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ICFilosofer

32 M La Mesa, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 18–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 19
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Middle Eastern, White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Politics / Government
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My life motto is "stay calm and question everything". My bizarre life story includes refugee resettlement, traveling all over the world, multiple jobs involving having various blunt objects swung at my head on a daily basis, and a professional's understanding of politics. As a result, very little gets to me; so at first (like, right now?) I probably come off as intense, unpredictable, and unduly nihilistic.

Underneathe though, I'm a very loving and loyal person. My family is my first priority even when they drive me up the wall. My closest friends are still mostly the ones I had in high school or even middle school, and I'm on civil terms with most of my exes. I spent almost a decade working with people so mentally impaired most of them will never be able to say "thank you"; and I'm now transitioning to a career of serving society where the same will likely apply. Most people I meet eventually end up in one of 2 categories - the ones I'd take a bullet for, and the ones I'd let drown. So I don't apologize for taking my time to make up my mind about anyone.

Put simply, I'm not complicated. If I come off that way - it's because I don't trust you, yet.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
- I work full time as a community organizer (yes, we're real). Other terms used for this profession are public relations consultant, community developer, or (my favorite!) political mercenary. I was trained for this in Social Work school, so my specialty is consensus building - finding common ground between diverse people that seem to have none, or even dislike each other.

- I Life Coach for individuals and families on the side, using holistic intervention methods; because I really don't care for the bureaucracy and restrictions of modern licensed psychotherapy.

- I also write. A LOT. Most of it is political blogging and editorials, and some of that gets paid for and published. The rest is poetry and prose, mostly just to stay sane.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making friends out of enemies, and generally engaging the seemingly most unwilling people in conversation and community involvement.

Predicting politics and elections.

Mental math (it's a Russian thing).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If they initially met me online - it's the complete LACK of a Russian accent. However, for women who find that attractive (and I know you're out there) I can turn it on, and it sounds legit.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Family, including a few friends I consider family
- Sunglasses
- An Android device w/ high-speed internet
- My Smith & Wesson Special Ops (that's a utility KNIFE, not a gun)
- Black clothing
- An occasional silence
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The same cliches everyone mentions - world peace, resource plentitude. etc. However, my thinking on this is about social science and organizing models.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Times of day and days of the week are thankfully meaningless to my profession, because I'm very nocturnal and dread the 9-5 grind.

However, I enjoy hookah bars, dives, coffee shops, a good local show, and any social gathering more intimate than a packed downtown club.

I'm adept at counting cards (it's nothing like the movies), so occasionally you might find me at a local casino.

I'm also perfectly fine staying in, but I do like to be doing SOMETHING - even if it's cooking a nice meal and renting a movie or playing a card or board game.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I make very elaborate yet low-budget Halloween costumes from scratch every year, and when I wear them, I find myself secretly wondering how well they might mask my identity for subversive activities.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Honestly, just go for it. I find interest and intrigue in almost anyone, and I'm a lot less intimidating than I might seem.