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38 East Lansing, MI Man


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  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Not at all
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Can we ever really summarize ourselves or paint an accurate portrait of who we are? Do we have that kind of objectivity about ourselves? Can we escape self-delusion or the impulse to put a spin on ourselves in a thing like this? Does that matter? Here goes...

I know this is a bit long, but better too much description than too little, right?

I am a fairly shy and quiet person who warms up quickly as I become comfortable with a person, after which I am quite open and talkative. This is good because I enjoy good conversation on pretty much any topic, and I love it when they descend (ascend?) into silliness. I really love to laugh, and have an odd, sometimes morbid sense of humor that stems in great measure from a healthy appreciation of the absurd and a love of facetiousness and irony. (For this reason a great deal of what I say in casual conversation shouldn't be taken seriously.) I alternate between being space and fuzzy-brained and being hyper-focused. I am a loyal friend, and am always willing to listen or lend a hand.

I dearly love books, and I really couldn't live without them. I generally always have a book with me, and I am never not in the middle of reading something or another from any of a variety of genres or on a variety of subjects. Among particular favorites are history, ancient (in my mind I sometimes live more in ancient Greece and Rome than I do in the current day), medieval, and modern, and science, but I also read a lot of mysteries, legal thrillers, science fiction, literature, and way too much zombie fiction. I am interested in perhaps too many things, and am always finding something new to get fascinated about, which, of course, leads to more books!

I love the outdoors. I need time in nature, and its manifold beauties and wonders mean a great deal to me. I get antsy if I am stuck indoors away from forests and fresh air for too long. I go for hikes on local trails pretty much every weekend. I also like to combine the outdoors and books, and I am probably happiest when I can spend the day hiking a trail down which I have never gone before, and then read beside a campfire late into the night. If I ever manage to meet someone else for whom this, too, is the perfect day, I shall consider myself very lucky, indeed.

I can be more than a bit contradictory. (Like Whitman, I contain multitudes, and like Emerson, I believe that too much consistency is a foolish thing.) I am a progressive, but I am also behind the times (no cell phone or Facebook account for instance). I am very patient in most situations, but antsy in others, and I always have difficulty sitting still. (I guess it is best to say that I am good at patience so long as I am either moving or have something to occupy my mind. Boredom REALLY irks me, so it is a good thing that I find many things interesting.) I don't like driving, but I love long car trips. I am opinionated, and yet I like to try to figure out how others see the world, and in what ways other views make sense. I can be very serious, and yet I am very much a kid a heart. (Halloween is hands down, bar none my favorite holiday, and I am still a bit miffed that I am too old to go trick-or-treating... Which is not to say that this actually stops me some years...)

Unlike many, I don't find inactivity at all restful, but actually rather stressful. (When I visit home for the holidays, I tend to spend a lot of time hauling rocks and building gardens and the like.) Granted, my view of activity is rather broad, but just sitting around doing nothing is hard on me. I believe I mentioned my problems with sitting still earlier? This is a facet of the same thing.

I love animals.

I thrive on stories, and so I really enjoy movies and TV, especially of the well-written sort. Granted, I do watch and very much enjoy a lot of bad movies, because of which I also really enjoy a lot of bad movie podcasts. Sports, on the other hand, I really don't care for or about. (I don't judge others for enjoying them, but I just don't get the allure.)

I am a strongly liberal Democrat who believes that a good, strong society needs to recognize that we are all in this together, and therefore we must care for one another. I think those who don't believe that health care should be a fundamental right are a bit nuts. I believe in pragmatic idealism guided by a firm grasp of reality as it is, for it is only by knowing how things are that we can have any chance of making them what we wish they might and could be.

I have a strange compulsion to do artistic things that involve stacking rocks and, sometimes petri dishes.

I am a proud, not to mention functional, sci-fi geek, so I really don't mind discussions that go into the minutia of imaginary things. And, yes, I do quote Buffy, Babylon 5, and the like on a regular basis. This is in part a reflection of a strong inclination to understand life and its many aspects by reference to myth and story. (It also happens to be fun!)

I love exploring ruins and abandoned places. I get a charge out of finding remnants of a brick wall out in the woods. I can't quite say what it is. Perhaps it is a matter of history and time being more tangible at these places.

I am a transplanted Southerner from north Georgia. This means that I occasionally use "y'all" as a perfectly normal second person plural pronoun, often use "ma'am" and "sir" out of common courtesy, and I still greet the snow with more than a bit of childish glee born of growing up where it was a rare treat that invariably meant there was no school that day.

So that is the best I can do to give you a sense of who I am. Further communication would be required to verify how close I came to getting it right!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am an evolutionary biologist who is working as a postdoc at Michigan State, where I do evolution experiments with bacteria. I am aiming for a faculty position at a university at some point.

To that you might add trying to read as much as I can while also exploring and keeping two cats as happy as possible.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thinking too much, story-telling, listening, going off on ridiculous tangents, walking endless miles, stacking things, and I cook pretty well.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am quiet, always have a book, like clashing colors, and my socks often don't match (intentionally).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorites: Edith Hamilton's "Mythology", "To Kill a Mockingbird", "The Solitaire Mystery", "Sophie's World", "The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt", "American Gods", "I, Claudius", "A Wrinkle in Time".
I have recently been reading John Maddox Roberts' SPQR mystery series set in the late Roman Republic, "Station Eleven", "The Birth of the Pill", and "All the Truth is Out". I read a great deal - 124 books last year - so this list changes pretty rapidly... I tend to read a lot of popular science and history books. I have a thing for biographies of Supreme Court justices. I also love Terry Pratchett's Discworld series and most anything by Neil Gaiman. Hmmm... What others... I have a guilty obsession with zombie fiction, and I have greatly enjoyed Cherie Priest's (steampunk and zombies - what's not to love?) and Mira Grant's work. (Not the Parasitology series, though.)

Magazines: I currently get Time, National Geographic, Smithsonian, Microbe, Science, Ancient Warfare, and National Biology Teacher.

I love movies, and it is really hard to narrow down to absolute favorites. I think Amadeus, Glory, The Shawshank Redemption, and The Truman Show are among those that are really up there. Among recent films, I have really enjoyed Selma, Nightcrawler, The Babadook, Guardians of the Galaxy, The Lego Movie, Her, Snowpiercer, Edge of Tomorrow, and Wild.

TV Shows (Current):
Archer, Better Call Saul, Justified, The Americans, House of Cards, Mad Men, Doctor Who (I am a fan more of the old than the new, though), The Walking Dead, Mythbusters, Justified, Venture Brothers, Game of Thrones, Community, Misfits, Orange is the New Black, True Detective, Sleepy Hollow...

(Old Favorites): Buffy, Angel, Firefly, The West Wing, Quantum Leap, Lost, Breaking Bad, Babylon 5, Deep Space Nine, Star Trek (I prefer TOS and DS9 over TNG. I hated Voyager, and was kinda meh about Enterprise.)

10,000 Maniacs, Loreena McKennitt, Shawn Colvin, Florence and the Machine, Chant of various flavors, Beethoven, Mozart, Tori Amos, The Pretenders

The Nerdist, Mission Log, Planet Money, Fresh Air, 99% Invisible, Star Talk Radio, On Point, The Diane Rehm Show, Dan Carlin's Hard Core History, The History of Byzantium, The History of Rome, WTF with Marc Maron, In Our Time, Talking TV with Ryan and Ryan, Rationally Speaking, Film Sack, Radio Lab, On the Media, The Morning Stream, This American Life, Stuff You Should Know, Stuff You Missed in History Class, Slate's Political Gabfest and Amicus, We Hate Movies, How Did This Get Made?, F this Movie, Revolutions, Mission Log, The Flophouse, Serial... (I love podcasts!!!!)

Food: Rice dishes, seafood, Mexican, Chinese, Indian, pizza, and sushi. I cook a lot, too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A good pair of hiking shoes or boots
Water (My principle beverage)
An mp3 player so I can listen to podcasts.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whatever I happen to be obsessing about, what it means to be human, politics, the nature of reality, the nature of science, history in general, what I need to do at work, whatever I am reading at the moment, where I might find a good new trail, what I might see on that trail, and a bazillion other things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home, cleaning, exercising, reading, and watching TV. Not terribly exciting, I confess.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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For the longest time I wanted to be an astronaut. While I did, and still do, love astronomy and space, the real impetus for that desire, at least at first, was just because I wanted to experience zero g.

I tend to have a hard time taking compliments.

The song "Abraham, Martin, and John" makes me cry.

I once ruled a small country with an iron fist, and on a whim I required everyone to own a rabbit to boost the nation's luck.

One of those isn't true...
You should message me if
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If you think from my profile that we might have some good conversations and laughs. If you want someone to go hiking with. If you want someone to discuss movies with. If you have book suggestions. Of course, should you just want to say hi for some random reason, that, too, is fine!

As an addendum, and yet to be up-front, I really am just looking for friends right now. There are a couple of reason for this. First, friends are wonderful things to have in one's life. Second, I am not sure just now what I want in a relationship. Third, I think a significant other should be one's best friend, and I would argue that an extended period of developing a good friendship before going to something else is a good thing. (My dream, I think, is to find and fall in love with my best friend.) If this is okay, then please, by all means, get in contact.

The above said, if I had to describe the "woman of my dreams", it would be a person who is at least a bit or more of a geek and nerd, doesn't get jealous of her significant other's female friends, is progressive in her politics, emotionally open, loves to read, has diverse interests, isn't afraid of dirt or sweat, loves the outdoors and camping, enjoys the feeling of new trail beneath her boots, knows and appreciates the magic of sunsets and stars, takes childish glee in running up or down hills, and can walk for miles while discussing any topic under the sun and periodically laughing raucously at the oddest things.