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27 Brooklyn, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 12:40pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm copping out of a proper self summary and writing about what I spend the most time doing instead- I think Nick Hornby may be onto something.

When I'm not working I'm reading, or taking casual portraits of my friends or casual portraits of interesting texture. I also spend a lot of time with my girlfriend, with whom I'm in an open relationship with.

Genuinely trying to make the world a better place via better communication. Will interesting and good art and music and language help? I don't know, but I hope so, and I'm not hurting anyone whilst doing it at least. (I think)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I photograph people and clothes and people wearing clothes and also sometimes, people not wearing clothes. And things. Do you have a thing? Or a person? Want it photographed? Give it here. Lights, studio, click click clack.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Drinking coffee, making coffee, Brazillian JiuJitsu, doing dishes, Small group talking.

I really know my way around a Wacom tablet and Photoshop.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My aura, generous personality or wave of intensely titillating pheromones.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Tom Waits, Patti Smith, Radiohead, Nick Cave, Gogol Bordello, Wu-Tang Clan, EVERYTHING EXCEPT- oh wait I listen to that too.

In terms of books, I love the great American assholes- Hemingway, Bukowski, Kerouac, maybe a couple others.

Nabokav, Joyce Carole Oates, more into Tolstoy than Dostoevsky, I've read all of Murakami, and UPDATE: Just finished Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins: brb, practicing immortality, need company.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Important life items being:

Pesto and cheese
Warmth, from people.
Extremely sharp set of kitchen knives (for kitchen things)
Cast iron pans
Still image recording device(s).
Film for said still image recording device(s).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Light, aesthetics, and what makes good art.

Does this require more butter and garlic?
This probably requires more butter and garlic.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I've been staying in a lot lately, but that could be because of the harsh winter. I know I'm much more inclined to go to gallery openings and weird mixed media performance events when it doesn't involved bundling up and the coat check.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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PETA still sends me spam from that one time I may have clicked on an advert about mistreated dogs. I mean, I fucking love dogs but yo, quit that shit, yo.
You should message me if
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you like the idea of non-monogamy with someone that's a bit less hard nosed about it than Dan Savage.