You may notice that my age range is…vast. Honestly, I don't really care about age. If we like each other, make each other laugh, and have great sex…who cares.
I believe that the whole love-at-first-sight thing is really problematic. We are biochemically conditioned to become attached…and then when the biological piece wears off we are left to figure out what the hell we are doing and why we are doing it. I say, meet someone you like and make the conscious choice to give it a try (a romantic LLC, if you will); nurture what chemistry exists, be very intentional with your new partner…and see what happens.
I mean, it's gotta better than where love-at-first-sight got us all.
Caveat: The list below is a pretty good indicator that we aren't a good match:
1. You are REALLY into fitness activities. I have coached soccer for 30 years and I am fit, but I would rather bang my head against a wall (not really) than go on repeated long hikes in the woods. And as for running or jogging…ummmm….no. I will go for long walks in the city whilst stopping for coffee at every cafe, I will go dancing until dawn or mosh on the fringes of the pit at punk concerts; I'll even wake up at dawn and go for long walks on the beach…but fitness is not a focus for me.
2. You REALLY like material things. If you like power-shopping at The Mall and find extreme pleasure in buying lots of useless stuff, all the power to ya; but….really??? Ok, ok. No judgement intended. It's just…really???
3. You voted Republican in any of the last few national elections. Not that I am a big fan of the other side by any stretch. I think they're all self-serving egomaniacs - but I equate Republicanism with narrow-mindedness and selfishness. Perhaps unfair, but it is what it is.
4. You feel like you always have to be upbeat and positive. LIFE CAN BE ROUGH. I have two kids, one of whom has a disability. He is a sweet boy, but it can be pretty dark. If you want a guy who is falsely happy all of the time, I am not that guy.
OK…there you have it.