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  • Ages 36-58
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Last online
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6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids
English, Spanish (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I am not the type of person who easily fits into neat boxes and categories. I'm a former soldier (who is, and will always be, resolutely anti-war) and now a professional engineer and freelance writer, with left-leaning politics, science, logic, reason, and atheism driving my intellect. I consider myself a free spirit, bon vivant, and world traveler, plus I'm an ardent advocate of urban living. I love bicycling, running, and fitness, and I'm seriously into clean living with few vices except my love of alcohol and naughtiness. I live life with passion and joie de vivre and feel the best years are still ahead of me. I would sincerely love to share my life and passion with a kindred spirit.
What I’m doing with my life
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Every day I strive to improve myself and grow. I love music, the visual arts, reading, writing, bicycling, fitness, and travel. I try my best to stay positive, balanced, and open-minded. I have few prejudices and inhibitions, and I'm a liberal libertine and epicurean. I love my job and all the benefits it affords my lifestyle. I travel considerably for work and pleasure; I am as comfortable in Madrid, Paris, Guadalajara, Toronto, Seattle, Montreal, Berlin, Amsterdam, Mexico City, and Barcelona as I am in Philly.
I’m really good at
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My chosen professions: engineering and writing. Self expression and rhetoric. Problem solving. Getting around while traveling in strange new places. Coming up with silly nicknames for pets and kids. I'm really good with animals, with whom I can speak like Dr. Dolittle--I kid you not! I must warn you in advance that your dogs and cats are probably going to dig me more than you. And, yes, I'm grandiloquently verbose. Excessively? Silly me, yes.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My confidence, deft ability to articulate my thoughts, and the fact I'm unafraid to express myself even if I'm the single minority opinion in a large, even hostile group. Plus I'm built like a linebacker, tall and strongly proportioned. I was a soldier for many years and still maintain that type of bearing. I'm an Alpha male raised by women and shaped by the Army, which has molded me into a weirdly, maddening, paradoxical person, but it works with me. I cry incessantly during sad chick flicks but I’m utterly fearless in even the most hostile environs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: A Clockwork Orange by Anthony Burgess; Generation X by Douglas Copeland; Voltaire's Bastards by John Ralston Saul; The Sheltering Sky by Paul Bowles; Bonfire of the Vanities by Tom Wolfe; and so many more I wish I could list. I read every day whether it's a novel or the latest New Yorker, and I am still a big consumer of print journalism, although I get my newspapers and magazines as digital copies on my iPad nowadays.

Movies: Say Anything, Amelie, Trainspotting, Goodfellas, True Romance, Super Troopers, Rushmore, Reservoir Dogs, Men Don't Leave, Miller's Crossing, Shawshank Redemption, Princess Bride, The Sure Thing, Fargo, Interstellar, and many more!

TV Shows: Breaking Bad, Friday Night Lights, The Wire, Deadwood, Downton Abbey, Bosch, The Good Wife, Mad Men, Homeland, Big Bang Theory, Banshee, Black Sails, Shameless (UK and US versions), Sherlock (BBC series). We live now in the age of TV--most of the best writing and filmmaking is happening on the small screen.

Music: Punk and Post Punk, New Wave, Indie and Alt Rock, 70s Glam, Shoegazers, all kinds of Hispanic music (Salsa, Ranchera, Banda, et al.), Jazz, classical, electronic dance music (synth pop, techno, et al.). As Voltaire once said, all styles are good except the boring. Elvis Costello, Oasis, Japan, Tubeway Army, Prefab Sprout, Miles Davis, English Beat, Duran Duran, The Smiths, R.E.M., Cameo, Bob Marley, James Brown, Van Morrison, David Bowie, Devo, Luis Enrique, The Clash, Depeche Mode, Traffic, Tribe Called Quest, Neil Young, Roxy Music, Earth Wind & Fire, Joe Jackson, Prince, Arctic Monkeys, Joy Division, Jesus & Mary Chain, Erasure, The Specials, Arcade Fire, Mazzy Star, Killing Joke, Patti Smith, Simple Minds, Strokes, Radiohead, Smashing Pumpkins, My Bloody Valentine, Pixies, Oasis, Joni Mitchell, Massive Attack...that's the baseline. And ABBA. OMG, yes, ABBA.

Food: Mediterranean peasant food and Mexican. I prefer simple peasant dishes over haute cuisine. My dear French Mom instilled in me proletarian principles in cooking that I cling to with all my heart.

Did I mention I write? The following are links to some of my better essays and fiction:

A Nightmare on 22nd Street - A memoir of the worst year of my life

A War Story - A memoir of my experience during the 1987 USS Stark disaster

Je suis auteur français - A brief biography of my famous French Great Uncle Marc Bernard

Goodbye, Mom - A brief essay from a momma's boy after losing her

Epilogue: The Avenging Midgets and Other Heroes in My Life - The last chapter of my first novel

The Shroud of Ernie - Humorous fiction

All Hail the Murder Machines - A brief essay expressing my views on guns in our society
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sex, travel, technology, friends, booze, books (eBooks nowadays).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future of humanity. No kidding. As an engineer I consider it my imperative to improve the world one system at a time. My job is to help people work more efficiently with technology as their guide and best friend. Also, as a fiction writer I like to envision a world that is better, different, and less caustic than the current one. As a man of science I fear for our future as we continually poison our grand planet's ecosystem. Can I help reverse this? Can we all? I hope so.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Chilling at home watching movies or reading, or sometimes out drinking with friends. But I'd rather be with you. I have enough airline miles to travel to the Andromeda Galaxy and back and stay at the best hotels on my hotel points, so let's go somewhere cool on me every weekend. I speak many languages badly and I've damn near been everywhere. I am a good guide to this wonderful world.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was a momma's boy raised by a widowed mom and six older sisters, so I am extremely spoiled by the women in my life. It also makes me a master of female psychology. Please, you have been warned. And I have never been in a fight. Ever. I'd like to keep that clean sheet intact forever. I became a medic in the Army so I wouldn't have to shoot or kill anyone but could serve my country.
You should message me if
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You like to travel and explore the strange, glorious, and wonderful places you'd never imagined you'd see in your lifetime. Or you want a partner with whom you can always feel safe even in the most dangerous places out there. Or you like someone with simple tastes who is easily pleased at just about every emotional level. Or you want a big, goofy friend and lover who will tell you every day how beautiful and wonderful you are, and it never sounds phony or disingenuous. Or you just need a fearless and reliable teammate for the Zombie Apocalypse. City dwellers and bicycle fanatics, please move to the front of the queue. I'm so ready to settle down with THE ONE. Where are you?