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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–23
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 10, 2014
5′ 9″ (1.76m)
Body type
Working on Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Seeing Someone
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Dutch (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Relatively young unit of the human species. Survived 27 winters and counting. Still under warranty. Lives in the old city center of Ghent, together with my two wonderful girlfriends. Wait, were you expecting a normal profile here? Oops, sorry.

I'm... different, probably. And at the same time I can blend in when needed. But my nature is, and has always been, to be different from the pack. I also often have views that are very different from what most of society thinks. Whether that is a good or a bad thing depends entirely on your taste.

On the relationship level, I'm currently in a poly group with two girls, to whom I am both a romantic loving affectionate partner as a strict and demanding Master and life coach. Yup, we're that whips-and-chains kind of people.

Next to that, we are a warm and open group of people and we would really like to meet likeminded spirits who could be interested in this form of relationship and in joining our little family. If this sounds appealing to you, and if you're up for a new start in your life, with a very different life style from what you're probably used to, please do drop us a message!

Everything else you want to know is probably already in the parts below, but you're always free to ask extra questions, or just send an email to say hello. Don't worry, I won't bite, or at least not until you tell me I can. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
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At daytime, I'm a PhD student at Ghent Unversity, working somewhere on the boundary of mathematics and computer science, so if 0's and 1's freighten you, this is probably not a good topic to talk about. ;)

At night time, I can typically be found either home having fun with our little family, sitting behind my computer to read about various topics (psychology, sexual ethics, evolution theory...), or outside to gothic/fantasy/industrial events or activities of the local BDSM student club Kajira (, which I co-founded some years ago and which has repeatedly hit the news as the first state-funded BDSM group.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Getting a deeper understanding of how someone's mind works. For several of my friends, I am the only person noticing when things don't go well, and the only one that can get them back up. Or making them feel less guilty about things society wants us to feel guilty for.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well... the first time I saw myself in a mirror is decades ago, so I really don't remember and I think I may also have changed since then. But feel free to tell me your first impressions. :)

If I have to pick something that people tend to find characteristic for me, then it would be that I'm a very chill person who doesn't have problems with anything. I have friends with piercings, tattoos, wearing a dog collar all day, fingering herself on my toilet and admitting it a month later (lol), texting me at 2 AM asking if they can come for a visit (and usually getting a yes answer), ...
So, that should give an idea of both myself and my friends. ^^
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. My life. Society. Ethics, culture and norms. My partners. Kinky things. What you will be thinking when reading this profile. How to get interested people to actually say hi instead of reading this and being too shy to start a conversation.
You should message me if
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...your interest was sparked by reading the above and/or by comparing our match questions. Don't be shy. Saying "Hi!" doesn't hurt you.