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28 Ventura, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 27–34
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Nov 20
White, Other
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Full figured
When drinking
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of space camp
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Please read the last section of my profile, before you read the rest, and especially before you contact. Thank you.

Well, I am officially in a relationship. I have a fiance, and a boyfriend. This means I am polyamorous. I love both my guys very much. Why am I here? Well. The site is called OKCupid, but i have made some amazing friendships over the years because of this site. I just moved to CA. I don't have many friends. Mostly because my roommates don't have a lot of money and I can't currently drive due to health and the fact that I have sever anxiety because of a really bad experience the first time I was behind the wheel. So... If you wanna hang, you will have to drive. And pay. Which.. well.. Isn't all that fair, but it is what it is. I am disabled, I fight through many illnesses, and I have no income because of them. I don't like it. I will talk about it if you want. But this isn't me whining to you, or looking for some sort of pity. Regardless of what you might thing when you read this. My illnesses are a VERY real and VERY prominent part of my life. If you can't handle that, then we can't hang.

I am not looking for a sexual relationship at this time.
Here is a link to something I wrote, that explains why.

I suggest you read it before you go any further into this thing.


I am:
A logical female
Creative and loyal
Smart and Understanding
Major fan of a robot band/ pantomime troupe
Animal lover
Part of the LGBTQ+ community
A feminist...

I also knit, crochet and sew. Which basically means I fix and modify clothes to suit a look or purpose. Don't be surprised if I can make my own outfit out of something mundane. It's a gift and a challenge. I do this to earn a little income. And when I say "a little", I mean it.

I am the type to tell it like it is, but I am also shy. I have a bit of social anxiety that affects conversations at times. I read them but I don't respond until I am good and ready... Anyways...

I am a bigger lady and so well aware of it that I thought I would tell you before you tell me! I get this all the time. Like its news.
Well. I have news for you! "Fat" is just a descriptive word. It isn't a dirty one. It isn't an insult. So don't even try it. :)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Currently I am pretty much waiting. For a lot of things to fall into place. Moving in with my fiance, and spending time with him and my boyfriend. But that will be later.

Right now I am crocheting and knitting, trying to get my hobby turned into something that will earn me a more steady income. Not just for money sake, but because I love doing it and I love what I make and I want to share it with other people.

I help my roommates tend to their Emotional Support Animals, which happen to also be potbellied pigs. A pain in my ass, but wonderful creatures. I have learned a lot from them.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
• Giving advice
• being a friend
• taking self portraits
• crocheting,
• knitting
• listening
• utilizing Google (if I can't find it, either it hasn't been cataloged online yet, or it doesn't exist. I'm awesome at finding things)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I am a very good breast propulsion device. They manage to beat me in the room every time so I have to be doing something right...;) We're a group act though they don't ventriloquism sucks lol.

I have dreads and I dress in layers... and they often don't match, but I'm quite comfortable. There's a reason I picked this screen name...

I have an accent. It is dreadfully Southern and for some reason, despite having been out of the South a long time...everyone picks up on it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Its a little long, just to warn you.


Just about anything by Stephen King, Jim Butcher, L. J. Smith, Ann Rice, J.k. Rowling, P.C. and Kristin Cast, Kathy Reichs.... I LOVE to read, so my "to read" list is growing larger by the day...


Doctor Who, Bones, SG:U, SG:1, Eureka, Chuck, Dexter, The Simpsons, American Dad, Family Guy, Robot Chicken, Extreme Makeover: Home Edition, Castle, Forever Knight, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, Charmed, Dollhouse, Firefly, Andromeda, Warehouse 13, Life After People, Sanctuary, Fringe, Star Wars: The Clone Wars, Full Metal Alchemist (and Brotherhood), Blood+, InuYasha, Cowboy Bebop, Trigun, Samurai X, Samurai Champloo, Bleach, DeathNote, Eureka 7, Sailor Moon Tru Calling, Kyle XY, John Doe, Smallville, Invader Zim, Dark Angel, Futurama, Farscape, Vampire Diaries, True Blood, Cats 101, Dogs 101, CSI: Crime Scene Investigators, CSI: NY, CSI: Miami, White Collar, Burn Notice, House, Glee, Avatar: The Last Airbender


9, The Last Unicorn, Bram Stoker's Dracula (1992), The Boondock Saints, Legend, Singing In The Rain, Avatar, Underworld 1-3, Kill Bill Vol 1-2, Taken, Coraline, Lie With Me, Push, Watchmen, Monsters Vs. Aliens, The Fast and the Furious (that whole series), Wolverine, Angels and Demons, Night at the Museum 1-2, Up, Land of the Lost, Transformers 1-2, Ice Age 1-3, They Came from Upstairs, District 9, Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs (Though it was NOTHING like the book, it was it was still a fun movie), Paranormal Activity 1-2, The Devil's Rejects,

(ok, so you have a general idea. I like most movies, even if most others don't, like The Last Air Bender. I also dislike movies that other love... Like Jennifer's Body, House of 1,000 Corpses, and Hostel, and not for reason's you might think.)


If I hear it, and it doesn't annoy me, I'll listen to it.
Here's a super short list of what I listen to, regularly:
Indigo Girls, Lady Gaga, Chimaira, Lamb of God, Matchbox Twenty, Steam Powered Giraffe, Nora Jones, Lacuna Coil, God Forbid, Killswitch Engage, My Chemical Romance..... And that's just the beginning... LOL

I'm a damn good cook, just FYI. Well, what I can cook, I cook it well. Even when I cook the same meal over and over, it never tastes quite the same, and always tastes way better than it looks, sometimes lol I'm really good at following recipes and putting my own spin on the dish. This makes it easy for me to learn how to stray away from the familiar, when it comes to cooking.

On to the list of food likes and dislikes! (I was getting there, I swear!)

⇨ Some Vegan and Vegetarian dishes.
⇨Chinese,Thai, and Italian food
⇨"Poor Man" meals
⇨Southern Soul Food
⇨Alfredo (Its one of my favorite meals to cook, because I always manage to impress folks with it.) I like shrimp, chicken, pork, steak, or lobster, in my Alfredo.
⇨Gluten free mac n cheese from Whole Foods... They are packaged like a frozen dinner. Freaking delicious.

⇨raw onions and raw carrots (I'm allergic to them uncooked)
⇨the texture of mushrooms
⇨Vernors... (Yeah sue me. Canada Dry is what I grew up on. Its what i prefer.)


Fable: The Lost Chapters, Fable II
Halo 2 (I haven't played the first or third)
The Sims
Castlevania: Curse of Darkness
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
aside from food and shelter, and clothing (duh):
1) The memory of my cat, Ryuu, who was my familiar, and very close to my heart.
2) knitting needles, crochet hook, yarn, and scissors
3) love, laughter, and hugs
4) a good book (digital or paper)
5) my laptop, a power source, internet, iPod, and phone (yes, these things should, and always will, go together!) <-- I'm so lame LOL
6) coffee/tea, bottled water
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
• My next big knitting or crochet project.
• Why documentaries are so damn addictive...
• What I did before my tumblr membership.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
honestly, I am knitting, or doing some other craft related. I watch a lot of I watch documentaries.

My days are pretty tame. Boring to most, but entertaining to me.

I'd love to meet new people. I am not into "hooking up". But making new friends is a plus. Prefer those in Ventura, or very close to there. Mostly because I don't have a car, ya know?

I'd love a bonfire on the beach or something. I just don't have many options. So I spend my time being creative. :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have come close to death, twice in my life. Unforgettable experience tend to stick with you.

Also...I love tattoos, especially touching them (though I'm considerate and don't touch without permission).
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are not a "gangsta", "wigger" or "juggalo". I DO NOT get along with these types of people!!!
• you believe in equal rights marriage.
• you believe a woman has the right to choose what happens to her body.
you don't think that being gay is a sin. (or any other sexuality for that matter... I am bisexual, bordering on pansexual. I can't be with, or be friends with, someone who thinks I'm going to hell just because I might fall in love with someone who has a different or same sex/gender that I do) Here is a link that explains Pansexuality:
• are aware that sex and gender are two different things and are open minded about gender identities (I consider myself genderfluid. This is not the same as being trans. And even if it was, if you don't respect me, we can't hang)
• you've made it this far, and saw something you liked. Whether it be a romantic interest, or just strictly friendship. I know it was a lot to read.
• you fall within my age requirements

All I ask is that when you contact me, you put more than just "hi, how are you" in the message.... I can't start a conversation with a single line. I need more to go on. What made you write me? What do you remember from my profile? tell me something that's not in your profile. Ask me questions. You are more likely to get a response from me if you actually put effort into your message. :) Also. I don't answer messages from people who don't have a picture of their face on their profile. I also don't answer messages from people who have barely any info in their profile. I don't expect them to be as long as mine. But it would be nice to know more than a paragraph about the person who thinks we may have something in common.

If you don't put more then a couple of words in the message, don't be surprised if I don't answer you....

Lastly, GOOGLE IS YOU FRIEND. If you want to know what various words mean, look them up. And DO NOT use urb an dictionsry. Seriously. Just don't. Now. If you have more personal, yet respectful questions, about how certain things affect me, then ask.