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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 31–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
May 25
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Yes, I've written too much.
Here are the basics. If you want to know more, there's plenty.

What do I have to offer?
- loyalty
- honesty
- dependability
- humor ranging from playful to dry
- intelligent discussions on topics of interest
- a partner in crime who is up for adventures big and small (often on a whim)
- a co-cook (Food is one of Life's pleasures, and cooking together is one of my favorite activities)

How might you benefit from a relationship with me?
- I listen, and empathize
- I'm good at calming ruffled feathers, and helping the team come up with solutions when life gets bumpy.
- pleasure is an important part of life, some of life's pleasures are simple. I pay attention to making sure there's enough pleasure in the day.
- if you are trying to balance pursuing an awesome career with the desire to start a family, I don't have ego issues over being the breadwinner. (My teacher's salary isn't what I would describe as extravagant, but I do ok.)

I hope that I can find someone that I just click with; someone who will be as glad to see me as I will be to see them.

Finding that special someone is really all about that nebulous chemistry thing, which is so complex on so many levels, and difficult (if not impossible) to convey in writing. Despite that, I've tried to write enough that you get a sense of who I am, or maybe the matching system here will help us out. Seems to me the only way to see if two people truly "click" is to share a few moments talking face to face. A meet for coffee and maybe a brief stroll around the block seems ideal for that. No pressure, it's not a date. Dates are for later. Come as you are. I will.

Sometimes I crack myself up, hopefully you'll find whatever it is I'm laughing at* funny as well.
* (often it's myself)

I gravitate towards the lighter side of life. I try to make everything that I do fun. Cooking together is a great social activity. Even a trip to the grocery store can be a terrific adventure. It's all about attitude and who's aboard for the journey.

Speaking of travel, I tend to be the one "randomly" selected for security checks at airports. I guess I must look like a terrorist. Apparently I also look like a vegetarian, since I am often assumed to be one of those as well. There has got to be a connection there somewhere...

I'm naturally curious and will stop mid-stride to appreciate all sorts of things; plants, animals, people, fungi. I'm fascinated by the way water behaves, and how stuff works, so I'm constantly learning new things. Life and existence really are amazing. Maybe that's why I enjoy teaching.

I have visited animal shelters just to give the dogs someone to play with, and gone to my high school reunion and given heart-felt apologies to people for dumb stuff that I did back then. I believe that Love really can conquer just about anything, and that the relationships in our lives, and how we treat others go a long way in defining who we are.

On religion:
Organized religion doesn't seem to fit for me. Sitting quietly for a few minutes, or taking a walk in natural surroundings is as religious as I get. If bible thumping or evangelism plays a big part in your life, or you are going to try to drag me to church every week, we aren't going to be a good fit. Religion and spirituality are fascinating topics of discussion, but we can talk about that later.

My education:
Univ. of California, Santa Cruz Bachelor's in Environmental Studies, Graduate work in Architecture at University of Oregon.
(Also Permaculture Cert.)

I like to travel light. Been in Europe, Croatia, Bosnia, Serbia, Slovenia, Czech Republic, Scandinavia, Australia, NZ. I'd like to visit some other spots, mostly warmer places. The world is a wonderous place.

Favorite things:
Calvin and Hobbes still cracks me up, particularly the snowman strips.

Hot chocolate is awesome! Quiet mornings out for a walk, or sleeping in, snug in a warm bed are both high on the list.

I try to be true to myself because anything else just makes me feel terrible. So far, although I've had some great relationships, I'm here. I do what I must.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Employed as a middle school math and science teacher during the day, and working as a waiter a few nights a week. Free time gets filled with: shooting pool; juggling because it's just a ton of fun; Quizzo; Ultimate Frisbee (no it's not the thing with the dogs, although I love dogs). Lately, I've been actively trying to rekindle my musically creative side by playing guitar and taking songwriting classes online.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...being a team player
...being supportive
...pursuing spontaneous adventures
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
... probably my eyes, then my seemingly stern outer layer (a very thin layer). If they get past that they find the goofy inner core, and they can't imagine thinking of me as anything but a thoughtful, silly guy who is really good at getting serious when necessary.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like movies; the ones I'm drawn to fall into two categories:
a) Big screen fun that doesn't make me think (Avatar, Ironman, The Incredibles, etc.).
b) Good stuff that might (The Hurt Locker, The Black Book, Amelie, Waking Life, etc.)

I generally avoid truly gruesomely violent and scary (Saw, Friday the 13th, etc.)

I mostly listen to NPR, but for music it's WXPN, sometimes WRTI, and when I can manage to get up early enough, my friend's radio show early Thursday mornings on WVUD. I've found that my ears can come to appreciate all sorts of music.

iPod sample:
The Seatbelts, English Beat, The Meters, Propellerheads, Gillian Welch, Jay Farrar, Jerry Douglas, Bela Fleck, Tony Rice, Victoria Williams, Miles Davis, John Scofield, King Crimson, Taj Mahal, Uncle Tupelo, Cake, Lyle Lovett, Tom Waits, Michelle Shocked
I guess I'd say that the bulk of my CD library is a melting pot of Jazz, R&B, Funk, folk, bluegrass, blues, reggae, ska, and various international influences.

I tend to read when:
a) I'm traveling and don't have anyone to talk with.
b) I want to find out stuff
Some that I've read and enjoyed:
Douglas Adams cracks me up, DaVinci Code, Dune, Siddhartha, Harry Potter series, Ishmael, A Pattern Language.
Occasional Sci-Fi, Mystery, Adventure, Eastern Philosophy.

My library has a lot of edible and medicinal botanical references, (as well as a large section on ecological design).

...which brings me to...
Well, I have a saying... Remember: Life is Food... and I think that's true on many levels, but that's another discussion.
I like a wide variety of foods, but I really like Indian, Thai, Mexican, Middle Eastern, sushi ... well heck, I just like food and cooking, but I tend to keep it pretty healthy; good ingredients.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
There was a young man who said "Though,
It seems that I know that I know,
But what I'd like to see,
Is the 'I' that's called 'me',
When I know that I know that I know."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
When the weather is warm, I could still be on the road, driving to an Ultimate tournament.

Hang out with friends to cook together, play pool or darts, check out some live music, play music (guitar/mandolin/harmonica), see a movie.

Lately (on non-tournament weekends):
All of my friends are married / parenting, so hanging out together is difficult without booking things a month in advance. As a result, I'm usually cooking dinner, or heading out to a film solo.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It took me three tries to get that STALE - STEAL question right.
I'm a little bit dyslexic.

It didn't occur to me that my screen name could be interpreted in any way other than Homo sapiens with an XY chromosome pair.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Before you get pissed at me for my posted age range, understand that I'm still hoping to have a family. Once I've given up on that, I'll adjust my parameters accordingly. There are certainly lots of nice, intelligent, attractive women in the world over the age of forty.

if you are looking for a potential date / relationship:
- you don't smoke
- you are not married
- your pictures are accurate. (Mine are. I'm 6'1" and 170 +/- 5lbs INCLUDING any winter/holiday weight gain) I will know eventually what you look like, and it will save us a lot of time / energy if you are honest from the start. Honesty is important.

Major bonus points if you can tell the difference between you're, your, and yore; its and it's; their, they're, and there; then and than; affect vs. effect; accept vs. except... I could go on.

if you are looking for shared activities on a platonic basis:
- you want to go shoot some pool
- you like to juggle
- we share some other interest

If you've managed to get all the way down to the bottom here, thank you very much for taking the time to read what I've written. When I read your profile I will give it the same respect.