I feel like such a late bloomer - where have I been all this time.
Full disclosure about why I'm here: I'm not looking to dive into another big exclusive traditional relationship - just friendship is great to start out with, and I'm OK if that's where it remains. I'm not saying never - who knows what life can send your way, but I've been down the marriage and long dating relationship route for 20 years, and now it's time to explore other things and discover who I am outside of a relationship, and get ideas about what I truly want in the rest of my life. And write very long sentences. Very interesting times and overdue for me. I'm pretty independent, and I enjoy my own time, autonomy, and space. I'm enjoying being on my own and learning to stand and walk in my own shoes. Strong chemistry with you could smack me on the rear and surprise me, I'm open to that, and to You. Otherwise, friends? Travel and adventure partners? FWB? On-the-casual-side dating? I'm single, I'm open, low maintenance, financially stable, non-clingy, and able to have some adventures of different kinds. Try me - who knows?
I just don't want to waste your time or lead you on if you're looking for The Big Traditional Exclusive Relationship. That's fine, but it's just not on my list.
I was married for 11 years, divorced since 2006. Some dating since then, relationships up to 3 years. Not being in a big relationship at this point doesn't worry me much. Some things I miss about it and more that I do not. The meaning in my life isn't much defined now by being in a relationship or by seeking one. I'd like to live my own truth. Some of society's conventions are less dear to me now than in the past. Do you enjoy most the mainstream path? I won't judge that - you should have and do what you want. I just don't believe it is the only one out there. While the more traditional is often the more safe and comfortable feeling, I am finding much wonder in this new landscape I travel outside the typical. You might want more in a relationship. That's just fine. You oughta have what you want. Sound ok? Something longer-term is actually appealing; just not the traditional thing at this point. I feel most kinship with people who are ok with the idea of non-monogamy and open relationships.
You'll find me open-minded, accepting, low-maintenance, understanding, compassionate, very non-clingy, and tolerant.
I really enjoy traveling - done a decent amount of it, mostly the US, Canada, and western Europe. All of these places by bicycle (multiple months at a time), car, train. I try to do an overseas vacation trip at least once a year, sometimes involving a marathon or adventure hike in an interesting place. Plenty of places still on my go-to list: Sweden, Norway (fjords!), Iceland, NZ, Baltics, Italy, southern Utah... I enjoy revisiting past places too.
I'm quite active but I don't require that of you. It'd be nice if you were at least a little active and relatively fit. Hopefully you can at least still see your toes in the shower. While I'm fit, I'm not intense or terribly competitive. I'm so very not the heavy duty racer type who absolutely has to win at all costs. I like trail runs, bike rides, kayak paddles on lakes & Sound, road runs around in the city, weight training, indoor bouldering and climbing. I love those endorphins and the idea that I can still be moving and strong and running and active and enjoying life when I'm 90. It'd sure be nice if you could be active and enjoying it all with me when you're 90 - I'd just love that!
I like a lot of things, like reading, Gothic architecture (gothic cathedrals!), movies, NPR, stained glass (have built a few small things - want to build a 4' cathedral rose window), cats, computers, coffee shops, long walks, bike rides, ferry rides... Travel! Bakeries! I have a mile-long sweet tooth. An Italian/tex-mex/burger/sweet-potato-fries-with-bbq tooth too - I like to eat. I dress for comfort more than for style. I.e. if you prefer a 'gentleman' who wears suits or business attire a lot, then I'm not your guy.
I work part-time - by choice for a long time. Work is mobile but I am particular about where I live. I have not chosen (yet, anyway) to try and jump off the cliff and live in 10 different places in as many years. I lived in CO for 30+ years, mostly in the mtns, before relocating to the NW in '10. I think Seattle and the NW is a most interesting and beautiful area, so I'll probably be here for a good while, with my 2 cats. I fell in love with Vancouver BC after running the marathon there in '12 and '13. A fun place to visit, but boy howdy how do people afford it?
I'm own a decent-sized Lake Union houseboat in a nice end-dock location with views galore, and a small runabout for toodling around the lakes.
So color me up with lots of your crayons - not-quite-traditional and a little out of the mainstream but still pretty down to earth and trustworthy and real and solid. Kind and considerate. Thoughtful. Patient. Traditional religions aren't my thing; I'm pretty spiritual and feel more closely aligned with Buddhist ideas/practices. I like to explore my inner landscape as much as the outer one. Real conversations about real things are very appealing. Thanks so much for stopping by - maybe something here will pique your interest!