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38 M Phoenix, AZ

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Other, and very serious about it
Graduated from university
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English, French (Poorly), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Maybe I'm a misanthrope.

Can you be a misanthrope and still be able to recognize the beauty in anyone? I can find the beauty in very ugly things, but it seems to me that I can go around recognizing beauty as much as I want but if I still think that everybody is a little bit shitty in one way or another then I must be a misanthrope. I do think everybody (myself included) has something shitty about them. Maybe it's only a tiny little shitty thing, invisible to the naked eye, but there's always something.

Can you be a misanthrope and want to spend time around people you love? It seems to me that although I have many dear friends and a large family that I love up to the sky there is still not anyone that I want to spend all of my time around. I guess I'm hoping that someone like that will turn up somewhere. But if I'm a misanthrope then I probably shouldn't get my hopes up too high.

Can you be a misanthrope and want to see everyone happy all of the time? Does being a misanthrope mean thinking that everybody deserves something and they'd all better get what they deserve? Sometimes people deserve to suffer. Suffering is, I suspect, an intractable aspect of the human condition. If everyone suffers, does that mean that everyone deserves to suffer? If everyone deserves to suffer does that mean we're all a bunch of assholes? Who knows?

I guess I don't want to commit myself to the "misanthrope" label. Sure I think many of us are assholes. Sure I think we're fucking things up left and right and on a massive scale. But I also think that our collective hearts are more good then bad. I think we are capable of great and amazing and spiritual and beautiful things as well as gross and abhorrent and selfish and ugly things.

No, I don't think misanthropy rings true for me. I think I'm gonna go with "skeptical secular humanist". Does that seem reasonable?
What I’m doing with my life
-Cooking for the masses from the banquet kitchen of a giant resort.
-Helping my parents. They're in a position where they need it and I'm in a position where I can give it.
-Trying to be more social. My circle is smaller than it has been before and I want to boost it back up where it belongs.
-Planning my great scheme. I don't
believe that running a kitchen in a giant resort is what I'm meant to do for the rest of my life.
-Hunting a unicorn.
I’m really good at
I sometimes would like to be one of those people that is better than almost anyone at some thing and sort of good at some things and bad at a lot of things.

Instead I am not better than almost anyone at doing anything, very good at doing some things, sort of good at doing other things, and not horrible at doing very many things at all (there are, of course, infinite things to do that I haven't tried...many of them I'd be willing to give a shot though, and probably not turn out to be too horrible at it).

Here are some examples of the above:

I'm very good at cooking. I've been doing it for many years (30 total, seven as an amateur and twenty three in some professional capacity). I'm far from the best cook in the world (evidently there are junior Master Chefs now?) but I don't get many complaints. I don't always cook the best meal you've ever had but sometimes I do cook the best meal you've ever had and even when I don't I do usually cook a meal that is more than good enough. I'm also a very good whistler.

I'm sort of good at singing and dancing. My dancing is done mostly while drunk and usually for laughs, but it's still pretty decent. I can totally feel the rhythm. My singing is done primarily while alone or for discreet audiences (for instance whoever is in the car with me or whoever is at work with me when I'm just the right amount of busy that makes me want to sing). I'm also sort of good at math.

I'm horrible at using technology to its full potential. There are so many buttons on so many things and so very many apps to install and I know not and care not what most of them do. I'm also horrible at rapping.
The first things people usually notice about me
I laugh very loudly and sometimes I swagger.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like to read fiction and lots of it and all of the time. I'm reading MadAddam right now (which so far I think is an excellent third act of an excellent trilogy) and will then probably go into book four of the Sandman Slim series (which is a little bit derivative but entertaining nonetheless). Addendum: MadAddam was very good. Inspirational maybe. I still have to finish the Sandman Slim series (they're starting to bore me a little but they're quick reads and I only have one and a half to go).

The Road Warrior. Super Troopers. Holy Motors. Also movies without so many cars.

Looking forward to: Gravity, Guardians of the Galaxy, Zero Charisma, American Hustle, Her. Time has passed. I've seen Gravity. It was not disappointing.

Cautiously optimistic about Dumb and Dumber To.

Horrified of the RoboCop remake? Maybe not so much. I saw a trailer. It didn't seem horrible. Sam Jackson, Gary Oldman, and Michael Keaton? That's a pretty compelling argument for a certain amount of quality, really.

I like to watch television on netflix. I just finished season two of Wilfred. It was excellent. Next I think I'll watch another season of Louie. I'm saving Breaking Bad for a special occasion.

Lately it's been Tune Yards, Hallelujah Chicken Run Band, and The Smiths. All time favorites for reasons of great sentimentality as well as their super awesome music: Talking Heads, Outkast, and The Pixies.

Good for listening to on my headphones while dancing through the streets: Major Lazer, TTC, Django Reinhardt.

My very favoritist favorite local act (local Arizona, not local Phoenix), Nowhere Man and a Whiskey Girl, died a couple of weeks ago. It's a very sad story. You should look it up if you're interested.

As far as food goes I'm comfortable defining myself as a gourmand. I'll try anything and if I like it I'll keep trying it over and over.
The six things I could never do without
Food. Fiction. Facts. Family. Friends. Free will. Fun. Funk. Forthrightness. F is an awesome letter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I can do to help people.
What I can do to help myself.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably I am at work. If I'm not at work then I am probably having more fun than you can imagine.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can eat a doughnut in one bite.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–43
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
If you think it might be a good idea, go ahead. Please be advised though that at this point in my life I really don't have time to do any serious dating. I'm trying to focus my energies on my family, myself, my friends, and my International Award winning pen-pal.