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Icanc4

45 M San Mateo, CA

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I heard recently that men will receive more responses if they use the words "yoga", "surfing" and "whom" in their profiles, so I'll try to fit those in somewhere.

Remember how we used to do it? My grandparents met at 16 when his best friend started dating her best friend. My parents met when he was injured on his job and she was the receptionist for the physical therapist he was sent to. My brother met his wife back when he was a paramedic and was called when her great-aunt took a fall. Thank God none of them were relying on internet personals or they probably never would have met each other! My gosh, what if one of them didn't have good pictures on their profile?! I think I need to get out more... or perhaps get injured in some way.

I am looking for someone with whom I can do surfing and yoga.

I moved back here not long ago after 17 years working in L.A. and I’m so glad to be back where I grew up (though I do sometimes get the urge to move back). Witty, easy-going and a lot of fun to be with... I can get a laugh out of anybody. I've always been an ardent writer and tend to churn out long letters, emails and very long profile essays. Humor me and try to make it all the way through. I promise there's nothing about rock climbing.

To be honest, I don't do yoga or surf.

I've worked in TV for over twenty years and have lots of neat stories if you're interested in that kinda thing. I've written for a daytime soap, researched questions for a sports trivia game show and sneaked fast food to the kids from Boy Meets World. In a not so indirect way, with a little foresight, I could have saved the world from ever having to know the Kardashians. I'm a member of the Television Academy and an Emmy voter (don't blame me, I voted for Louie!), which floods me with a giant stack of screener DVDs to watch every year, which of course I don't. And yes, I do realize that NONE of this is impressive to the 96% of women on OKC who don't own or watch television.

Last year I was interviewed by Morley Safer on 60 Minutes (see the pictures!) about my great-grandfather and my dream is to one day make a documentary about the cool stuff he did in turn of the century San Francisco. SF history runs deep in my family.

Okay, seriously, if you're one of those "I'm too evolved to own a TV" types that seem to have taken over around here, I am SO not your guy. For the record, "I don't watch TV" is a little dated as a smug humblebrag. First of all, there are some amazingly smart well-made programs on these days as there always have been. Second, watching television shows on Netflix counts as watching television -- I'm not sure how so many people convinced themselves otherwise. Third, "not owning a TV" doesn't amount to much if you can't go two minutes without checking your phone (which is, in my opinion, a far more contemptible modern vice).

The goal for this new year definitely is to get out, do more and see more. Everything from taking more walks to seeing more movies, shows and ballgames to taking more trips and maybe even a vacation or two. It's been a while and I used to do it so much more often. It would be great to have some company. There are so many things I pass up on because I don't have someone to tag along. Sadly, all my married friends are getting harder and harder to pin down. I'm thinking of doing the AIDS bike ride from SF to LA this June. I've always wanted to do that.

I love baseball and can't wait for the season to start. I'm tossing around the idea of a multi-city ballpark tour this summer. I enjoy live music in small places, barbecued hamburgers and trying to figure out what's going on. Vegas is always a fun getaway and I'm comped anytime at the Las Vegas Hilton. I've always had a thing for staying in hotels (I think it's because they make the bed for me) and love trying new restaurants. Why are there no good delis up here?! I enjoy cooking - I'm no gourmet but I can make just about anything I want.

I'm a major nightowl -- I'm always up too late for my own good. If the knowledge is trivial and useless I probably know it but am definitely capable of having an intelligent conversation. I have a lot of good friends in L.A. and I try to get down there often.
What I’m doing with my life
Still working on rearranging and redecorating my old/new/old house, which will probably take the rest of my life. Just finished the floors and got some cool new couches, now it's paint time. I'm not good at this. Are there any interior decorators on here?!

Looking for parts of this profile I can cut out. Yes, I know it's long. Keep reading!!

Volunteering at the library a couple of hours a week sorting books just for the heck of it. It's a great way to catch a book that I may never have noticed otherwise. Plus, they waive all my fines! ;)

I recently, unexpectedly, became an adoptive parent to a very nice cat. I never thought in a million years I would ever have a cat but her company has really grown on me. I like having her here. The house feels much less empty and she seems to like me. She's also an amazing bug hunter/killer.
I’m really good at
Safe-cracking, guessing the winners of reality shows before they are revealed, putting out my trash & recycling every Thursday and moving papers from one side of my desk to the other.

Honestly, I'm a great listener, think I give pretty good advice and care a lot about the people in my life. I'm the one who always remembers birthdays and anniversaries. If you happen to casually mention a candy bar you really like, you can bet the next time you come by I'll have one for you. I like doing that kinda thing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have great hair. I walk straight. I'm very tall if I stand on a box or crate. I don't look a thing like Denzel Washington.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't know why there's so much animosity towards this section. This one's my favorite! This is where you really see what you have in common.

Books... I always have a book going (Thanks, Mom!). Mostly biographies and non-fiction. I love reading about history, especially early American. I buy more books than I can read. Just finished binge reading the last 200 or so pages of Under the Dome -- Really good book! I subscribe to way too many magazines and am a lifelong newspaper subscriber. Yup, I still get the Chronicle delivered every day -- the actual paper newspaper.

Movies... The original Star Wars movies (especially Empire), Godfathers I & II, most of the John Hughes movies, Shawshank, Almost Famous, 40 year-old Virgin, Kill Bill, Apollo 13, The Natural, Major League, No Country For Old Men, Fools Rush In, A Bronx Tale, so many others. Have a warm spot in my heart for old silent films (though I still haven't seen The Artist). There's a cool little silent movie theater in Fremont I'd love to take you to.

Shows... I love documentaries and news specials, Deadliest Catch, Big Bang Theory, Childrens Hospital (funniest 15 minutes on TV), Blue Bloods, Community, Californication (best half hour on TV), Survivor and anything about Hoarding (it makes me want to clean out a drawer immediately). I still miss West Wing, ER and NYPD Blue. New faves are Nashville, Louie, and Wilfred. I really like the show Episodes on Showtime -- it's the most accurate depiction I've ever seen of how TV really works behind the scenes.

Music... 80's New Wave is still my favorite. Stones, Petty, Stan Ridgway. Jackshit is my favorite live small band (It's Elvis Costello's band playing Rockabilly in character - they're awesome! They only perform at one small club in L.A. and I go down to see them every time they play), Chili Peppers, the real Van Halen and of course -- Springsteen! Saw him three times on the most recent tour! I wish I could follow him on the road like people used to follow The Dead.

Food... I'm up for pretty much anything except seafood and sushi. (That's not a typo -- I don't like sushi) Give me a cheeseburger and fries (or onion rings) anytime and I'm a happy boy. I dug bacon before it was cool. I love comfort food (I do a great brisket and meatloaf -- sorry, vegans), Mexican, Italian, Chinese and Round Table Pizza! I'm always on the lookout for a good BBQ joint. Breakfast is typically my favorite meal of the day and I traditionally cook myself a nice big breakfast on Sunday mornings. How do you like your eggs?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...why I can't seem to find anyone local on here I have much in common with. I'm afraid I've been out of town too long and not sure I'm "Progressive" enough to relate to most Bay Area women these days. I'm not a foodie, bisexual, poly-curious, a world traveler, a yogi, a vegan, a wine taster, a sushi eater, a Buddhist, a marathoner (half or whole), a volunteer for Habitat for Humanity nor do I listen to NPR, get my news from Jon Stewart or read everything by David Sedaris -- all of which seem to be prerequisites for living and dating here.

...the extraordinary number of women on here who say they can't live without their passport. Is everyone a world traveler all of a sudden or are they just trying to sound adventurous? They sure are proud of all the countries they've been to and the next great trip to Columbia and Madagascar they have planned for next month. I think it's wonderful that you lived in Nepal for two years, backpacked through Indonesia (twice!), swam the waters off the Greek islands and been known to jump on a plane to Tanzania at a moment's notice, but whatever happened to cooking something at home together or ordering a pizza, popping in a DVD and simply enjoying each other's company? There's so much to be said for just hanging out! I DO like to travel but I'm not planning on rappelling down the Great Wall of China or swimming the Panama Canal any time soon. And best of luck to the woman who I just read is preparing for her upcoming trip to Mt. Everest. BTW, everything I listed here I have read on someone's profile.

...why some people are convinced an Australian research facility wants to use their profile in some kind of study.

...why the ones who say they "love meeting new people" seem to never write back.

...if everyone at some point calls this site "OK Stupid".

...if I've been wrong all these years about the Sun being bigger than the Earth.

...why so many women on here are lawyers ...why so many women on here are 5'7" ...and when exactly did everybody become a Buddhist?

What happens if I write to someone from my Quiver (RIP)? Why does Quickmatch just give me the same three women over and over again? How can someone I've never met be my enemy? Should I avoid the women with a high enemy number? Do they want to destroy me?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
None of these are really all that private... just random stuff to admit...

As of last December my four oldest closest friends are all married. I know people much older than me get married all the time, but to be honest I sometimes get scared that it's just not in the cards for me. The thought of going through life alone is not very appealing. Funny, it just occurred to me... none of them met their wives on a dating website.

I don't own a "smart" phone and can barely tolerate texting on my dumb one. (Yes, I will text you... but I would rather hear your voice). I have never skyped nor ever sent a tweet. I still have a landline telephone. I just learned what a Vine video is and I'm still not sure what a meme is. I'm thankful I wasn't in school with today's social media. I refuse to watch a television program or movie on a computer when I have a perfectly good giant screen TV. Look, I don't hate new technology... I just don't like how people have become so distracted by it.

This two-minute video sums up precisely why I hate smart phones -- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OINa46HeWg8

As far as family, sadly my immediate relatives are all gone now. Sometimes I feel it would be nice to be with someone in a similar situation so it could be "just us" but then again sometimes I think it would be fun to meet someone with a large intact family because I would love to be part of that.

A lot of people on here are talking about Burning Man. To be honest, I don't intend on ever going to Burning Man. I would rather sit through an all-day tax seminar than go to Burning Man.

My absolute least favorite word is "shoulda." I wish I didn't find myself using it so often.

I find women with no tattoos at all to be fascinating. Nowadays there's more of a story behind why you don't have any as opposed to what "that one" means.

I don't get up early on Saturday morning to bike ride to the farmers' market for fresh produce. More accurately I drive over to Safeway on Saturday afternoon to pick up some lettuce.

Sometimes I yearn for the days when we didn't have the internet and all the gizmos we can't seem to live without today. Things seemed less complicated then. Dating sure was easier when we met people out in the real world like I wrote about up top. If anyone thinks this is a better way I think they're nuts.

In my spare time I don't rock-climb/bungee-jump/sky-dive/hang-glide/zip-line/base-jump/moon-walk/pole-vault/X-Game or Tough Mud. I just don't believe people do all the things they SAY they do on here. Are we really out discovering new hiking trails every weekend? Really?!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 36–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You live close by. You have a warm smile. You're a Giants fan and will go to games with me. When you tell someone "I'll call you later" you actually DO IT!! Reliability is huge with me. You think the most important part of a relationship is being together and being there for each other, not what you do or where you go. Your days of using "party" as a verb are behind you and you're looking for something a little more grown-up. You like holding hands at a movie. You like holding hands anytime!

Your profile doesn't contain the phrase "partner in crime," some derivative of "work hard/play hard" or have one of those pictures of you skydiving taken by the guy skydiving in front of you (you know the picture I mean). You happen to know who wrote the jingle "Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there" (it's a favorite trivia question). You don't bash anyone's politics in your profile. You have a great sense of humor and like to have fun but take pride in being at least semi-responsible.

Jim Norton makes you laugh uncontrollably.

You truly intend to eventually meet in person and you actually have free time to spend together. Nothing wrong at all with being busy but if it's Tuesday and the next time you can get together is "maybe sometime next week", forget it.

If I view you and I don't write, that doesn't necessarily mean I'm not interested... it probably means I didn't think YOU would be interested in me. If you've read all this and liked something you saw, PLEASE WRITE! Don't be nervous that I'll be put off thinking you are too assertive and guys don't like women who write first. Seriously, what is that about? Personally I admire women who have the guts to step up first.

I told you I like to write! Thanks for reading this far... If you did, treat yourself to a cookie.