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31 Toronto, Ontario, CA Cis Man

Cis Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 25
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently), LISP (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Computer Scientist of decent skill.
Pro-inclusivity and pro-intersectionality.
Hella introverted and socially awkward.
Barista wannabe.

Some combination of post-punk and nerd.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In my first relaxing job in Toronto, after stints in all-day/all-night startup life and product management where I realized I didn't really feel gratification from either. Slowly getting back into going to concerts, art exhibits, personal projects, stuff like that.

Hosting any friend or friends who show up in Toronto and need to crash.

Loving my cats, Penelope Taco Supreme and Special Agent Dale Cooper. No amount of dignity is spared my love for them <3
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being incredibly excited over the least useful aspects of software development
making espresso, roasting coffee beans pouring slightly misshapen latté art!
mapping out a list of recommended coffee shops in Toronto
Accidentally overconceptualizing anything in conversation :P
Not being perturbed/upset by anything unless there is a practical reason for being so.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hat, which doubles as my button-collection.
My lovingly stickered laptop.
My questionably-fabulous colour coordination on outfits.
My quite-shaven head.
I tweet often, and I tweet weird.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: Anything from indie rock to hip-hop to metal. If it's historically significant to its genre or bends rules I'll find some reason to love it. Particularly beloved genres are glitch and post-punk and drone, I love bands like Rush and Scott Walker and Matthew Dear and Fuck Buttons and King Crimson and Japandroids more than any person reasonably should. Special mention to M.I.A. and Shabazz Palaces and TheeSatisfaction for keeping things fresh.

Movies: I don't casually watch films and haven't been paying attention recently, my favourites are film studies stuff like David Lynch, Jean Luc Godard or weird fun stuff like Repo Man. But with enough prodding, I'll watch any movie at least once.

Television: Frankly, after watching Orange is the New Black and The Wire I can't get myself into most American television anymore. I am trying to relive my misspent youth by rewatching and love-mocking the entire Star Trek series. It has its own problems, but anime has more chances of engaging me with socially-driven narratives than most western media IMHO. I will get around to Portlandia and Broad City .... eventually.

Books: Programming textbooks and philosophy essays, Science Fiction classics like Ursula K. Le Guin or Octavia Butler, post-modern classics like Gravity's Rainbow or Infinite Jest. I have an incredibly soft place in my heart for Jorge Luis Borges or the Dune series. I've been amiss in not keeping up in literature.

Videogames: Grew up on 80s gems like Ultima and King's Quest and only a little smug about it! Nowadays when I have time I'm super into Mass Effect and Dragon Age and Dark Souls but I find myself being more interested in games-as-art by independent authors.

Internet: I don't do Reddit or Hackernews. I generally find out everything from Twitter geeks and feminists.
If I wind up on a Wikipedia page on human languages or historical civilizations I will be trapped for hours.

Food: I intend on eating at every bibimbap place in Toronto before I ever leave, I dream of delicious pupusa and I have recently discovered that I will never tire of Tibetan food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My laptop
Reading material
Colourful socks
Saint John's Wort
My TTC metropass
Headphones for whatever music I'm feeling the need to listen to at the time!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what music best suits my current mood
how much more esoteric computer science I could learn
how to trick my cats into just that much more cuddling
figuring out how I can help my my cis straight white-passing nerd dude demographic become kinder while still generally being afraid of conflict and people :P
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In my house, reading and/or coding. There is almost always music. There are always cats.
- or -
Wandering around parts of the city that I've never explored or urban areas that I particularly enjoy.
- or -
Seeing a band because I like the music (or the venue!)
- or -
At a café with a book or laptop.
- or -
chilling with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have social anxiety and self esteem issues and depression, though I have it under control.

I'm terrified of engaging people unsolicited, which is very self-defeating here, eh?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You find the things I find interesting interesting. And you find me interesting :P

You aren't allergic to cats.

You are cool with with someone who is generally introverted and detached, and will deal with me firmly but calmly if I accidentally screw up or something.

You like having conversations about abstract stuff, there's probably going to be lots of them (;o.o)