Can you be a misanthrope and still be able to recognize the beauty in anyone? I can find the beauty in very ugly things, but it seems to me that I can go around recognizing beauty as much as I want but if I still think that everybody is a little bit shitty in one way or another then I must be a misanthrope. I do think everybody (myself included) has something shitty about them. Maybe it's only a tiny little shitty thing, invisible to the naked eye, but there's always something.
Can you be a misanthrope and want to spend time around people you love? It seems to me that although I have many dear friends and a large family that I love up to the sky there is still not anyone that I want to spend all of my time around. I guess I'm hoping that someone like that will turn up somewhere. But if I'm a misanthrope then I probably shouldn't get my hopes up too high.
Can you be a misanthrope and want to see everyone happy all of the time? Does being a misanthrope mean thinking that everybody deserves something and they'd all better get what they deserve? Sometimes people deserve to suffer. Suffering is, I suspect, an intractable aspect of the human condition. If everyone suffers, does that mean that everyone deserves to suffer? If everyone deserves to suffer does that mean we're all a bunch of assholes? Who knows?
I guess I don't want to commit myself to the "misanthrope" label. Sure I think many of us are assholes. Sure I think we're fucking things up left and right and on a massive scale. But I also think that our collective hearts are more good then bad. I think we are capable of great and amazing and spiritual and beautiful things as well as gross and abhorrent and selfish and ugly things.
No, I don't think misanthropy rings true for me. I think I'm gonna go with "skeptical secular humanist". Does that seem reasonable?