I LOVE the folks who write humorous and witty profiles. Those who manage to say things that are meaningful within the humor. I just plain enjoy them immensely. Unfortunately ... I am not that creative or witty. Sorry.
Hi. My name is Michael, which I prefer over Mike because it sounds "softer." I am quiet, shy, gentle, warm, sensitive, and affectionate. I am in no way macho and I in no way want to be. I happen to be one man who likes flowers, especially when picked by my lover while we walk together. I love children, and my favoritest job ever was in a day care center. I have a degree in Human Development from a university in Green Bay. ... I am quite liberal in my outlook (socially. politically, and religiously). My family is very important to me. On the Meyers-Briggs Personality Typology I am an INFP, and I am pleased with that. [INFP translates into the personality categories of "Introverted," "Intuative," "Feeling," and "Perceptive." Note that these terms have slightly different meanings than their daily usage counterparts.]
I do have a sense of humor but I sometimes hesitate to say I want to have "fun." "Fun" has for me the connotation of irresponsibility or recklessness. I envision a group of roudy teenagers who vandalize something and then say they were "just having 'fun'." I DO however pursue joy. Many things bring me joy. One thing which brings me joy is finding meaning in life. Something which brings me more joy is learning. I hope I never stop learning and growing - personally, socially, intellectually, and all other ways that you can imagine. That which brings me the most joy is helping others (especially children) learn. In today's economy and with Walker as govorner here in Wisconsin, and the resultant cuts in funding for education - I am some mixture of enraged and dismayed. I can't imagine ANYTHING being more important in today's technological and evolved society (even though perhaps the Midwest and Northeast Wisconsin may be a bit behind), in resolving most of our social problems than educating our children.
I am not well off financially, so if you are looking for a "sugar daddy," you need to spare yourself the time and stop here. I find joy in simple things. A picnic, a road trip to Door County, walking or hiking (I'm trying to figure out the difference (I think it's the boots you wear)) a nature trail, camping, quaint restaurants and quaint towns, Subway, Oreo McFurries, cuddling and firm warm hugs, reading (very much so), thunderstorms, family and friends, movies and plays, playing with children, playing myself (as like on some of the neat play equipment they have for children these days), feeding the geese at the Bay Beach Wildlife Sanctuary, rearranging a room and ending up with things where you started, and of course, ... being with someone I love. I tend toward routine to my peril, so I can be spontaneous if prodded at all. I don't always follow social convention. In fact - if I were to pick one word that described me - it would be unconventional (In reading many women's profiles however, I noticed that I am not the only one who can claim that. There are indeed many kinds of people "out there."). Sometimes my friends pretend they don't know me (kidding). Though I am a serious sort - I have a sense of humor, and I do know how to laugh. Joy is sacred too. And joy is “fun” at a much deeper and more meaningful level. It’s when your spirit sings. I'm not into the bar or club scene. Sometimes who I am with is as important as what we are doing.
I am a Unitarian Universalist and my faith is important to me. I feel at home after a long search for a church. We believe each individual must search for their own truth and meaning, and that each person has inherent dignity and worth (rather than being depraved from birth). I try to live by our 7 principles (uua.org). I would want us to consider our relationship to be "sacred." I believe that trust, honesty (not just telling the truth, but being who you are), and communication are crucial in a relationship. So is joy. Relationships take work but they shouldn't be ALL work or something is wrong. I would want a relationship where I could share my thoughts and feelings and where my partner would share her's with me. I need to give and receive warmth. I am looking for an eventual long term relationship(s) that involves intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy (recognizing that they are not totally independent). I need someone who has time for a relationship and is willing to make that relationship a priority. I believe that both monogamy and polyamory are beautiful when done well. They are just for different people. I’m toying with the idea that the monogamists are seeking an intimate loving partnership and polyamorists are seeking an intimate loving “network.” BOTH involve commitment. I think I could live with either in a partner. I’m not sure yet which I am. I think I would like to experiment with an "intentional community."
[A footnote here. I get a lot of rejections because I use the word "polyamory." Polyamory is definitely NOT the polygamy you may be thinking about. Not even close. It's also NOT swinging, or cheating. Not even close. There are other things it is NOT as well. I encourage you to check it out. If you need help, please ask.]
I don't smoke or drink, I'm not a Packer or Brewers fan, and I don't deer hunt. I like to watch PBS and listen to NPR. I like folk music, classical music, new age, and selected songs from most genres. Exceptions are acid rock, heavy metal, rap, and screamo. My all time favorite movie is Forest Gump (I identify with Forest being stuck on a woman like Jenny). I prefer cooperation over competition any day. In our relationship, I will not vie for power or control, and I won't accept that from you either. We are co-creators. I am allergic to cats. I am not a player and I don't do "games" (either giving or receiving). I don't mind SOME baggage (we all have some) as long as you don't swing it at me or poke me in the eye with it.
[Another footnote: About cats. Why is it that 99.99% of single women have cats (there's a joke out and about about that). Cats that they would NEVER think of giving up, not even for a relationship with a human being. Make no mistake; though I'm allergic to them, cats ARE okay. And they CAN BE important to you. But I say to myself (and sometimes to you), softly and gently and with sympathy; if all you have is a relationship with your cat ... or if you listed your cat as the first thing you couldn't do without in a question later in this profile ..."Get a relationship." ... Think about it before you judge me.]
Affection is an absolute must with me. "Physical contact" is fun. "Physical intimacy" brings joy and connectedness. I need to be connected in a working and warm relationship in order to be physically intimate. I am open to many kinds of relationships along life's path - and "casual sex" does have a place in human experience - but sex takes on a different meaning when had with someone with whom you share intimacy. For several reasons I will never be a stud - but I can still be physical. Not everyone has learned the art of making love - which assumes you have "made relationship," another art. Part of the art? Enjoying bringing your partner joy. I believe that compersion can subjugate jealousy. (That's not misspelled.) I have a desire to learn and experience Tantric sexuality.
What else do I want in a "girlfriend?" I want a woman who Cares with a capital "C". If you really Care (in the global and inclusive sense of the word), all the rest of those words that are used so often that they have lost their meaning aren't needed. I am involved in my church and in several social justice organizations. I would like someone who has a passion for SOMETHING (including but not limited to, our relationship). I have noticed after reading (literally) thousands of women's profiles on many different sites that (other than the "racy" ones where a well hung male is all that is asked for) the number one desire from women is a sense of humor. I don't quite understand that. It FAR outranks things like honesty (though that is common), or affection or compassion and a whole bunch of other things that would be more important to me. For me, honesty is important, and that is not just telling the truth - but being who you are / genuine. This can be difficult at times, for you are a different person when with different people if you do really Care with a capital "C." I would put compassion second. I have slight dependent personality tendencies that would be more comfortable with that. Other things like affectionate, and maybe bubbly would be nice as well. Being a "progressive" - the new "politically correct" word for "liberal" as I am - my partner would need to be open minded. I think I have a lot to offer the right woman - but I KNOW that there are many things about me that make most women run for their lives.
My idea of a first date might be a picnic at Maribel Caves County Park. Then laying on our backs in the grass and "finding" things in the clouds in the sky. End it with a hug (hugs are very important and you can learn lot from them). Another good choice would be lunch (in a fast food establishment for budgetary reasons) where we could talk to our hearts desire about everything from soup to nuts (how about that for a phrase you haven't heard for a while). And if everyone is on the same page - I don't rule out sex on a first date. Yet I recognize that that is NOT for everyone.
Oh ya. God. Most people would call me an atheist. And it’s true that I don’t have a person someplace that I can relate to. But I think I have a God. My current definition is “the source of my ability to nurture.” And yes, my God does have things to “say” about how I am doing sometimes. I really think I and folks like me take a bad rap when it comes to spirituality. This site calls people spiritual who believe firmly in a "God." God only SOMETIMES has anything to do with spirituality. Some extremely spiritual people (take some Buddhists for example) have no "God." Spirituality to me is closer to grokking various aspects of the human condition than believing in a God. My thoughts anyway. :)
Know that I WILL NOT compete for power or control or superiority in the relationship. And I won’t accept that from you either. We are co-creators.
If you think you might like to get to know me, contact me. If not, good luck in your search. I am a better person when I am in the right relationship(s). May we all find the loves of our lives.
P.S. #1) There is a question early on on this website as to whether “To [me], is abortion an option…” There is no greater conundrum in my life these days. These situations are SO complex. People oversimplify the alternatives ridiculously. I am on NEITHER “side” of this as an issue as it is framed today. I am neither (or perhaps both) pro-life nor pro-choice (it ain’t that simple). I respect life. I respect choice. I skipped the question. I skipped other questions where no choice comes even close to my point of view. If you need to know - please ask.
[I am thankful that they have added a space for comment for these questions. That way you can explain your real thoughts and feeling about a question.]
If you have ANY questions about how I answered other questions, or would answer them, or ANYthing else, ask away : ) .
P.S. #2) Having just begun this adventure of finding a partner(s), I have come to understand why so many profiles I read have a clause about being friends first. I feel a different kind of closeness to some of the women I have gotten to know trying to find a "mate" now that we are "just friends." It's actually nicer.
P.S. #3) I’m just a little bit kinky. I love being tied up by my partner during sex. And I like tying my partner up during sex. For men - having an orgasm while bound well is I think the closest thing to a “whole body orgasm” that women sometimes have. I particularly like to be tied up thoroughly. Some people like “light” or minimal bondage. Some don't like it at all. I would be open to TRYING other kinks with someone to see how I felt about them. No one should have to do anything that they find repulsive, unpleasant, a turn-off, of even unsatisfying.
I am warm, sensitive, and introspective.