Some life highlights:

- I have traversed the Congo twice
- I have kissed the Queen of England's hand
- I can and will duel if my honor is challenged
- I have smuggled opium across the Khyber Pass
- I can walk a tightrope backwards blindfolded
- I have been held captive, deep in the Amazon by cannibals, and lived to tell about it
- I have a talent with turning tight lids on pesky picklejars
- I still like to write notes with a feather quill pen
- I used to commute daily on the Concorde
- I was the one who suggested Miley Cyrus cut her hair short (she does look better)
- I invented the Ginsu knife

However...

I'm a humble soul. I am simple. I tend to not take myself so seriously and enjoy the quiet in between. And I love to laugh..

I am not expecting anything from this foray into online dating, but I figured I would give it a try.

I'm a very private person, meaning, I don't like putting my image on a website that feels like a big wedding reception I just crashed uninvited. However, The big reason is that I work in the internet security field, so my privacy is pretty important to me and others. I've gotten some flak over it, and I'm truly sorry, but those who have reached out to me have had several face photos promptly dispatched to their inbox..

As to how I look? I think I'm good looking, hard to not let the ego take over here. I've never had a problem getting dates. I do have to confess, that some of the face photos of me that I will send you, have been touched up slightly. But only because the three day heroin and meth binge brings out my forehead lines. I do clean up nicely tho..

The life principle I live by is that I don't need to be right. I would prefer to be happy. I need a partner who feels the same. Arguing to me is part of relationships, but I feel that one can say tough things and still remain open minded, empathetic and compassionate. I have tasted the water from the "I'm right" well, and it goes down good, but sadly leaves a really bad tummy ache afterwards.. I prefer to think of myself as having strong opinions and morals, but should always welcome new ideas. It's good to keep that ego in check.. Humility is a very underrated quality..

A few years ago I learned to my horror, well not really horror, but I learned that I tended to react too much to what others said, that is, thinking about what "I" was going to say, instead of just shutting up. It was one of those life lessons that hits you all at once. Ultimately this lead to realizing it's much better to just listen, and I think it's an underrated character accent. As with most things worth doing, it takes a little practice... But I like practicing it...

I don't know everything. I don't suppose to know everything. To me, to say "I don't know..." is a very spirtual exercise. It's ok not to be an expert in everything.. I love it when someone just says, "nope, I no idea.." We become teachable in those moments, I believe.

I am from the east coast originally.. But have very much gotten used to winter temperatures that don't get above 50 degrees most days.

I've taken the Myer Briggs test three times and each time scored the same, INTJ, which I guess is a good thing (no multiple personality disorders). The nice part about it was that one my heroes, George Marshall (of the Marshall plan for those history buffs here), was also an INTJ.

I like to use that useless fact as an ice breaker whenever I'm in small talk hell...you know that hell, when suddenly you're accosted at the trade convention or dinner party by the "sales" guy who can't stop talking?.."hey...(with his hands dangling in the air like revolvers) whats your name? and what do you do??? Ahhhhh..."did you know that George Marshall was an INTJ?"..
Works every time..

I was about one hour away from enlisting in the Marines at 18. Long story, but a good one. Instead I bought a one way ticket to London and spent the entire summer of '89 in Europe all by my lonesome (well, not alone the whole time) It was the coming of age I always dreamed of..and still look back on it with fond memories.

I love effortless discussion. Having that "talk" chemistry is such a good feeling, it's one of those prized qualities I look for in dating women, "is talking to you effortless?" YES!! its like a tuning fork, feels great.

Lets see, on the odd things I do?, well, I like to read Craigslist "Missed Connections". Some of the saddest and most romantic writings I've ever read -- these coming from mainly anonymous souls mind you.

I love old photography, like late 19th and early 20th century stuff. I love abstraction and minimalists like Agnes Martin. I also like some performance art, like Bruce Nauman. "Clown Torture" was one of the most profound pieces of art I've ever experienced/seen...

So, basically, after reading all that, if you like draft boat excursions down the Congo, drinking quinine to ward off malaria, the fear of starvation and the possibility of getting lock jaw or small pox, then I'm the man for you.

This has been a quiet time in my life, and I'm as content as I've ever been. I thought it might be time to try dating and meeting new people. I have good close friends who set me up from time to time, but for whatever reason, I'm still single. Not that I don't know what love feels like, I do. I'm not in any hurry and when the moment reveals itself, it will be the right time. I tend to not force or "hold" on too long. I would much prefer to be honest with myself and my partner than to drag something out for the sake of "not wanting to be lonely.." Or fear. Or whatever those four horsemen of emotions are... However, I am loyal to a fault.. I tend to "see things through" and have never let the little things detract me from the greater whole.

Passionless love is still love, but it can eat the soul - which is why I ultimately think physical attraction is important. I'm not naive either, and have had to work at my relationships, that is, after a few years things change... But have always felt and have experienced a degree of effortlessness with every long term partner..

Chemistry to me is measured by how easily we talk or write with one another. The commonness of interests and views I prize that feeling when dating women. To be at ease with both the discussion and the silence in between is a very comforting feeling for me and I hope for you.

I work hard, but not that hard. I enjoy my free time, but I also feel that it's important to not think about ones self too much, hence why I volunteer religiously. It's something that gives me great personal satisfaction. Not in the action, but in the result. It's that feeling of being spiritually connected and in tune. I get that when I help others who are in need of help or are less advantaged than me.

One of my most favorite quotes is from Ghandi, when he said “Almost everything you do will seem insignificant, but it is important that you do it.."

Back massages
Foot massages
Feeding pack animals
Warding off evil spirits
Making orange juice
Not taking life too seriously
Listening
Compassion
Love

- My blue eyes
- That I'm lanky..
- That I'm cute shy
- Smile
- Height (6-2)
- My hands (not sure why, but have had people say I have soft, beautiful hands)

I have 17k songs in iTunes Match

I'm an album guy, that is, I like to understand the context of the time in which the music was written rather than searching out hits from the album.

Dylan's "Blood on the Tracks" has been playing lately
The band Fleet Foxes has been in the ear buds lately.

Some favorite movies would be "Janie Jones", "Garden State".. I really like the new Denzel movie "Flight" and I love pretty much everything by the Coen Brothers. There are so many to choose from, but these popped into my head first.

I have eclectic tastes in travel. I've been all over the world, with the exception of Australia, just haven't had the chance. I like warm beaches but also like cold winters where blankets and having a warm partner next to you is heaven.

My favorite place on earth is probably all of South East Asia, where I've lived and traveled extensively in.

My favorite part of the US is Point Judith, right outside Newport, Rhode Island. For many reasons it remains my fav, but mainly for the time I found a bit of peace in a turbulent time one late spring day.

- my horse "Traveller" (10 pts if you can tell me whose horse this was?)
- my down pillow
- my satellite phone
- my frequent flyer mileage
- dueling pistols
- lemons
- my beeper
- antibiotics
- oxygen

-- wait. That's more than six. Sorry

Others... And not me..

And how bad guys can take advantage of lack computer security. (What I do for $$$)

- looking for buried treasure
- seeing how fast I can run in circles on a treadmill
- being of service to my fellow man at the homeless shelter
- people watching
- playing cards
- perfecting my hummus recipe
- finishing up my "paint by number" watercolor
- saving the whales

Oh boy...

I still like listening to "Duran Duran?" Or that I still believe in the Easter Bunny?

Whew!!

These are some things I look for:

you are beauty in motion..
you are effortless...
you are strong...
you have a sad smile... (i like that..)
you have eyes behind your head
you perch like a cat
you are loyal
you can be sad and happy at the same time
you need to laugh
you want to be loved
you have experienced love
you have hurt and been hurt
you don't need shelter from the storm
you have wasted and savored time
you work hard
you try to make those around you feel welcome
you are caring
you understand empathy
you can and have been mean, but don't want to anymore
you feel alone sometimes
you have a soft touch
you can be rough
you crave touch, but like your space
you want to be close, but are ok from afar
you are scared, but value hero
you despise fake
you feel everyone should have a fair chance
you don't get in the way
you want to believe
you want to be quiet
you want stability, but secretly risk
you always land on your feet
you can't wait, but are patient
you have shame, but have found relief
you want peace of mind
you want no nonsense
you are authentic
you don't test
you are comfortable with your body
you feel sexy naked with the lights on
you can listen while others are talking
you find beauty in people
you can look at all sides of a problem
you see the good

you deserve and want perfect...