Life is not all play, but I always say life is what you make it so let's make it fun! I'm happily married with two wonderful children. For various reasons, my wife (who I met the kink through the community) is no longer able to play and isn't an active part of the kink community anymore, but she is knowledgeable and supportive of me being active and will sometimes help host parties with me or tag along to vanilla events with kinksters.
I have two limits I set with my wife, no kissing on the lips and no penetration. But I've become magical with my hands and toys, and enjoy all types of kink and bdsm play. Ultimately it comes down to being open to having fun with good people.