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34 M Ingleside, IL

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Last Online
Aug 5, 2011
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
A little extra
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Likes cats

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My self-summary
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I love baseball. I mean love baseball. I spend at least an hour a day reading about the game, it's history, it's present, breaking down statistics, making predictions, or calling sportswriters/casters idiots. The Cubs and Red Sox are my teams, so I have a certain amount of trouble being around Yankees or Mets fans. White Sox fans are okay, as long as they are okay with me. Cardinals fans, I have a odd respect for, even though I hate their team. My baseball heroes are Greg Maddux, Theo Epstein, and Bill James.

I love reading. I don't go anywhere without a book, generally a work of fiction, and will steal any minute I can to read it. I also love to read news- politics, economics, social policy, education. I'll read anything, but my most trusted resources are probably The Guardian, The New York Times and Nate Silver's wonderful I loved Nate when he was at Baseball Prospectus as well.

In general I'm just an information junkie. I'm the guy that likes to have conversations near computers because if there is hard data that might be pertinent to the conversation that is not known to me or the one that I am conversing with, I want to find it now. Too much in this world is open for interpretation, or extrapolated from a data set in one way or another and therefore subject to the biases and reasoning processes of the interpreter. And debating complex issues is a worthwhile- not to mention entertaining- endeavor. So, I feel, it is a waste to spend time arguing the few things that can be roughly considered fact. Look it up and know, then debate what it means.

I love music. Love it. All kinds. I grin when people talk about the 3000 songs on their Ipod. I've got more than 100,000 songs on my hard drive. And feel that it is not nearly enough. And no I probably haven't listened to them all. But I've listened to enough of them that I have a hard time knowing what I haven't listened to. I probably have working knowledge of at least 20,000 of them. [Translation: I know 20,000 of them well enough that they may pop up on a mix cd that I make for someone, or I may play them when I am acting dj at a get together.]

I love to write. I go though periods when it's all I do. Unfortunately, I also go through periods when I don't seem to do it at all. I wish I could find the discipline to do it daily, and the creativity to make that daily writing worth reading. Someday. Soon.

I am quiet, outspoken, and thoughtful
What I’m doing with my life
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I run activities on the dementia floor of a nursing home. I've never had a job that I found more physically taxing, more intellectually challenging, or anywhere near as emotionally stimulating (at times draining). And I love it. So much so that my life long ambition to be a public school teacher is very much on hold.

Other than work, I spend every other weekend with my two children, who you'll have to get to know me a lot better before I tell you much more of them. I love them dearly, and I am fiercely protective of them. As a parent I take the example set by the people I place them around almost as seriously as I take the example I set myself.

When I'm not working or with the kids, I'd like to be reading, writing or spending time with a friend somewhere. Lately, however, it seems that between work and the commute (I work in Streamwood) I am completely drained by the time I get home, which leads to more time than I care to contemplate half-watching tv while half-mindlessly playing facebook games (a couple of baseball sims- which if I'm being completely honest with myself are a ridiculous waste of time- and Scrabble) and thinking to myself that I should be reading something or sleeping. God that sentence structure was convoluted. Oh well, I really don't feel like reworking it at the moment.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The middling self-esteem, humble, perfectionist in me would like to say not much. The realist in me might say too many things to list.
I guess there are two things thast I am proud enough of to mention-
I'm one of the best friends you could ever ask for. I listen well. I often have bits of wisdom to contribute. I'm not bad at just having a good time. And I will answer my phone at 3 am if you need me to. I'm not particularly good at making new friends, but when I make them I keep them.
I'm also great at my job. If you haven't had experience around people with dementia (most commonly caused by Alzheimer's) it's hard to describe what this means. My job is to bring joy and fulfillment into the lives of people who, by and large, can no longer find those things on their own. I'm part camp councellor, part best friend, part therapist, part detective. I find ways to make people smile even when they are completely incapable of expressing their desires. I give them some one to trust. I find ways to help them feel a sense of purpose or belonging. I help them feel safe.
I'm rambling now. Time to move on.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm pretty quiet, really. (Not that most of my friends believe it, once I am comfortable I can be quite gregarious) In general, I try not to be noticed. It's why I'm not very good at making new friends. Other than around people whom I have known for years the only circumstances which I really emerge from my shell are in class rooms (or similar open conversation settings) where I feel like I have something to contribute and with my Residents where I feel an obligation not to allow myself to be shy.
Thankfully, I am a really smart guy, with a broad knowledge base, who is an above average communicator of ideas, so it seems that people notice me in such situations. Many of my closest friends, our relationships began when they approached me about something I have said or done in one of the aforementioned settings.
That's not really an answer to the question is it?
I guess for good or bad, the first thing that people notice about me is ME*, or at least some aspect of ME. Otherwise, they don't notice me at all.

*I originally intended to come up with some psycho-babbly defining 'ME', but I really don't feel like it. My hunch is that anyone who has read this far without tiring of me already understands.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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In honor of a book that won't quite make any of the following lists, I will give you Top 5's.

1. The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint Exupery
2. About a Boy by Nick Hornby
3. Raise High the Roof Beam, Carpenters and Seymour: An Introduction by J.D. Salinger
4. Transmetropolitan by Warren Ellis
5. Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal by Christopher Moore

1. Nick Hornby
2. William Shakespeare
3. Aaron Sorkin
4. Larry McMurtry
5. Mark Twain

Honorable Mentions: Douglas Adams, Isabel Allende, Dave Barry, Brian Michael Bendis, Judy Blume, Craig Calcaterra, Michael Chabon, Richard Curtis, Charles Dickens, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, Umberto Eco, Warren Ellis, Will Eisner, William Faulkner, Tina Fey, Al Franken, Neil Gaiman, Peter Gammons, Theodor Geisel, James Goldman, William Goldman, Dashiell Hammett, Carl Hiaasen, Ernest Hemingway, O. Henry, John Irving, Bill James, Robert Jordan, Franz Kafka, Jack Kerouac, Rudyard Kipling, Adam Langer, Ring Lardner, John LeCarre, Sharon Lee, Elmore Leonard, Scott Mebus, Frank Miller, Christopher Moore, Rob Neyer Flannery O'Connor, Bryan Lee O'Malley, Philip Roth, Mike Royko, Damon Runyon, Salman Rushdie, Richard Russo, Antoine de Saint Exupery, Saki, J.D. Salinger, Dr. Seuss, John Steinbeck, Neil Stephenson, J. Michael Straczynski, Anne Tyler, Joss Whedon, Judith Viorst, Kurt Vonnegut

1. Ogden Nash
2. Seamus Heaney
3. T.S. Eliot
4. William Carlos Williams
5. Wislawa Szymborska

1. Love Actually
2. Bull Durham
3. Ferris Bueller's Day Off
4. Clerks
5. Raiders of the Lost Ark

1. The West Wing
2. Studio 60 On the Sunset Strip
3. Sports Night
4. Deadwood
5. M*A*S*H

1. Backspacer - Pearl Jam
2. Have You Fed the Fish? - Badly Drawn Boy
3. Abbey Road - The Beatles
4. Ukelele Songs - Eddie Vedder
5. Lonely Avenue - Ben Folds & Nick Hornby

(I'm mildly disturbed that 3 of my current five have been released in the last two years, but it's highly unusual for any album to embed itself in to the soundtrack of my life as thouroughly as those three have since their release...)

1. Pearl Jam
2. The Beatles
3. Badly Drawn Boy
4. Wilco
5. Johnny & the Boomers

Honorable Mentions: 10,000 Maniacs, Aesop Rock, Ryan Adams, Tori Amos, Louis Armstrong, The Baseball Project, Count Basie, The Beach Boys, Beck, Beethoven, Tony Bennett, Leonard Bernstein, Chuck Berry, Better Than Ezra, David Bowie, Bright Eyes, Garth Brooks, James Brown, Dave Brubeck, Jeff Buckley, The Buzzcocks, The Cardigans, Neko Case, Johnny Cash, Ray Charles, Eric Clapton, The Clash, Leonard Cohen, Cold War Kids, Coldplay, John Coltrane, Shawn Colvin, Ry Cooder, Sam Cooke, Elvis Costello, Counting Crows, Creedence Clearwater Revival, Crowded House, Danger Mouse, Bobby Darin, Miles Davis, Death Cab For Cutie, Mos Def, Detholz!, Ani DiFranco, Dire Straits, Dr. Dre, Dropkick Murphys, Bob Dylan, Duke Ellington, Eurythmics, Everlast, Ella Fitzgerald, The Flaming Lips, Ben Folds, The Fugees, Nelly Furtado, G. love & Special Sauce, Garbage, Mary Gauthier, Marvin Gaye, George Gershwin, Gilbert & Sullivan, Dizzy Gillespie, Philip Glass, Go Home Productions, Holly Golightly, Steve Goodman, The Grateful Dead, Green Day, Dave Grohl, Woody Guthrie, Buddy Guy, Ben Harper, Jimi Hendrix, Lauryn Hill, Hindu Love Gods, Billie Holiday, Buddy Holly, Ice Cube, Wyclef Jean, Jack Johnson, Robert Johnson, Norah Jones, Janis Joplin, Keane, The Killers, B.B. King, The Kinks, Diana Krall, k.d. lang, Leadbelly, Led Zeppelin, John Lennon, Los Lobos, Local H, Lisa Loeb, Mary Lou Lord, Nick Lowe, Aimee Mann, Bob Marley, Dave Matthews, Charles Mingus, Joni Mitchell, Moby, Modest Mouse, Thelonious Monk, Mott the Hoople, Mozart, MXPX, My Morning Jacket, The New Pornographers, Randy Newman, Nine Inch Nails, Nirvana, N.W.A., Oasis,Offspring, OutKast, John Peel, Tom Petty, Liz Phair, Pink Floyd, Iggy Pop, The Presidents of the United States of America, The Pretenders, The Raconteurs, Radiohead, Rage Against the Machine, The Ramones, The Red Hot Chili Peppers, Otis Redding, The Redwalls, Lou Reed, R.E.M., Django Rheinhardt, The Rolling Stones, Rick Rubin, Artie Shaw, Paul Simon, Nina Simone, Sly & The Family Stone, The Smashing Pumpkins, Elliott Smith, Patti Smith, Jill Sobule, Sir Georg Solti, Stephen Sondheim, Sonic Youth, Soul Asylum, Soundgarden, Bruce Springsteen, Steely Dan, Cat Stevens, Sufjan Stevens, Joss Stone, The Stranglers, Teenage Fanclub, Tenacious D, Third Eye Blind, U2, Uncle Tupelo, Urge Overklill, The Velvet Underground, Stevie Ray Vaghan, Violent Femmes, Rufus Wainwright, Tom Waits, Muddy Waters, The Weepies, The White Stripes, The Who, Dar Williams, Lucinda Williams, Wesley Willis, Brian Wilson, Stevie Wonder, Hawksley Workman, Neil Young, Warren Zevon

Music Bonus:
Five Great Soundtracks
1. The Boat That Rocked (vastly inferior U.S. title Pirate Radio
2. High Fidelity
3. Stealing Beauty
4. Pump Up the Volume
5. (tie) Almost Famous, Elizabethtown, Wonder Boys

Five Fantastic Musicals
1. Assassins
2. A Little Night Music
3. The Beastly Bombing
4. Avenue Q
5. Sweeny Todd

1. 'Make me a sandwich, Sam' at Z&H Market Cafe in Hyde Park
2. Mashed Potatoes
3. Jelly Belly's
4. 'Cheezeborger, double is better' at the Billy Goat
5. Yeungling's Black and Tan
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order...

I absolutely positively have to have a pen in my pocket. Two actually, in case the first runs out of ink or is lent out (and possibly, not returned). Paper is optional one can always find something to write on- when all else fails I have been known to use my arms. (That said I am almost never without my trusty Moleskines) Beyond the writer in me needing to be prepared should the muse strike, I'm a bit OCD when it comes to pens. I need my Pilot G-2. I really don't like using anything else. Even when handed a pen along with some form to sign/initial/whatever I cannot keep myself from reaching into my pocket.

Terrible to admit, all the more so given that I really never smoke more than five cigarettes in a day, three most days, none when my kids are around. But I really need to have tobacco and rolling papers on my person at all times. I have yet to find a less destructive form of immediate stress release... Something that maybe belongs in my 'Most private thing I'm willing to admit..." box, but hey it's true. Besides all of that, like a good beer, I just enjoy it. (Lately, I've been lazy and just had a pack of cigarettes. I prefer the hand rolled, but the last tax hike was on tobacco by volume rather than cigarettes- greatly reducing the financial incentive to rolling one's own and hence decreasing the motivation to make a trip to a tobacco shop rather than just stopping at a convenient gas station.)

A cap on my head. It's like a security blanket. If I'm hiding from the world I can pull it down over my eyes and feel insulated. As I feel more comfortable I can raise it and allow the world to trickle in. Generally of the Cubs or Red Sox persuasion, occasionally otherwise, and I'm always on the look out for a good new one.

Someone to have great conversations with. I can be a bit of a loner at times, and certainly enjoy a healthy amount of solitude, but I notice that the hardest thing for me anytime I am in a new environment and/or too wrapped up in work is the lack of stimulating conversation in my life. I need it. I need to feel challenged, inspired, forced to think... Preferably someone who cares about me and will help me up when I fall.

Baseball. In some form. Doesn't really matter if it's watching a big league game or a little league game, reading a book, or tossing a ball around. But if you told me that I could not have baseball in my life in any form I think I would die. If somehow it's entire existence was stripped from the fabric of creation, I would probably invent it.

Gotta have something to read. It was a tough call between music and reading material for the last one. And if it was a a list of the seven things that you can not live without I'd have both. Hell, I could probably live without my tobacco easier than without either one, but I don't feel like going backwards at the moment. And reading material gets the edge because I just cannot imagine living without access to new information and ideas.

And for the record, if only because they seem to be very popular on other people's lists, yes my friends, family, and especially children are more important to me than any of these things. But THEY are not THINGS, and hence are too important for this relatively silly list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to bring another smile to the face of one of my Residents.
How old my kids are getting.
How to survive to the next paycheck.
How to solve the problems of the world.
It's tempting to lie, through omission at least, but I'm human, and male, so- sex.
Why people have so much trouble thinking beyond their own immediate interests.
What to read next.
That I should get out of the house more.
Excuses not to.
Things to write.
Excuses not to.
Why I keep getting in my own way when it comes to enjoying myself...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No typical Friday, currently.
I'm off of work on both Friday and Saturday.
Sometimes this leads to eventful and exciting days. Sometimes lazy and boring.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm really shy. It doesn't seem like it to most people because if I have even the slightest degree of comfort I can and will talk your ear off. But I am nearly incapable of first contact. I just don't have that thing inside my head that tells me that anyone would be interested in talking to me. In spite of a mountain of evidence to the contrary. Probably goes a long way toward explaining why so much of my free time is spent at home reading and watching Law & Order re-runs. That and lack of money.
You should message me if
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You like a good conversation.
Your strong opinions are based on deep thought and meticulous information gathering, yet are still subject to change based on new information.
It's not necessary that I share your opinions. (Have no fear, I will respect them.)
You would like to play catch.
You feel like it and won't feel less of yourself if I don't respond. If I do not respond it is most likely because I am, by nature, really shy, not because I did not find you interesting.

If you can answer any three of the following questions correctly, I will feel Duty bound to respond to your message:

1. What author is listed twice in my honorable mention writers?
2. Who is my favorite televison writer?
3. Who is my favorite Musical composer?
4. What numbers have the Cubs retired and for whom?
5. What is the Fox's secret?
6. What book did I pay homage to with my Top 5 lists?
7. Who is Buddy Glass?
8. Frank Sinatra or Tony Bennett? What makes him better?
9. Name two reasons why this is one of my favorite numbers?
10. And two reason's why this is another one?

Answer all ten correctly and I may consider proposing.