged from the European colonial, capitalist system by being non-disabled/able-bodied with Canadian citizenship, post-secondary education, and employment. They is a proud, sex-positive genderqueer, geek, transfeminist, survivor, and animist who is part of the Bikolano/Filipino diaspora.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
a.k.a. Things To Accept If You Want To Hang Out

(Updated November 2013)

1) I'm genderqueer, transgender, and multi-gendered. That means you won't be freaked out that I resist the gender binary, fuck around with gender norms and am doing hormone therapy to further become my true self.
2) I'm an activist focused on anti-oppression and decolonization. I work for social justice, I volunteer for various collectives and agencies, and I participate in direct action campaigns and discussion groups-- this is my life, and expect to be gently called on your privilege (white, ableist, patriarchal, cissexist, heteronormative, colonial, etc.) if you interact with me.
3) I'm an animist/mystic/spiritworker. I've a background in chaos magick and my ancestral traditions as well as Northern Tradition Paganism. I honour my ancestors and local spirits. I cultivate a relationship with my environment. I employ psychological techniques that look like magick and magick that looks like psychology. I am an epistemological anarchist, psychonaut, and believer.
4) I'm a performer/speaker/presenter. Because of this, locally, I do a lot of events where I'm talking a lot.
5) I'm a survivor and relict. I need support from a network of folks I consider my family as well as those who are specifically there to support and counsel me as I continue my recovery from trauma and abuse. Also, I still grieve for my deceased partner, Bwanageek. Though we never married, we were together for 3 years and co-habitated. I have very specific concepts about boundaries, nonviolent and radical communication, triggers, and support that need to be understood and respected above all things.
6) I'm neuroatypical/multiple. This is fairly private, so I can explain it to you if you're interested. Generally, I've got apparently high emotional and mental intelligence with differentiated and adaptive personality mechanisms partially instigated by trauma.
7) I'm currently seeing 3 people in loving, fulfilling, sexy, longterm relationships where they consider me family and I consider them family. Generally, check out this blog article for the principles of what that would involve.
8) I'm kinky. This is the kind of thing you'll have to ask about if you want details. Or you can probably find me on FetLife.

Shit I'm Working On That Might Eventually Irritate You
- My able-bodied privilege and colonial privilege as a settler on Turtle Island, specifically "Canada"
- Trying to get back into frequent and steady physical fitness
- Gender dysphoria and body dysmorphia
- A balance between working too much and hiding from the world
- I am horny. Like, a lot. And kinky horny, i.e. vanilla sex won't cut it
- I sometimes have time management issues, where I double-book, overcommit, show up late, or forget about a meeting
- I text really slowly and prefer talking on the phone or face-to-face
- I'm a bit of a rescuer and have to work on not trying to fix your problems or offer advice or take responsibility for your shit
- I'm a talker, to the point where folks may consider it TMI, overshare, or indiscreet (though I still do my utmost to protect folks' privacy, it's good to assume that if you don't tell me who is allowed to know this information in blunt terms, I will talk about it)
- I am unpredictably unpredictable, chaotic, and messy (literally and figuratively)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Over-indulgent self-analysis.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm short, and I dress and/or act like a cross between The Doctor and a brown-skinned Margaret Cho-- just with a lot more black clothing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.

a) I'm a die-hard-core bookworm. I'll just say genres: anti-oppression, Epic fantasy, sci-fi, magic realism, urban fantasy, dark fantasy, horror, romantic horror, theater of the absurd, theater of cruelty, surrealism, experimental, sacred scriptures, literary criticism, philosophical texts, comedic fantasy, and poetry of all kinds.

b) Films: Cloud Atlas, Stranger Than Fiction, Donnie Darko, I *Heart* Huckabees, Session Nine, Nightmare Before Christmas, Hedwig & The Angry Inch... bah, there are too many to go into. My favorite are experimental, mindfuckers, horror, certain types of comedy, and philosophy.

c) Favourite shows right now: Adventure Time, Bravest Warriors, Archer, Sherlock, Doctor Who, Glee, My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic (bronies reprezent!), Fringe, Community, Game of Thrones.

d) Eclectic, varied, ever-changing taste, of course. Genres: triphop, emo, punk, screamo, metal, intelligent hiphop, IDM, electronica, breakbeat, drum&bass, trance, alternative, industrial, experimental, folk rock, art rock, classical, ska, britpop, darkwave, grunge, j-rock/pop.

e) Mangos, avocados, bubble sherbet, salt and pepper tofu, fettucine alfredo, faux rotisserie chicken, anything ube-flavoured, creamy sauces, spicy food, chocolate, cheese, polvoron, etc.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.

1) my physical capabilities

2) my mental faculties

3) my ability to create

4) knowledge, wisdom, learning

5) music that touches me, and the ability to appreciate it

6) connection to the world, people, and Spirit

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Existence. On the nature of nature, and on the nature of human beings. How I can improve myself as a person and learn from my mistakes. How I can balance diverse visions and goals and not have my head explode. The people and things I love. Decolonization. How to make the world a better place. Basic survival and beyond. Resisting oppression. Building communities. Recovery and Spirit.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Performing, spectating, reading, studying, writing, drawing, on my laptop, cuddling with one of my partners/lovers (like aryndroid), babysitting the kids of one of my other partners, watching a movie, gaming, partying, hanging out with a friend or more, praying/meditating, communing/venerating, or passed out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that the most important things to me in my life right now are recovery, decolonization, spiritual growth, creative growth, and family (chosen and of origin).
You should message me if
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you're interested in making a new casual friend who may not have the time to respond right away or frequently or maybe you just want to learn more about anything I wrote in my profile. Please note that I'm not looking for a new relationship or fling right now.