You want to be friends! I'm always open to new friends. However, if
you want to date me:
There are a few things I am looking for in a guy, and now that I've
dated a bit I think I can give shape and context to some of those
things. It is my nature not to want to exclude anyone and to give
everyone a chance, but if I'm not honest about what I want here
then I won't find what I'm looking for.
I want to date a man who shares my Christian beliefs. This is a
must. My last relationship fell apart because we were not
compatible in this respect. This doesn't mean I'm looking for
someone who's lived the Christian life to the letter (I certainly
haven't, though I should have); it just means that fundamentally I
want you to have accepted Jesus into your heart and to want to
challenge me to grow in my faith as I will challenge you to grow in
yours, despite whatever mistakes we've made in the past.
I love children, but I'm not ready for them, and I'm not ready to
date a guy who has them. This may be seen as selfish, but I want to
eventually start a family with someone for the first time,
together. If I already had children, I'd probably be looking to
date another single parent, but I want our relationship to be the
most important thing to us long before that happens. If you have a
child, your child will always come first, not me. That is expected
and admirable, but I want to be first priority.
Lastly, I want to date someone who will make healthy choices with
me and encourage good habits. I've been very fat before, and I
don't want to go back to that lifestyle. I've been running 30 min a
day most days, and eating mostly veggies. I want to date someone
who will not only be supportive of this, but do it with me. I can't
keep it up on my own long term without the encouragement and
support. This doesn't mean I insist on dating a guy who is already
physically fit, just someone who will work towards it with me and
is already doing some of these things on their own. I'm certainly
not there yet.
If you're still reading and I haven't scared you off, please send
me a message :)
I promise I will reply to the first one.