Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am currently in the less glamorous stages of a plot of world
domination. Specifically, I am studying for my PhD in
horribleness... Er, communication rhetoric with a women's and
gender studies certificate. Same general concept, right? I am a shy
but charismatic, (over)-confident nerd who believes the world is
his oyster, but isn't fond of oysters and isn't entirely sure how
that metaphor got started. If you can't tell from that last bit,
I'm somewhat also quite contradictorally a neurotic. I'm a
Whedonite, a Whovian, a recovering Foucauldian, a kinkster, a gamer
(tabletop and MMO), and an incessant drinker of soda pop, or "Coke"
as they call it in these Heathen lands of the South. I hail from
the great frozen Northlands, but I say "y'all" - English needs a
second person plural.
I love languages. I'm trying to learn German,'partially for
professional reasons (the works of Jurgen Habermas and Friedrich
Nietzche are relevant to my academic work) and partially because I
love umlauts and hearing the language spoken in general. I have no
rhythm and I can't dance, but I love music, especially Scandinavian
metal and Korean girl-pop. I read fantasy and science fiction and
want to write it someday.
I'm a critical theorist, which means I like to take apart society
and see what's wrong with it. As I mentioned above, I used to swear
by the writings of Michel Foucault, but ended up dumping him for a
younger, sexier Frenchman who believes in material reality. I am
very interested in gender and am a strong believer in the rights of
transgender people. I like talking about gender theories as a whole
- I don't agree with lesbian separatism, but I can explain its
theoretical basis. I think Judith Butler is ridiculously privileged
and out of touch with the needs of gender minorities.
I love pastries way more than I should. I don't drink anymore
because booze and I hung out one night, he gave me bad advice, and
the rest is history.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm working on my PhD in communication at Texas A&M and
teaching classes along the way. The next question I always get is,
of course, "what do you want to do with that," and the answer is in
all honesty research and teach. I love being in front of a
classroom, and to do that professionally I also have to crank out
some articles. So that's what I'm doing. I do believe teachers can
change lives, even though I guess I probably don't change as many
as I would like right now - that's the drawback of teaching
mandatory courses everyone is forced to take.
I'm not a workaholic. I consistently find myself with more free
time than many of my colleagues. As you may gather from the rest of
this profile, I spend a lot of my time being generally geeky and/or
a class clown. I am actively trying to learn German, set up a
tabletop gaming group in College Station, and plan a novel for
National Novel Writing Month (NaNo).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Horribleness! It is my academic vocation, after all, so I had
better know my stuff! Outside of the academic universe, I'm good at
overthinking things, which despite its drawbacks I find to be
generally worthwhile. I am constantly "wired" to the Internet, so I
like to think of myself as a burgeoning Cyborg. I certainly don't
buy into the whole idea that smart phones are ruining society, or
that having an attention span is a good thing. ;)
Opinions are split on whether or not I'm a good writer. I like to
think that at the very least, if I have an idea I can express it.
I've written some stories that people really like, but I'm not very
good at staying focused on one idea.
My friends tell me that I am empathetic, and I really do try to
care about the problems of others. I am very good at understanding
how other people think, even if I disagree – BUT this does not mean
I choose to tolerate all disagreement! I've been called intolerant
because I actively choose to be intolerant of those who practice
intolerance. I can understand how someone would, for instance, be
an anti-LGBT bigot; but just because I understand the thought
process doesn't mean I'm okay with it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Well first off I'm probably one of maybe ten guys in Bryan/College
Station with hair this long :p That aside, I think I often come off
as nervous or scared to offend people, but I have an extremely
distinctive personality once we've talked for any length of time. I
am one of those people who is "known by reputation," both
personally and professionally - and that can be for good or for
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This section could get insanely long if I copypasta'ed all my geeky
interests, but instead, I'll try to list some things I find
"iconic" or representative of me:
HOBBIES tabletop gaming - currently a fan of the New World of
Darkness from White Wolf, and of Pathfinder. I love home brew
Writing - I have a space fantasy epic I'm planning to write for
NaNo, sort of a George R.R. Martin in Space concept.
Video games - I used to love the MASS EFFECT games (FemShep all the
way), until the ending fiasco. Right now I'm into GUILD WARS
READING, FICTION I love political fantasy, like George R.R.
Martin's SONG OF ICE AND FIRE series, or Jacqueline Carey's KUSHIEL
series, especially the second trilogy. I am a "nostalgic" fan of
the HARRY POTTER series, and would love to write fanfic about it,
but haven't actually reread the books in years.
READING, NONFICTION I read a lot for school, obviously. My biggest
interests outside of my research are in cultural history and in
MUSIC - I am obsessed with the Finnush symphonic metal band
Nightwish. Listening to them (and a few other select artists) puts
me into an almost trance-like state of spiritual fulfillment.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Smart phones - the world we live in can be insanely limiting,
especially for those of us in rural areas. Always-on Internet
access has been a huge deal for me in realizing I'm not the only
weird, dorky person in the world. I spend a lot of time on web
forums for this reason.
Supportive friends - I didn't always have these, being a dorky kid
from another, not really any more tolerant or progressive part of
America. If you are my friend, you mean a lot to me and I will
support you no matter what.
Purposeful tasks - I need something to do besides busywork -
teaching, research, hobbies. The few times I've had extended
no-pressure breaks and done something like work at Wal-mart, the
lack of pressure has been terrible.
Anti-depressants - I'm not afraid to admit that I get chemical help
for my mind. I think the world would be better off if we all
acknowledged that some brains work differently from the norm, and
didn't stigmatize this.
An obsession - this varies and can be any number of things, but I
need an obsession. Some obsessions are healthier than others.
A cause - I need something morally righteous and upstanding to
fight for. Right now, I basically see this as the culture war
against radical conservatism in Texas and the USA in general.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics. This doesn't have to be something we share though - it's
just a passion of mine.
The contradictions between my kinky, heterosexual sexuality and my
Who would win in a fight between The Doctor, Commander Shepard, and
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm pretty introverted, so if there's not a professional event I'm
obligated to attend (often there is, because graduate students
aren't real human beings who are allowed to have personal lives) or
a speech tournament to coach (I coach A&M college-level speech
and debate), I'm often recharging at home. Don't get me wrong - I
can and do recharge with friends, but bars/parties/large groups are
not for me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I once added "patriarchy fetish" to my Fetlife profile.
You should message me if
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You think that anything in this profile makes the slightest bit of
You think that the fact that I like to stay home to recharge is not
a personality problem but merely an expression of
You understand why I think high heels are sexy but also understand
why I feel guilty for thinking they are sexy.
You are as fish-out-of-water as I am in this strange world known as
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