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24 / M / Bisexual / Available

Denton, Texas

His Details

Last Online
Online now!
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other and laughing about it
Sign
Cancer and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Less than $20,000
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I prefer surrealism, not idealism.
I believe in simplicity. Many philosophers make good arguments in its favor.
I believe honesty is very often the best policy.

I come from a big Ohio river valley family but grew up here in Dallas. I'm an entertainment person in the area.

I fucking love thunderstorms. I wrote about gay sex on the first day of my advanced fiction workshop without really meaning to and I think it made everyone kind of uncomfortable.

I tend to get caught up in things and forget where I am, especially when it's conversation.

Silver_Berries is my hetero life mate. There's a Jake and Elwood, possibly Caucasian Harold and Hispanic Kumar thing going on there. Ben's dad, after playing Gears of War, said we were like Fenix and Dom. I don't think there's quite that much homoeroticism, but your mileage may vary. Also we don't carry guns everywhere and have better writers.

Right now I'm in a relationship with HKara and it is fabulous. We're interested in entering a poly relationship with a third person, but we're not in any hurry. We're pretty open-ended as to a man or woman, but we're always looking for friends or interesting people.

I am quietly voracious, attemptedly peaceful, and a pedant.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm auditioning and performing in small shows around Dallas and am in no hurry to leave. You can't get a decent tamale north of Oklahoma.

For an hour after elementary schools let out I become Bill Nye. I spin signs on the side of the road.

Trying not to get strung up by a mob.
I’m really good at
I use periods and semicolons in a world where capitalization is going the way of the dodo. I'm a decent cook.

I regularly feel an alarming sense of spiritual fulfillment. I am not searching for my place in the world or my soul's purpose, since they both seem well defined.

I've written some poetry. I've been told it's good.

There are heads more full of trivia than mine, but I still have a head that's full of a lot of useless crap.

Never, ever trusting me.

Being the best person I can be.

Laughing until I cry.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm told I look uncannily like a young Claude Debussy.
Although when I had the beard and not much hair I got told a lot that I looked like a chubby, unattractive Leonardo DiCaprio.

I drink a lot of water. There are a lot of very simple and important health benefits to staying properly hydrated. My old scoutmaster used to say 'Why is there no peace in the middle east? Because they're all dehydrated!'

I find riding the bus to be very soothing. I try and take it whenever I can.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Romance of the Three Kingdoms stands as the greatest book ever written. Its unrivaled dramatic pacing, epic scope and illustration of grand cause and effect cannot be matched by any other work by any other culture in history. The best description I ever heard of Gormenghast was 'Dickens on acid'. I love that book very, very much.

I've read my share of pop sci-fi. While I've never played its founding tabletop wargame, I'm secretly a huge fan of the Warhammer 40k setting. It's probably some sort of guy thing, but usually when I try and sum it up I refer to the fact that it has robot space zombies.
Say it with me. Ro-bot Space Zom-bies.
Awesome.

I've been listening to a lot of Philip Glass and Red Hot Chili Peppers; Radiohead and Black Crowes; Flaming Lips and Neil Young, The Band and Daniel Lanois. I love dub and reggae, bluegrass and Americana, ambient and house. I occasionally get in the mood for some old-school punk, metal, or hip-hop on my Pandora.

Did you know that those chilling opening chords during the bar scene of A Clockwork Orange are from Henry Purcell's Music for the Death of Queen Mary? The more you know.

Have I mentioned Wilco rock and roll up and down the block?

You can't beat Daft Punk! They're programmed to rock perfectly!

I read the Tao of Pooh awhile ago. It made a lot of good sense.

I love chopsocky movies. They have this great boundless enthusiasm limited by lacking budget, talent and skill.

Oh, hi The Room!

Priscilla, Queen of the Desert is a delight. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is beautifully in touch with the nature of relationships. American Psycho is pure manic brilliance, and you are free to shame me for having not yet read the novel.

I like to pretend Spider-Man 3 never happened. There is a deep allegory for addiction that the symbiote casts Peter into and, finding a more willing host in Eddie Brock as Venom, confronts him with the quick and easy path. It is one of my single favorite pieces of comic mythos. The film sort of dicked that.

Star Hood Trek is a vulgar, cheesy, piece of YouTube trash that has to be the funniest thing this side of the internet. It has the single best reading of the Enterprise monologue ever.

I love indie games. Dwarf Fortress is a thousand times more captivating than whatever's the hot seller of the day.

I do a lot of vegan cooking for Heather. There's something about taking pork, beef, chicken, dairy, and eggs away that suddenly makes me turn to the things that actually create flavor in food. What comes out of these restrictions is alarmingly delicious.

Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy. Ben Franklin didn't actually say it, but that doesn't make it less true.

Do you know what's awesome? Street art is awesome. Neo-graffiti. It occupies that rebellious spirit rock and roll used to. It's like punk rock in visual form. Why are you still here? Go look at Wooster Collective.

These are not 'Things I'm Really Good At' so they don't go in that section. But I enjoy both go and ping-pong. You must be willing to accept these parts of me for us to relate as human beings.

OH MY GOD KORRA IS THE BEST THING EVER.
The six things I could never do without
Tea, walks through green places, finding that spot on someone that makes them melt, having a designated 'my' mug and bowl for filthy roommates to not touch ever, KERA's live audio stream, a pinch of change in my pocket so I don't have to get 97 cents back.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What to have for lunch. It's a quiet and enjoyable mental exercise.

My face and how to make it twist in different awful freakish ways.

How I would play a role that I'm watching

What is the next right action.

New recipes. Cooking is love.

Who is this human being I am speaking to and how can I be very nice to them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Being incredibly, unbelievably boring.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a big softie at heart. I tend to tear up at happy endings when I see movies and plays.

In this same vein I'm also a shameless cat person. My baby boys are my babies, there are two of them.
Their destructive, selfish, capricious habits are good practice for having kids somewhere down the line, I should imagine.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
You're the yang to my yin.

You are a woman who loves beer, and I will conquer the world.

You're okay with a dadaist.

You are intelligent, spiritual and pointless.

Also, you should message me if you see I'm online past 4:00 GMT. Tell me to go to bed.