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  • Ages 18–38
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My details

Last online
Jul 3
Middle Eastern, White
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
ESTJ. Yes, I'm a bit of a Vulcan, and I'm proud of it. Vulcans are consistent, rational, and deeply committed to our values and the people we care about. My family are my first priority even when they drive me up the wall, my closest friends are still mostly the ones I had in high or even middle school, and I'm on civil terms w/ most of my exes. If, in someone's eyes, that's not enough to outweigh my distaste for touchy-feely emotionality, then it's probably not in my best interest to know that person. ;)

My life story is bizarre and complicated. I came to the US as a refugee at the age of 9. I've travelled all over the world. I've had multiple jobs involving blunt objects being swung at my head, daily. I've studied and even practiced BDSM as a means of behavior modification. Now, I'm building a career in politics, although I consider myself a nihilist and an anarchist.

On that note, I'm a huge social science nerd and LOVE to talk about politics, religion, culture, human behavior, and sex. These topics are not taboo, they're interesting; and help us to understand ourselves and each other.

On the other hand - professional sports, celebrities, popular culture, and trendy technology generally don't do a thing for me.

I'm not a very outdoorsy person overall, but I LOVE hiking and camping, particularly in relatively secluded places.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
- I work full time as a community organizer (yes, we're real). I was trained for this in Social Work school, so my specialty is consensus building - finding common ground between people that seem to have none, or even dislike each other.

- I Life Coach for individuals and families on the side, using holistic intervention methods; because I really don't care for the bureaucracy and restrictions of modern licensed psychotherapy.

- I also write. A LOT. Most of it is political blogging and editorials, and some of that gets paid for and published. The rest is poetry and prose, mostly just to stay sane.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making friends out of enemies and engaging the disengaged.

Over-thinking things to the point of awkwardness, then surprising people with how much use I can get out of that analysis.

Cooking bland but delicious Russian food.

Mental math.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If they initially met me online - it's the complete LACK of a Russian accent. However, for women who find that attractive (and I know you're out there) I can turn it on, and it sounds legit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I faithfully read profiles before writing to anyone, which I know is uncommon, but even I NEVER bother w/ this section. Which leads me to assume practically no one reads it and it's just plain not worth keeping updated. If you want to know, just ask.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- My family, including a few friends I consider family
- Sunglasses
- An Android device w/ high-speed internet
- My Smith & Wesson Special Ops (that's a utility KNIFE, not a gun)
- Black clothing
- An occasional silence
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The same cliches everyone mentions - world peace, resource plentitude. etc. However, my thinking on this is about social science and organizing models.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Times of day and days of the week are thankfully meaningless to my profession, because I'm very nocturnal and dread the 9-5 grind.

However, I enjoy hookah bars, dives, coffee shops, a good local show, and any social gathering more intimate than a packed downtown club.

I'm adept at counting cards (it's nothing like the movies), so occasionally you might find me at a local casino.

I'm also perfectly fine staying in, but I do like to be doing SOMETHING - even if it's cooking a nice meal and renting a movie or playing a card or board game.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I make very elaborate yet low-budget Halloween costumes from scratch every year, and when I wear them, I find myself secretly wondering how well they might mask my identity for subversive activities.
You should message me if
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Just go for it. I find interest and intrigue in almost anyone, and I'm a lot less intimidating than I sometimes seem.