Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Allow me to say that I am very flattered but quite shocked at the
response I've been getting. I have a lot of messages to read &
profiles to visit & it's a bit overwhelming so please forgive
me if I don't respond right away or if you get a quick
Perhaps I should also list some deal-breakers, or close to deal
breakers, as it seems that some people either don't take the time
to browse the questions or haven't answered those mandatory (for
We won't work if...
- you are not 100% in support of the gay community - across the
board! (I'm BI, hello!)
- you believe that the government has the right to legislate &
regulate a individual's personal life but not the practices of
businesses, corporations or institutions (reasonably).
- you believe that those who speak, worship, eat, dance, copulate,
or love differently than you are somehow morally defective.
- you are not in full acceptance that the God of Christianity,
Judaism, & Islam is the same God AND you are a practicing
member of one of these sects.
I'm not saying that if you're Christian/Jewish/Muslim we won't
work. I'm saying if you are AND are unable to accept that ya'll
share a god, I will quickly become frustrated with you. I like to
discuss this stuff.
- you have jealousy issues or sexual hang-ups.
- you are not willing or prepared to accept my open sexuality
&/or that of my friends (they run the gamut).
- if you want your partner to be prim & proper in the bedroom,
you've got the wrong girl.
- you are not able to communicate openly & honestly about your
feelings, like, dislikes, wants, etc.
I reserve the right to add to or amend these lists.
*Being sexually open/liberated does not mean that I am "slutty".
I'm not a party-trick nor will I do whatever you tell me to do
(unless it's been negotiated into the contract). You must be
intimate with the definition & spirit of "safe, sane, &
consensual" & I will be able to pick up on this pretty quickly
if you're not.
I'm not necessarily looking for a romantic, long-term relationship,
perhaps just spreading my wings a little. I'm looking for good
conversation, laughter & to get outside & active. I'm
itching for a little fun & maybe a little trouble.
I'm a thinker & a doer. I'm creative & industrious. If it
needs to be done, I'll figure out how to do it. If it needs to be
brought into existence, I'll figure out how to fabricate it. I
don't see the world the same way most folks do nor do I want to.
I'm strong, resilient & optimistic…in spite of myself. Although
I’m unquestionably unconventional, I like to believe it’s balanced
with a bit of pragmatism.
I have a very small family but they are an enormous presence in my
life. My daughter is the coolest chick ever & I like to
surround myself with open minds & adventurous spirits for her
benefit as well as mine. I share joint custody so she spends 50% of
her time with me so that time has got to be good!
I must be honest by admitting that I’ve navigated some difficult
emotional roads & I won’t deny my areas of messiness but for
better or worse it has shaped who I am. I am & will always be,
a work in progress seeking every opportunity for growth. I am not
pretentious or high-maintenance nor am I lazy or delusive.
I would consider myself quite confident in myself & my ideas
but perhaps less so in my ability to express them. Hey, I’m working
on it. I’m working on a lot of things!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work full time in medical education but possess an artist's soul.
I've recently discovered a love & knack for face/body painting
so I'm starting up a little side business.
I make stuff. I'll build it; nail it, sew it, hot-glue it, screw
it, cut it, or paint it. What ever it takes. I want a scroll saw
& I'd like to learn to weld. I've made some amazing Halloween
costumes. I love sculpture. I'd love to build & design my own
furniture & lighting fixtures.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making things out of stuff around the house. Really, I amaze myself
Painting things on willing folks.
I can't believe that I forgot to add 'bargain shopping'. I'm not a
big shopper but when I have to I have a unique ability to get
kick-ass deals! Really, it's a gift bestowed on me by the universe
& I shall never take it for granted.
I fancy myself an excellent problem-solver with above-average
critical thinking skills (something painfully lacking in the world
I've also been told that my parenting skills aren't bad either.
This from folks that matter.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not sure I even have a clue about this. Hmm, maybe that I have
something to say about almost everything.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: For the Time Being, Annie Dillard,
Rats: Observations on the History and Habitat of the City's Most
Unwanted Inhabitants, R. Sullivan
Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Gregory Maguire
I like to read philosophy from time to time. Heidegger's Being
& Time is in my bathroom & Nietzsche is my homie.
Movies: Taxi Driver (most Scorsese films), Coen Bros, Hedwig and
the Angry Inch (how could I forget that!)
Don't really watch TV, only what's available on Netflix, Mad Men,
Breaking Bad, The Riches.
Music: Old punk rock, classic country, Elvis Costello, Ray
Lamontagne, bluegrass, Jack Johnson, Iggy & the Stooges, Dead
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A good smooshy pillow
My dog, Chiclet (The Chic-chew)
& my Daughter (of course!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Philosophy & spirituality, my art, how to budget in a scroll
saw, new patio furniture, & time to paint everything that I
want to paint!
That there should be more formal education devoted to things like
elevator & escalator etiquette, driving, the rules associated
with calling shot-gun, & critical thinking.
If there is a named science devoted to signage & if not, there
certainly should be.
How to initiate the process of creating a "Battery Acid for the
Soul" literary series.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing & gearing up for the weekend.
I'm not opposed to the occasional Friday night out but I prefer to
get the most fun & productivity out of my Saturdays.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Parts of my life are complicated & weird.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...your willing to hear what I think. I like to share my thoughts
& ideas, & hear yours.
...you think I might be interesting & you just want to meet
someone new for conversation, adventure, or to see what happens.
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