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IAmLLOYDDOBLER

37 M Toronto, Ontario, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 1:08pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Islam
Sign
Education
University
Job
Management
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If this says I'm online, it lies (probably). Odds are it's one of 100 browser tabs I've left open. I try to reply to everyone who messages* me, because it's just good manners. ( * A message is not just "Hey!" or "What's up?" but something that shows some thought or that you have actually read my profile). If you send a message and are awaiting a response, it's because I haven't seen it or had time to write back. (I don't copy and paste canned messages, so please don't deactivate or delete your account if I haven't replied yet.)

My name is not Lloyd Dobler. I'm much cooler than him. The name is an allusion. (That's different than an illusion.) I'm a man, not a guy.

Riding my mountain bike, running, learning new things, trying new activities, having new adventures, discovering new experiences, and sharing them -- especially here in my hometown -- are a few things I enjoy.

Since I'm infinitely curious about the world, people and the things they do, it should be no surprise that I read and watch a lot of news and non-fiction, and that I love to travel. I'm a traveller, not a tourist. My travel is usually on business rather than pure leisure or vacation. I'm working to change that. I've been to 16 countries (and counting - it would be more if I didn't have to go to the U.S. regularly) for repeat trips on 4 continents (and counting), and all but one of Canada's provinces.

I'm not impressed by wealth or material and fancy things, great beauty or power, but appreciate them, especially if you have earned them honestly through hard work. I am impressed by great intellect, passion, kindness, generosity, courage, dedication and work ethic.

Good food and good coffee are two of my favourite things (Tip: Starbucks is not good coffee). I really enjoy a leisurely late brunch, especially if the food (and company) has an unconventional or creative flair. Travel helps me discover new kinds.

I have a good time doing almost anything because the fun is in the company, not necessarily the activity (but a fun activity can't hurt). I appreciate intellect and whimsy, try not to take myself too seriously and like that quality in others. I enjoy exercise that's fun instead of a mechanized chore.

I'm pretty easy-going but not a pushover. I learned early on that most sources of conflict or stress in people's lives aren't worth getting worked up about. All that does is expend a lot of energy, usually with no change. Better to invest that energy in making things happen.

At home, I'm usually on my laptop or a tablet devouring news and information and reading about all things under the sun, moon and stars (and even among them) with the news, a movie or the Food Network running in the background.

I work a lot. I'm on a constant quest for work-life balance and succeed or fail to varying degrees. Maybe you can help me with that.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Looking for a "dare to be great" situation. That applies to the personal and professional spheres of life. Keeping my eyes open to spot you.

Working a lot. Seeking balance. Watching and listening for, divining or building the future. Squeezing in opportunities for riding my bicycle and social time. Always learning. Helping others help themselves. Being excellent. Collecting visas in my passport. Making the world a better place (I hope).

I'm not a kickboxer. "I don't sell, buy or process anything as a career. I don't sell anything bought or processed, or buy anything sold or processed, or process anything sold, bought, or processed, or repair anything sold, bought, or processed. You know, as a career, I don't do that."
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Being calm. Seeing connections. Making people feel great about themselves. Seeing the potential in people that others don't, or that they can't see in themselves, and telling them about it. Making decisions. Running meetings. Solving problems. Writing. Editing. Doing the right thing. Sleeping in. Boiling a five-minute egg in three minutes. Walking on water. Imagining three impossible things before breakfast. Being immediately liked by babies, young children and animals. Travel.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm tall (6'2").
I've been accused of being funny, as in witty. (Truthfully, I have been known to make people laugh.)
Other words that they have used to describe me: knowledgeable, perceptive, sweet, tough, intelligent, smart, gentleman.
They say I have an easy laugh.
I'm often told I put people at ease.
I'm interested in your thoughts and ideas.
I am a ninja. (Not really but that's where I stand in the pirates vs. ninjas debate. The last living generation of ninjas will disappear in a few years http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20135674 )
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This could get very long. I like entertainment that makes me think, sparks a sense of wonder or adventure, or is well-crafted (ideally, all three). I really enjoy movies and documentaries. What's below is not definitive but what comes to mind.

BOOKS
NON-FICTION
Shake Hands With the Devil (Senator Romeo Dallaire [Lt. Gen. - Ret'd.] Rwanda)
Black Code (Ronald Deibert. Digital insecurity)
A Witness to Genocide (Journalist Roy Gutman. Bosnia)
Consent of the Networked (Rebecca MacKinnon. Freedom)
FICTION / SCIENCE FICTION
Love in the Time of Cholera (Gabriel Garcia Marquez)
Life During Wartime (Lucius Shepard)
Neuromancer, Burning Chrome (William Gibson. SF)
Snow Crash (Neal Stephenson. SF)
The Shadow: Death Tower (Walter B. Gibson. 1932 pulp fiction crime)
The Tell-tale Heart and other stories anthology (Edgar Allan Poe)

MOVIES
Alien/Aliens
Beautiful Girls
Blade Runner
Bond films (maybe 3/4 of them)
Bourne trilogy
Brazil
Chinatown
The Constant Gardener
The Counselor
The Day the Earth Stood Still
Dirty Pretty Things
District 9
Drive
Gattaca
Good Night, and Good Luck
Gran Torino
Haywire
The Incredibles
La Femme Nikita
Layer Cake
Let Me In / Let the Right One In
The Limey
Lost in Translation
Memento
Metropolitan
Miller's Crossing
Nacho Libre
Network
North by Northwest
Payback
The Player
The Professional/Léon
Reservoir Dogs
Rushmore
Scott Pilgrim vs. the World
Solaris
Star Trek
Star Wars
Sunshine
Superman Returns
Thank You for Smoking
To Kill a Mockingbird
Tron/ Tron Legacy
Unbreakable
Unforgiven
Wall Street

DOCUMENTARIES
I could watch documentaries all day (and have).
The Corporation
Cry Freetown
Dirty Wars
Extraordinary Rendition
Food Inc.
Jung (War) in the Land of the Mujaheddin / Jung (Guerra) Nella Tierra Del Mujaheddin
Kill/Capture
Living Afterwards: Words of Women / Vivre Après - Paroles de femmes
Manufacturing Consent
No End in Sight
The Panama Deception
Reporter
RiP: A Remix Manifesto
Shake Hands With the Devil
Taxi to the Dark Side
The Trials of Muhammad Ali
When We Were Kings
You Don't Like the Truth

TV
News, mostly
Al Jazeera, BBC, CBC, PBS, TVO
Documentaries
Frontline
24
BSG
Breaking Bad
Fringe
Glee season 1-2
Mad Men
The Walking Dead

MUSIC
I stopped listening to new music for a few years when the only music that publishers seemed to release was inane, manufactured crap. Then it started to get good again but I find it hard to get back into discovering the good stuff even though I increasingly listen to Songza. Maybe you can help me with that. Again, this is just what comes to mind:
Alternative/indie/rock, mostly
Arkells
Audioslave
Black Keys
City and Colour
Daft Punk
Del Amitri
Foo Fighters
Lupe Fiasco
Matthew Good
Kings of Leon
Ray LaMontagne
Raphael Saadiq
Starsailor
U2

FOOD
Japanese (including sushi and sashimi), Italian, Thai, Northwest Chinese, international fusion
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
No one can live without oxygen, water, food, shelter and clothes, so let's just stipulate they're a given if you're a human being. In no particular order:

1. Hope: Sense of potential for all good things; love, success, happiness.
2. My bike: I like to ride my bicycle, I like to ride my bike... Fun, helps me exercise and stay fit. It's my happiness machine.
3. Learning: Since childhood, I have always loved to learn new things. I ask a lot of questions, wander the Web, and read whatever sparks my curiosity.
4. Eyeglasses/sunglasses: Help me see.
5. Laptop/smartphone + Internet: Integral to work and life, somewhat unfortunately.
6. You.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The present. The Future (note the capital F). Solving problems. The number of women here who say they have green eyes and its statistical improbability. Philanthropy. Crisis response. Travel for work and leisure. War and peace. Adventure. What to make for dinner. Justice. Robots. How to make people's lives better. You. Why so many women post duck face photos. Riding my bike. Learning. The zombie meme in pop culture, its implications and impact on society. Food.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Chilling out at home, recharging after the week.
Out with a friend or a few for a relaxed dinner and conversation. Like a true city-dweller, I usually socialize and celebrate on nights the suburbanites haven't invaded and made getting drunk and loutish a goal.
Not travelling.
Travelling.
So, the real answer is: There is no such thing as a typical Friday night, just potential and probabilities.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You can keep a secret, right? I am a superhero. I'm not invincible.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You won't delete your profile before I can reply.
I seem interesting.
You are interesting.
You truly think we would get along well.
You like men, not boys, confidence, not arrogance; honesty, not tactlessness -- and try to embody those positive qualities.
You are kind, warm, fun, have a sense of humour (or humor if you insist on American spelling) and adventure. You are at least a little motivated or independent, not high-maintenance or excessively needful -- and like the same in others.
You know what's good for you.
You don't take yourself too seriously and enjoy a like-minded person.

If you share even a few of these traits or aspire with me, I think we'll get along famously:

(This isn't a checklist, just qualities that might increase the chance of a successful match. Beyond instinctual or reflexive attraction to photos or what we say here, without meeting, there's no way to know if we might click).

Honest, direct, forthright, principled, responsible
Easygoing/laid-back, not lazy/apathetic
Demanding of yourself and others, not controlling
Fun, not frivolous
Assertive, not aggressive
Spontaneous, not flaky
Loyal, not blind
Patient, not indecisive
Focused not closed off
Open-minded, not wishy-washy
Dedicated, not obsessive
Selfless, not a martyr
Believe one's word is a bond and act accordingly
Help others when possible, and help them help themselves
Live in the moment but not for the moment
Give respect and expect it in return
Take risks in life rather than always playing it safe
Look beyond the obvious, question assumptions (even your own)
Willing to change and make change in light of what you see
Have a quick wit and an easy laugh but only when appropriate, and enjoy the same in others
Fearless and steadfast, especially in the face of fear
Love to learn from and about others, try and experience new things
Chart your own course rather than follow the path laid out before you
Love to travel and explore
Practice a quiet spirituality
City person, cosmopolitan and urbane but appreciate nature and a simple life
Like chocolate