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31 M Toronto, Ontario, CA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 6
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently), LISP (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Computer science-er, science fiction lover, consumer of delicious music, intersectional feminist, barista wannabe, graceful and weird!

Some people find it useful to know that I'm an INTP and sex-positive/poly-friendly, although at this moment I'm more in it for finding emotional connection and people I can nerd out with while occasionally cuddling.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm currently a senior team lead at a software startup. I get to work with a bunch of scrappy talented coworkers and produce beautiful works of craftsmanship from my fingertips! I also shield them from sales/marketing and their schemes; not a fun job, but somebody's got to do it.

Other than I spend my days enjoying my friends, going to concerts for music that I love, going to meetups, working on side-projects, and playing with my cats <3

I tend to befriend people active in (feminism, intersectionality, harm reduction, economic justice, veganism, etc...) which inspires me to improve my own impact on the world even though I'm generally conflict-averse and driven by practicality/consensus. I'm still figuring out how to not feel bad for avoiding protests and online screaming matches while feeling good for feeling compelled to throw down on the side of good when necessary.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being a repository of random trivia.
tweeting weird things (
being a resource of cool and uncool music (
making espresso, roasting coffee beans pouring slightly misshapen latté art!)
mapping out a list of recommended coffee shops in Toronto
Not being perturbed/upset by anything unless there is a practical reason for being so.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hat, which doubles as my button-collection.
My questionably-fabulous colour coordination on outfits.
My righteous beard.
My usually-shaved head.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Frank Herbert's Dune
Ursula K. Leguinn
Alan Moore's Watchmen
Jorge Luis Borges
Gravity's Rainbow
Infinite Jest
Marcus Greil / Lester Bangs / Chuck Klosterman
Theodor Adorno
Edward Tufte
All sorts of Computer Science textbooks; some, like Land of Lisp or The Little Schemer or why_'s poignant guide to ruby, are way less dry and way more accessible than most would think!

Moving Pictures:
David Lynch
Sarah Polley
Andrei Tarkovsky
Before Sunrise
Blade Runner
Escape from New York
Repo Man
The Dark Crystal warped me heavily as a child.
I have some questionable guilty pleasures like Zardoz and Howard the Duck
Her is the first proper science fiction film I've seen in a long while (given this technology, how would the world change?)

Star Trek, particularly The Next Generation and Deep Space Nine,
Twin Peaks
The Wire
Ouran Host Club
Neon Genesis Evangelion
I'm currently surrounded by people who recommend me anime, so I'm working through a lot of canon there.
Orange is the New Black looks like something I'd enjoy if I had time for Television

*I can find historical, aesthetic and literary reasons to enjoy anything. I'll try to restrain myself.*
Boards of Canada
Brian Eno
Cibo Matto
Crystal Castles
Janelle Monáe
Manic Street Preachers
Matthew Dear
Miles Davis
Mission of Burma
Neon Indian
Sonic Youth
Sunn 0)))
Xiu Xiu

I've been playing video games since the earliest days of the home computer, so I'll just say that I like anything with a good story and interesting mechanics. If I had to pick a modern genre, I suppose I'd say I tend to favour Role Playing Games.

There is an awesome community of independent artists who use the medium of video games to explore issues of diversity, queerness, and all sorts of artistic expression! I love that people have taken games and turned it into an accessible way for people who otherwise wouldn't be into programming to get into programming as an art form!

I'm starting to get into board games, again I prefer interesting mechanics though I'll play anything with people I enjoy being around.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My laptop
Reading material
Colourful socks
Bracelets made for me by beloved friends
My TTC metropass
headphones for whatever music I'm feeling the need to listen to at the time!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what music best suits my current mood
programs I can write in beloved (and sometimes useless) languages like Common Lisp and Ruby <3
how to trick my cats into just that much more cuddling
how hostile the startup tech scene can be to non-bros, and how I can find a way to do what I love while truly making the world a better place!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In my house, reading and/or coding. There is almost always music. There are always cats.
- or -
Wandering around parts of the city that I've never explored or urban areas that I particularly enjoy.
- or -
Seeing a band because I like the music (or the venue!)
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At a café with a book or laptop.
- or -
chilling with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have male pattern baldness and I occasionally snore *puts on shades* deal with it.
You should message me if
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You're passionate (some would even say nerdy) about something.

You enjoy activities with other people, and also just hanging out working together sometimes.

You deal with conflict by thinking and talking it out; you can express your emotions clearly.

You also want to make the world a better place, but can deal with a dude who isn't particularly radical about it :)