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I_B_A_Gentleman

47 M Wheaton, IL

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:58pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Management
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), German (Poorly), Russian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
A BIT ABOUT ME... A gentleman. Drop-dead gorgeous... wait... make that "decent looking". Can laugh at myself and still exhibit class. Will open the door for you (unless you prefer to do this yourself). Honest, open and caring. Can hold an intelligent conversation. Fun-loving (though serious when needed). House-trained. ;)
Enjoys a night out or...a quiet night by the fire. Passionate about life and the world. Romantic.

A wide array of interests including: golf, cycling, tennis, various other fitness activities, movies, the symphony or other types of concert (music, in general – both listening and playing....not a bad sax player), a night out, good food, dancing (definitely enjoy salsa dancing, though open to many forms shared with a special someone), cooking, a glass of wine, reading, travel, life-long learning and assisting companies with improving their businesses. I actually get paid to turn problems, issues and complexity into simplicity and/or elegance. Successfully doing what I get paid to do is a lot of fun and I enjoy it.

I love my two children dearly and they are wonderful. I made a commitment as a father, I like it and it's well worth it. My direct time with the children is part-time, though I still view my responsibility as a full-time commitment.

LOOKING FOR... Someone that has grown up, yet can still have fun. Sense of humor. Can laugh at herself, a situation (or me) while maintaining a sense of class and style. Intelligent. Confident. Articulate. Honest. Sincere. Kind. Responsible. Athletically inclined. Appearance matters to a degree, though the inner person is the key. Enjoys a night out or some time for just the two of us in. She appreciates her ability to be independent and appreciates the independent part of herself. Knows herself and is true to herself. Capable of being a great friend and has some friends. Can communicate and be open (great 2-way communication is one of the key attributes to a successful long-term relationship, in my opinion).

Does not sleepwalk through life. Passionate (in the typical sense and a more holistic sense regarding the world around us). Likes the concept of romance. She appreciates the "arts" in a broad sense, yet can also appreciate the "sciences". Takes time to "smell the roses" and truly appreciates that time with all five senses.

OTHER THOUGHTS: It’s pretty easy to enjoy nice things, a great bottle of wine, the symphony, dancing, quiet jazz, live alternative music that you FEEL in your chest and head, resorts, beautiful artwork, the theater, etc... I like these things too...most people do.

The question I have for you is...can you have a great time with that special person in your life after you’ve been caught in the rain near a truck-stop (or something similar)? Maybe that special person in your life is helping someone fix a tire at that truck-stop. How do you feel now? It’s not a fancy dinner... it’s the rest of the world, he's a real guy and he’s not dressed in formal attire (though he still looks pretty darn cute changing that tire!).

In my mind, it’s not about how things are going when you’re in the best of places experiencing the best of things...that’s easy. Instead, it’s about the person and the connection that the two of you have...in the real world...in a real relationship. By the way, that truck stop serves a great piece of chocolate cake.
What I’m doing with my life
Looking for a significant other, raising two wonderful children part-time, appreciating what I do for a living, appreciating the world around me, lifelong learning, savoring and much more....
I’m really good at
Savoring a moment worth savoring.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile....though if they hear me......my voice.

ok, ok.....If I'm salsa dancing or in a properly cut suit...my backside (I thank genetics and cycling).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A Man in Full by Thomas Wolfe

Too many movies to name the full list.....highly varied. The Red Violin, The Thomas Crowne Affair (remake), The Aristocrats, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, The Right Stuff, Bridge on the River Kwai, Pulp Fiction, Rear Window, The Shining, The Piano, Real Genius, Guess Who's Coming to Dinner, Body Heat, Little Miss Sunshine, The Professional, Heat, Casino Royale, Alien, Fight Club, Seven, The Bourne Identity, Chocolat.......I appreciate great cinematography, quirky humor and cerebral suspense (probably to make up for my own cerebral shortcomings.....LOL).

Music - Anything but Country & Western (and even some of this is tolerable). My tastes vary considerably. I rarely focus on the lyrics, yet beautiful (or to the point) lyrics still catch my attention. It is about 'interesting' or elegant music, terrific musicians and well written (or improvised) material played with passion. "It Might Get Loud" does a great job of capturing my appreciation for terrific guitarists throughout a generation or more (Jimmy Page, The Edge and Jack White). If you appreciate the style of all three, we might "click" better than the average couple. I still like metal of the more complex variety (i.e. Tool, Alter Bridge...dig Myles Kennedy....what a voice). Watching a performance by Yo-Yo Ma, Joshua Bell, etc.. has brought me to tears (shhhh....don't tell anyone). I was a jazz musician many years ago influenced heavily by some of the greatest artists ever to live, John Coltrane, Miles, Davis, Dizzy Gillespie, Wynton and Branford Marsalis, Pat Metheny, Sting, Ella Fitzgerald....and this list goes on. Tito Puente and Cal Tjader do it for me too, hence the fit with salsa dancing and an appreciation for Samba. Music is important to me and I am grateful to appreciate it as I do.

Italian food, French country and French bistro-style, a great steak, chocolate, a great brunch.....then getting in a good workout.
The six things I could never do without
Not in order of importance:
- Music
- My children
- The perfect bite of food with the perfect wine
- Humor (sometimes at the wrong times....is this so bad?)
- Lifelong learning (you're dead when it stops, eh?) ;)
- Enjoying what I do for a living....kind of a rush, really.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My children, work, something fun or relaxing that I have planned, my significant other......wait. I don't have one right now.
On a typical Friday night I am
Varies.....definitely appreciating the weekend, though.
Winding down?
Salsa dancing?
There isn't a typical Friday night unless I am spending it with my children and even then, we mix it up a bit.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Get to know me and find out......
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 36–47
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
You find something in my profile that strikes a chord.