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49 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:32pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I’ve been blessed to fall in love with and be loved by some wonderful women in my life. Smart, beautiful, opinionated and outspoken women. Incredible women really. I have extraordinary taste in women in fact - so if I message you, no pressure, you're probably extraordinary. I am as thankful for the tremendous love that was bestowed on me by these women as I am for their courage in calling me out on what they perceived as b.s. - it made me far less bullshitty. It made me the man I am today… a good man. A great man if I’m to be frank, and I am the living embodiment of Frank.

I am also mindful that I would not be the man I am today without my old man (also Frank) who showed me how to love and treat a woman. Nor would I be the man I am without my mom who called Frank the first on his own particular b.s. and well demonstrated the expectations a woman should have (and how those should be met). Saints they weren't, loving - demonstrably.

Dad always said I was no Junior… “Ock, he’s his own wee Frank” he’d say in his rollicking Irish brogue. That’s still true, I’ve always been my “own wee Frank,” but like the old man before me, I’m at my best when in love with and accompanied by a spirited, progressive, loving and intellectually curious counterpart… perhaps you?

When forced to self-promote online, I’ll cop to being intelligent, romantic, passionate, loving and thoughtful. I appreciate all those same qualities in a woman as well. I'm a door-holding, subway seat offering, generous tipping gentleman who occasionally buys cat food for the local homeless man who bought 2 rats from Petland because of course he needs something to love. He's pet my dogs for years and to see the love and heartbreak in his eyes when he talks about the stray dogs he adopted and grew up with in Mexico would make you cry. Of course now those two white rats have morphed into 28 white rats living in a laundry cart with blankets and crates. That's a lot of rat love. I told "Vicente" that at this rate he could have 364 rats pretty soon. He asked me if I'd like one or two. "Penelope - she's a good rat, Frank, maybe Oscar too." At this time I have no plans to adopt any rats to add to my rescue pit and pug.

Oh, and if it matters, I'm fit as all heck. Seriously fit (but not so damn fit I don't maintain a sense of humor in the gym - way too many precious moments to wear that constipated "fit-face" I see all too often). Oh, I say things like “all heck” because although my old man was from Belfast, I grew up in Nebraska.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a life and career coach. I ran my own professional resume preparation and career counseling firm for many years and found that I was digging into every facet of my clients' lives - helping their kids get into the right college, composing eulogies and corporate speeches, writing Dear John / Jane letters, and even helping them date - all after I'd helped them find the right job. Thus life coach. I'm extremely good at what I do if i may be so bold. I'm one hell of a life coach and motivator - half pat-on-the-back, three quarters kick-in-the-ass.That's 5/4's to you the consumer... A whole extra quarter at no cost. But wait there's more. You'll also receive...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
writing just about anything.
fixing just about anything, or securing it to your wall.
Karaoke Ringer - Simple Minds, Billy Idol, Steppenwolf
dancing like an idiot to make my nieces laugh.
dancing like an idiot to make myself laugh.
recognizing when I'm full of my own b.s.
Karaoke deity.
public speaking.
working with my hands.
holding my own in most conversations.
helping people find meaningful work.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eye-catching, ridiculously affectionate dogs... and then, maybe my smile? Maybe you'll tell me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Hardboiled Wonderland and the End of the World
Wind-up Bird Chronicle
Out by Natsuo Kirino
Confederacy of Dunces
Rogue Male by Geoffrey Household (sounds ridiculous but really a superbly crafted, chippy British suspense thriller)
In the Miso Soup
Freedom - no not by Brad Thor, Lord save me - Franzen
The Corrections
The Demolished Man
Short stories of Etgar Keret
The Selfish Gene
The God Delusion
All Vonnegut
So many more...

The American Astronaut
This is Spinal Tap
The Good, the Bad & the Ugly
Sonatine, Dolls (and others by Beat Takeshi)
Many wonderful Japanese films that I can't think of now.
Das Boot
Safe Men
3-Iron (and lots of other Korean films that escape me now)

Joe Strummer & the Mescaleros, Manu Chao, Mano Negra, Patti Smith, Paul Weller, Bill Morrissey, Alanis Morissette, Neil Young, Ani DiFranco, Chet Baker & Faker, Johnny Cash, Nina Simone, Eminem, Miles Davis, Lou Reed, Bob Dylan, U2, Greg Brown, Serge Gainsbourg, The White Stripes, Bach, Brahms, Chopin, Ok Go. Rodriguez... Way too many to name really.

Afghan, Thai, Japanese, Chinese, French, and mom's comfort food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
a good laugh
a great read
engaging conversation
something to write with / on
a DeWalt cordless drill
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How fortunate I am. And when I read a bit too much of the news... how anyone could vote republican. (typo though it is, I just can't bring myself to capitalize the damn thing)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going out to dinner with my friends. Walking my woofies, chatting up Hell's Kitchen acquaintances and meeting new people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My pit bull is bisexual and my pug, a lipstick lesbian... that's the most private thing I'm willing to admit on a public website. My dogs can't read for crap. I'm pretty much an open book - ask me. In person, I shoot from the hip. I am ridiculously Frank.
You should message me if
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You appreciate a man who loves your intellect. You like a guy who looks at being wrong as another way of learning something new or an opportunity to change something within himself for the better. You love great conversation. You want someone versatile enough to put his three cents in or keep it to himself as the situation demands. Or you'd just really like to. Oh, and I think it's worth noting that I very much respect your privacy - so if we get to the point of exchanging phone numbers, I'm not going to abuse the privilege... because that's what it is.

And for what it's worth - I date all my photos. They're all from last year save Obama, so if you like what you see, that's the guy showing up. Not someone 15 lbs heavier, 10 years older or 500 hairs balder. My hair does flirt with Anderson Cooper gray at times and then comes back a little darker. Odd really. I'm sure eventually I'll be all salt no pepper. I've heard the stories and do my best to be a nice surprise... not a surprise.

Oh, and thank you in advance for your thoughtful messages; I'm not always able to respond - which gnaws at me a bit more than it should perhaps - given the nature of on-line dating, but I truly appreciate the sentiment and time spent.

Lastly, unfortunately I'm severely allergic to cats - I love the heck out of them, and for whatever reason even the most antisocial deli cats seem to love me - but petting one for a minute results in a reaction that can last days. Sorry to say that I'm woofy-only.