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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18-33
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
May 9
Open relationship
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Special Diet
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English, Romanian
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Time for a regularly scheduled update? I am in a happy relationship in fact, with a fun, kinky, bi girl. As you can probably guess yes, we are in an open relationship and both flirt and play around. What I would love to find depends on who you are? So skip down to the version that matches you.

1) Casual encounters - for either me, her, or us, these are straight forward enough. No drama please, no single men or 'just the guy', and aside from that pretty much anything is on the table for discussion. From a fun quick hotel get-together to whatever form of taboo sounds interesting at the time

2) Friendship with benefits - sexuality is a big part of our lives, and we'd love to spend more time with people around whom we don't have to hide that part. People we can drag out to to the nude beech or an adult club or to see the latest movie that came out. Or playing a board game at home, topless, eating cookies.

3) Long term - also known as the 'unicorn clause' - if we were to meet the right girl and everyone clicks, then having a third may become an option. But that's not something to look for, it is something that comes out naturally as we spend time with people.

4) Whatever happens really, as long as it isn't 100% vanilla all the time and we are not all trying to be proper and pretend we are not happy sexual beings who want to share that. And no drama.

Oh, and who I am.. well, the things I seek probably sum it up. I'm relaxed, drama-free, sometimes hippy, sometimes kinky, sometimes geeky, and very much laid-back. The rest, just ask
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
My life is coming together quite nicely and I am happy for it. My biggest current hobby is photography, but in general I am constantly learning (everything), trying to help others without running myself ragged, meeting new people and settling into the west coast. At any given time I am usually trying to pick up two or three new skills, often enrolled in some degree or certificate (in addition to my job), working on my writing or art, and wanting to meet other people as excited about all the things this life can offer (but at an even comfortable pace). I have enjoyed mind alteration at times, though not as often now, want to start going to burns and dungeons again, need to take up yoga and martial arts again... It may sound like I am constantly running around, I am not. I really do everything fairly steadily, and I am not out every night. When there is something I want to do, I am there, when there is not I am quite content curling up and watching tv or reading a good (or cheap) book. Believe it or not I am an introvert, so I do need me-time to recharge my batteries.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
'Really good' is a relative term I suppose, so let me just compare myself to the average populus rather than the people I look up to in everything. I give a great deep tissue massage (trying to learn more now, and to pick up pressure-point and shiatsu), though I don't do draping. Because if I am going to work on you for ninety minutes for free, I am going to enjoy the perk of at least looking over you in the process. I am decent at photography - more specifically at photo-editing and a decent eye for framing, but I need a lot more practice. I am also fairly good with erotic-hypnosis but no, I can't make you do anything you don't want to do. No one can, in spite of what TV says. (TV also says you can take a 100x100 thumbnail and blow it up to the point where you can make out a guy's face in the reflection on the tea-cup. No, you can't) I am a decent 2D artist, digital 3D artist, can write code, poetry.. I suck at cooking though. That skill may take a while to bring back up.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am generally described as easy-going, relaxed, and a good listener. I know, none of these speak to 'throw me over a bench and ravish me' but they are what I usually hear on first impressions. It takes a lot for my temper to rise, and even then I'm good at keeping it controlled. That said, I'm not a push-over and quite a few people know they can rely on me when they need to, as long as they don't try to take advantage. Second impressions are that I tend to flirt quite a bit, with little shame but a fair amount of subtlety... most of the time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Every room in my house is dominated by bookshelves so this is hard to answer.

Stranger in a Strange Land, Kushiel's Dart, The Alchemist, Eleven Minutes, Ender's Game, Forests of the Heart, anything Neil Gaiman, Letters from Earth, Book of Secrets, Snow Crash, A Madness of Angels, The Prophet.. sooo many more.

Movies? Again, so much..

Gattaca, 300, Green Mile, Sin City, Avengers, Pursuit of Happyness, Secretary, Cyrano de Bergerac, Despicable Me..

Shows.. not sure what medium that refers to.

Music? Hmm.. I am not really an audiophile, trusting to the kindness of strangers for what to listen to next.

The Doors, David Bowie, Blue Oyster Cult, Dio, Tenacious D, Cruxshadows, LMFAO, Lords of Acid, Irish Rovers, Ke$ha, Nickelback My Darkest Days, Charles Aznavour, Les Mis, and so on.

But don't list a singer and ask me what they played or vice versa, I don't do trivia, just know a song when I hear it, and keep it bookmarked most of the time.

Food? I'm quasi-vegetarian (I consider fish to be a delicious vegetable and I'm sticking with that) but I'm not terribly picky beyond that. (And I could care less if you eat meat or not). I love sushi, pasta (but watching my carbs), Indian food, Ethiopian food, Mediterranean, Greek, Chinese, American... never had much Bristish or French but I imagine I would like that too
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My mind, my passion, my freedom, my freedom to explore, the sense of touch, new stories
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whatever I am currently studying, sexuality (no, not as in 'oh I'd like to boink that', I mean everything from its roots in ancient cultures through all the modern variations, anatomy of it, etc), the connection between all things and all fields, how things work, where I want to go to next (As in 'to get to C I am currently doing A so by this date I can practice B which will lead to..'), the people around me..
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No such thing as a typical Friday. I haven't had a chance to do too much since I got to Oregon but that is changing right now. In general on one Friday I might be playing a videogame or reading a book, on another I may be out relaxing in a coffeeshop downtown, another I might be taking up a new class or spending time with friends, another I might be seeing just how long I could keep a playmate on the edge of.. well, so on another I might be packing up to go to a burn or to catch a new movie, or visiting friends working at a strip club, and another I might just be cuddling with someone or a few someones.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Ah, so I should give a head's up on an important bit, with the preface that penetration for sexuality is over-rated. That said, you know how you meet someone and are attracted to them, have sex with them, and think 'I wonder if they are clean' and 'I wonder if they would know if they are not'... Good news, you don't have to wonder with me, I know I am not STD free. What I have is fairly common in the population (HPV and herp), but it is there. No, it doesn't get transmitted through massage or cuddling or sex toys or non-intercourse based tantra or chatting (me and my current partner are quite sexually satisfied but don't have intercourse with each other and we still haven't reached a tenth of the things we could be doing), and yes I totally understand if you'd rather not risk it (that's why I'm being up-front in telling you). And if you are still reading, the other private thing is that I cried at the end of Bridge to Terabithia. Also, I have had a lot of girls and guys say that my butt looks sexy in a kilt.
You should message me if
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* You want someone to drag you out on random adventures without running you ragged,
* You want to get good massages with a minimal (but present) amount of groping,
* You are reasonably hwp and want the same,
* You want someone who may join you for some random activity (less clubbing / bar-scene / sports, more life drawing / drum circle / kink / movie),
* You want to be with someone who you can be open with and who will honestly not judge you for your tastes / kinks / past / current job,
* You like having intelligent conversations interrupted by random groping and flirting,
* You are non-mean, non-angry, non-dramatic, non-jealous, non-judgmental ,
* And if you are bi and poly we can see how long term develops as well!